Divorce but assets in her name

[tommy525]

People can be hard to understand sometimes (sometimes all the time). Sorry for your hardships . Lets hope it all works out well. But what is unusual is that she still wants romantic relations with you. Maybe you can delve deeper into what this all means?

Most people that want a divorce wouldnt want anything to do with the other. This isnt the case here so maybe your marriage can be saved and the problems worked out.

One thing to watch out for, is she suicidal?

Her wanting a divorce and yet wanting relations with you is a red flag.

[TainanTom]

It's very weird. I do feel helpless, frustrated, sad, but not angry. We both know its bad to drag it out. Don't know how it happened but we both didn't want any unpleasantries and we somehow separated our relationship and our marriage into separate things. I would like to save both so much. I keep on thinking I want to leave after the paperwork. I've dragged on relationships before and I know a nice clean break is best. I don't know if its even possible to be saved and I feel guilty for thinking otherwise even though its the most likely scenario. I hope I'm being reasonable and I'm not being pessimistic about this. I am trying. I posted this not because I want to save the marriage, which is the thing I want the most in life but because I knew it has gotten past that point.

As for trying to work on her feelings and figure everything out, there is a huge solid wall on all information concerning that. I am sure she doesn't know what's happening but that hasn't stopped her from drawing a line in the sand. Suicidal, hope not. On medication for depression for many years, yes. Does she want to change medication, no. Does she want to talk about it, no. Does she want to wait until all the stressful things are finished and we are relaxed to talk about divorce, no. Does she want to talk to anyone, no. Has she solved many problems in her life by running away, yes. Is it extremely frustrating to have my marriage end and not be able to talk about it, yes. Basically, she wants this and its not negotiable.

[dan2006]

I have no useful comments since I am not married but I want to say how sorry I am to hear about this situation.

I hope you feel better soon. Everything gets better with time, even times when I thought I would never let something go, time fixed a lot of it.

I do hope everything works out between you.

[tommy525]

I lived together with my gf for two years in TAiwan and we fought constantly so we tried marriage. No duh it didnt last beyond the second year. But even so we waited another two years for the dust to settle (after i moved out) to sign on the dotted line.

Sign on the line if it comes to that but give it some time !

If you have to leave, leave. Dont let her get in debt to pay you off. Let her have a chance to find her way again. Support her where you can. And if that means leave her alone for awhile, then do that.

If it goes that way, fly back and sign on the dotted line. IT only takes a few mins to sign.

It seems to be danged if you do and danged if you don't. And there really seems no easy solution. But I think give you two a break from each other and let clearer heads come together again after a spell and work out whats best.

AT least thats what I think I would do .