divea wrote:OP, I understand where you are coming from. Yes you should be proud of being Jewish, and take the hit (even if it is a percieved thingy) and be open about yur religion and all that. Yes you should be open about it, just I like I should be 10 kgs lighter, or people should be open about their sexuality.
Don't worry about what you 'should' do. We all keep different things under wraps at different times.
Think about it, sort it out for your kids, because they sense your secrecy about it and that would confuse them. A religion and its rituals or culture is followed because you believe and belong.
Having said that, do not worry about the Muslims in your neighbourhood, not everyone is armed or has the inclination to do so. There are enough infidels roaming around them eating pork, wearing mini skirts, drinking alcohol etc. If they are migrant workers, then they are too busy getting 2 square meals a day to bother with your religion.
IMHO religious fanaticism is the prerogative of the rich (and politicians).
I like your post. You bring up some very good points that in a perfect world would be easy to follow.
What you said about my children is something to consider.
I honestly do worry about the possible Muslims in my neighborhood. They wander the streets in groups of 5 to ten. They don't mix with locals as many other waiguoren do. If they want to cross the street for instance. They won't wait They just cross and kind of passively surround the car, touch it and walk on. Hard to describe. I'm becoming a racist.... There is also a look in the eye that scares me.
Not all Muslims are bad. I can say that. But in my limited experience I was exposed to some traumatic situations I would rather not attract attention to myself. I love my religion. I do not want to kill for it or die for it.
Here's a story. As a recent college graduate I did my stint on an Ulpan program at a Kibbutz in Israel. Included was a field trip to Jerusalem. A classmate and I decided to stay at a Yeshiva (a Jewish religious school) for the Sabbath. so we could experience the whole kit and caboodle of observing it. It was actually a nice experience. No phone no lights or motor car...
We were walking around the Old City, which looks like a shopping mall or theme park by the way, enjoying our sabbath and wearing our beanies like good little Jews when we turned a corner. There in front of us was a guy on the ground. Kneeling over him was a soldier trying to give CPR. There was a strange sound like air coming from a balloon. There also was a police officer yelling at us to keep it moving.
It was surreal, I told you it looked like a theme park. Manicured shrubbery, clean walls, clean sidewalk a sunny day. It could have been Disney. I looked at my friend. He looked at me and we took off our beanies.
When we got back to our Kibbutz the following day, we thought we had an adventure to tell. We arrived at our "host family's" house that evening we found them depressed. They told us how a good friend of the family was murdered the day before. The person who was murdered was a Peace Now Activist and and it made no sense why he was killed. The person who killed him was a Muslim who befriended him for a long time. It was a set up.
Then they said to us "How was your weekend?" We said OK. and nothing further on that subject.