agent007 wrote:Was thinking of hiring PI but heard many stories of scams.Also very costly.My lawyer told me there have been cases where slander was established even when the truth was told.This is the law :A person who points out or disseminates a fact which will injure the reputation of another for purpose that it be communicated to the pubic commits the offense of slander and shall be sentenced to imprisonment for not more than one year, short-term imprisonment, or a fine of not more than five hundred yuan.
A person who by circulating a writing or drawing commits an offense specified in the preceding paragraph shall be sentenced to imprisonment for not more than two years, short-term imprisonment, or a fine of not more than one thousand yuan.
A person who can prove the truth of the defamatory fact shall not be punished for the offense of defamation unless the fact concerns private life and is of no public concern.
I don't understand the relevance about it being private life and public concern!
Adultery is clearly private life and of no public concern. So even disseminating the fact of this affair to his friends and colleagues would, yes, be slander under this very strange law.
Have you confronted your wife about the affair? I would think you have to deal with your wife first, not the other guy. Even if the affair stops, you haven't confronted this very painful break between you, and the marriage cannot be saved without confronting that fact directly.