is it slander?

[Teddoman]

Guys you watch a lot of T.V. Like a lot. This man here is flesh and blood, he is angry, humiliated and wants the other guy to be humiliated but that's not going to make him feel better.

I'm not trying to read into his state of mind. I'm just taking the thread at face value. The guy says he's trying to save his marriage, and he is thinking through calmly and rationally the steps to do so. No idea if it's the right move, but can't blame him for trying to save his marriage.

[Battery9]

I'm sorry to say, but no, not all people cheat. Ok, so you get this guy out of the way, then what...keep her from ever seeing anyone ever again? Does she want to save the marriage or does she want to be with him?

[bigduke6]

In my honest opinion, when you wife decides that another hotdog tastes better and is more filling, the marriage is over.

End of story.

You cannot save something which is already dead.

[agent007]

Was thinking of hiring PI but heard many stories of scams.Also very costly.My lawyer told me there have been cases where slander was established even when the truth was told.This is the law :A person who points out or disseminates a fact which will injure the reputation of another for purpose that it be communicated to the pubic commits the offense of slander and shall be sentenced to imprisonment for not more than one year, short-term imprisonment, or a fine of not more than five hundred yuan.
A person who by circulating a writing or drawing commits an offense specified in the preceding paragraph shall be sentenced to imprisonment for not more than two years, short-term imprisonment, or a fine of not more than one thousand yuan.
A person who can prove the truth of the defamatory fact shall not be punished for the offense of defamation unless the fact concerns private life and is of no public concern.
I don't understand the relevance about it being private life and public concern!

[agent007]

Can't you sue the guy in Taiwan? Happens all the time where one partner cheats, and then the person who the partner cheated with gets sued by the person that was cheated on.

Yes,I could file adultery charge against the man.

[Teddoman]

Was thinking of hiring PI but heard many stories of scams.Also very costly.My lawyer told me there have been cases where slander was established even when the truth was told.This is the law :A person who points out or disseminates a fact which will injure the reputation of another for purpose that it be communicated to the pubic commits the offense of slander and shall be sentenced to imprisonment for not more than one year, short-term imprisonment, or a fine of not more than five hundred yuan.
A person who by circulating a writing or drawing commits an offense specified in the preceding paragraph shall be sentenced to imprisonment for not more than two years, short-term imprisonment, or a fine of not more than one thousand yuan.
A person who can prove the truth of the defamatory fact shall not be punished for the offense of defamation unless the fact concerns private life and is of no public concern.
I don't understand the relevance about it being private life and public concern!

Adultery is clearly private life and of no public concern. So even disseminating the fact of this affair to his friends and colleagues would, yes, be slander under this very strange law.

Have you confronted your wife about the affair? I would think you have to deal with your wife first, not the other guy. Even if the affair stops, you haven't confronted this very painful break between you, and the marriage cannot be saved without confronting that fact directly.

[zender]

Honey,

I know you've been cheating on me, and it breaks my heart.

But I understand that nobody is perfect, and I still love you.

I'm willing to forgive you because I want to save this marriage.

Do you want to save this marriage?

[Rotalsnart]

Adultery is clearly private life and of no public concern.

From a legal perspective, in a country where adultery is a civil rather than criminal offense, adultery is private life, as you say. But in a country where adultery is still on the books as a criminal offense (as it is in Taiwan), then by its legal nature, adultery is categorically a matter of public concern.

[Confuzius]

I don't understand the relevance about it being private life and public concern!

Maybe you should follow her...catch them doing the nasty, take photos and videos, then upload them to facebook and tag them.

Makes total sense according to this statement of yours.

[Teddoman]

Adultery is clearly private life and of no public concern.

From a legal perspective, in a country where adultery is a civil rather than criminal offense, adultery is private life, as you say. But in a country where adultery is still on the books as a criminal offense (as it is in Taiwan), then by its legal nature, adultery is categorically a matter of public concern.

Let's just say I wouldn't risk entangling myself with the various criminal or civil statutes on the basis of that possible defense without really knowing the law better.