It's very weird. I do feel helpless, frustrated, sad, but not angry. We both know its bad to drag it out. Don't know how it happened but we both didn't want any unpleasantries and we somehow separated our relationship and our marriage into separate things. I would like to save both so much. I keep on thinking I want to leave after the paperwork. I've dragged on relationships before and I know a nice clean break is best. I don't know if its even possible to be saved and I feel guilty for thinking otherwise even though its the most likely scenario. I hope I'm being reasonable and I'm not being pessimistic about this. I am trying. I posted this not because I want to save the marriage, which is the thing I want the most in life but because I knew it has gotten past that point.
As for trying to work on her feelings and figure everything out, there is a huge solid wall on all information concerning that. I am sure she doesn't know what's happening but that hasn't stopped her from drawing a line in the sand. Suicidal, hope not. On medication for depression for many years, yes. Does she want to change medication, no. Does she want to talk about it, no. Does she want to wait until all the stressful things are finished and we are relaxed to talk about divorce, no. Does she want to talk to anyone, no. Has she solved many problems in her life by running away, yes. Is it extremely frustrating to have my marriage end and not be able to talk about it, yes. Basically, she wants this and its not negotiable.