TainanTom wrote:Thank everyone for your support. As it is, everything is still going very well between us. We have fun everyday and I hope I'm taking good care of her. I have my hopes and I haven't asked if she still wants the divorce but conversations with future plans show that she is not wavering on the issue. I told her we should remain married until the end of 2012 when my work contract expires as it will give me time to get my affairs in order, for us to save some money, to give us a chance (my reason). I don't really have to finish my contract though. I'm going to play it low key until then. Maybe things won't work out but in the end up I'm sure I'll land on my feet.
Inside I've started to get really anxious??? I'm not really sure what it is. I though I had all my life issues settled: house, wife, car, job, lifestyle, and kid coming and now all those things are up in the air. I feel like I have to do something or make a decision and yet I don't know what the options are. I just have this feeling of dread inside my chest. I don't let her see this, I just try to be the best man I can be in front of her. Any help figuring this out. I need to focus my mental energy somewhere or I will go crazy. Do I focus more on the relationship (I don't want to pressure her), relax, prepare for moving to another country (or is that giving up too soon)?
Do you want an alternative to Western therapy? In Tainan? Send me a PM. It might not be your cup of tea, but there again, it might. The one thing that is crying out is that you need help. There are things that you cannot do by yourself. You just can't. It doesn't make you any less of a man. There ARE people out there who can help. Whether your wife accompanies you or not, you can still get some anchor-points, at least for your own anxiety (and make NO mistake! Anxiety can take YEARS off your life if you let it). And then, you go from there. Step by step.