Custody Child : Who can help to find a female attorney in Ka

[maoman]

It's a discussion board, so people will have their say, and their fun. The Internet is a lousy place for overly-sensitive types. If all replies were just straightforward answers said in all earnestness, where would the fun be? That being said, it's also important to make sure that the signal to noise ratio isn't too lopsided. And in a while, most of this conversation will also get temped, leaving only the useful stuff.

FWIW, I also wondered why the lawyer had to be female and a mother. It's a strange requirement. I'd hire an effective gay bachelor male lawyer over a less competent female mother-lawyer any day.

[Buttercup]

I guess she's just frustrated with being patronised and dismissed and is looking for someone she can empathise with and who can empathise with her, as she thinks this kind of bond will help, more than simply money. She's also not a native English speaker, and maybe doesn't speak much Chinese either (I don't know) and is looking to appeal to someone who can help her in a hurry. She's looking for someone who will 'take pity' on her, to a certain extent. Someone who has been through something similar may be more willing to take this on.

You see this in teaching. Some adults don't want to 'bond'; they call their teacher an 'instructor' and want a very business-like relationship. Others want a teacher they can establish similarities with because they think it enhances their learning. Maybe it does?

It may seem dumb to you, but there's evidence of this kind of bias in every part of the service end of things. It seems pretty understandable in what must be a difficult time. Me, I'd pretty much always choose to deal with a single, 30-something British female, if a choice were there.

I'd hire an effective gay bachelor male lawyer over a less competent female mother-lawyer any day.

But wouldn't you hire an effective lawyer you had something in common with over an effective lawyer you had nothing in common with, especially over child custody? (Sorry, I mean 'you' as a general example)

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I guess she's just frustrated with being patronised and dismissed and is looking for someone she can empathise with, as she thinks this kind of bond will help, more than simply money.

You see this in teaching. Some adults don't want to 'bond'; they call their teacher an 'instructor' and want a very business-like relationship. Others want a teacher they can establish similarities with because they think it enhances their learning. Maybe it does?

It may seem dumb to you, but there's evidence of this kind of bias in every part of the service end of things. It seems pretty understandable in what must be a difficult time. Me, I'd pretty much always choose to deal with a single, 30-something British female, if a choice were there.

I'd hire an effective gay bachelor male lawyer over a less competent female mother-lawyer any day.

But wouldn't you hire an effective lawyer you had something in common with over an effective lawyer you had nothing in common with, especially over child custody? (Sorry, I mean 'you' as a general example)

Good point Buttercup.

The woman in question is actually a Filipina. Too right she needs all the empathy and help she can get, given how South East Asian "foreign brides" are viewed and treated in Taiwan.

[Buttercup]

Don't know anyone, though.

[housecat]

I don't know how helpful this will be because I don't have the direct information any more, but there is an organization in Kaohsiung that helps with women's issues, specifically issues with leaving abusive men, I think, but they would have information about good lawyers. I don't know if any are female, but there are a lot of women working with women who understand women's issues. I don't have their information, but I know that they have the information at Kaohsiung AIT. The op not being a native English speaker, she's not likely and American, but I bet they would still help out with giving the contact information for that organization, if she asked. Kaohsiung AIT is very different from Taipei AIT in that they actually try to be helpful and even friendly. This is the number for Kaohsiung AIT: TEL: +886 (07) 238-7744

[sandman]

But wouldn't you hire an effective lawyer you had something in common with over an effective lawyer you had nothing in common with, especially over child custody? (Sorry, I mean 'you' as a general example)

Personally I'd hire the best goddamn lawyer I could find. If that happened to be male, female, empathetic, sympathetic, outright antagonistic, green, from outer space wouldn't really concern me. Handling my case in a court. That would be my ONLY concern. But what do I know? I'm a man.