Maybe it's just something you do here when you want to be shitty to your spouse?
This is common enough here that you see or hear about it every year and sometimes multiple times in a year.divea wrote:I s this really that common elsewhere too? or is it Taiwanese?? To lock your spouse out or hold the child ransom?? I know it won't be tolerated in India. If a woman/guy locks herself in with an infant and/or disappears they are the guilty ones for isolating the child. This SEEMS to be the modus operandi for divorce here.
Here is my question to the locked ot spouses, one fella says he knew it was coming, what about the others??? Do you have an inkling?? have you been told to stay away???(not that that is right).
Another thing, aren't kids supposed to be off limits during a fight. ANd if they are going through a tumultuous relationship, don't you establish a boundary which says, you will not mess with the child. Again, I may sound like I am prying but I do seek to understand how a relationship can deteriorate to such a level assuming there is no abuse involved. Or is it pure immaturity and selfishness on the part of the lockee (the person who is in) to deny the child the love of the other parent?????
How does the Taiwanese family react to this, do they support this locking yourself in histrionics thingy????? again, is it de rigeur here???
Tomas wrote:Divorce is rough. It necessitates massive change, and people often feel powerless as they go through the process. The less emotionally disciplined among them start doing very strange things in an effort to get some security, i.e. attacking their spouse in order to feel powerful. It isn't pretty, it isn't a sign of a strong character, but it happens.
I suppose the good thing about a divorce where one person goes berserk is that the person who stays normal feels more sure of the life changes brought by divorce, and less bothered by the loss of the marriage.
What housecat's ex-husband did is unconscionable in any culture. What a creep.
In a Taiwanese fight, nothing and I mean nothing is off limits.
The other thing is that if you don't want a divorce, then just don't agree to it as it is hard to get a divorce otherwise. Most people just want to be done with it at the time though and end the fighting. They then run into the very real fact that unless you spend a lot of money or kill your former spouse in a way that doesn't get you caught, the Taiwanese partner can make it impossible for you to ever see your child again. The police, courts and judges will all pass you off and tell you to negotiate.
We've seen this time and again how the Taiwanese authorities have manipulated this. The Brazilian boy, the American who had a court order for his child and then was refused exit with her and later lost in Taiwan, etc.
This is common enough here that you see or hear about it every year and sometimes multiple times in a year.
divea wrote:Its a cultural thing then. Kinda accepted. Histrionics.I just hope folks get to see their kids and have normalcy restored.
So what if you are not a foreigner?? That is how does this locking yourself in or kidnapping the kid go down in Taiwanese marriages? Or are these histrionics reserved for foreign spouses with little legal wriggle room?
Okami wrote: I'd basically counsel anyone that is going to or contemplating a divorce to either negotiate it out, and expect to loose everything up to and including your self respect.
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