itakitez wrote:1. All guys have secret bank accounts
Actually most wives have a secret bank account as it was often the case in the past that if they got divorced they would lose everything.
You can't get a divorce easily if the other party refuses. If one party refuses, no divorce, no new life to start over and someone harping on you every minute of every day. If you both agree, you can get the papers for it at a stationary store and work it all out amicably.
The "or" as you pointed out is the ugly part. The "or" is expect to lose everything because you most likely will. I don't know too many folks that are comfortable with losing everything. The other party in the marriage can resort to blackmail, threats, and other embarrassing moments such as screaming, crying and threatening to kill herself at your job. They will also try to ruin your reputation and get you in trouble with the law.
So do be aware that if you are contemplating a divorce, your life will be turned upside down unless your spouse agrees.
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