is it slander?

[agent007]

Is it considered slander if I write a letter and expose to the employer ,co workers and friends of the man who is having an affair with my wife?A lawyer told me according to TW laws,slander could still be established even though you are telling the truth.

[Confuzius]

Is it considered slander if I write a letter and expose to the employer ,co workers and friends of the man who is having an affair with my wife?A lawyer told me according to TW laws,slander could still be established even though you are telling the truth.

Even if its not slander, its a pretty little bitchy thing to do.

Why air out your dirty laundry in public? All it does is make you look like less of a man (even 'more' less than simply not being able to keep a woman, but then going and sniping about it).

So either way, BAD idea.

[Confuzius]

And I guess your story has developed...and you have changed your mind since this last post:

Watch out for scams. Do you plan on using the evidence for divorce? if so, why not just save your money and divorce her?

Keeping my options open.Divorce or prosecute the guy.

Make the guy pay for...oh gosh. That's coooooold.

I just want him out of the picture.I may still want to save the marriage.

I know nothing of your case, but blaming this guy for everything will only leave you with a false sense of security if you do try and patch things up with your wife, and in all likelihood your wife will go do the same thing again.

It takes two to tango, and unless this guy is coercing your wife into relations, she is best case scenario 50% into this tryst.


Its time to step back and examine this as we see it. You are on a messageboard anonymously asking for PI info so you can spy on your wife in the hopes that you can fuck over her lover. Your anger is in the wrong direction, if you truly want to save your marriage, talk to your wife, scapegoating the other guy won't solve very much.

I am not blaming EVERYTHING on the guy but he is part of the problem.There is no anger here.I just simply want to gather evidence .I am not doing this in hopes of "fucking over her lover" even though that is justifiable.

Pretty much sounds like you're trying to fuck the guy over. https://forumosa.com/taiwan/viewtopic.php?f=29&t=108452&start=10

[agent007]

This is called exposure and its purpose is to end the affair and it's recommended by a very successful clinical psychologist who has helped many couples recovered their marriage.If I wanted to fxxk over the guy,there are many other ways of achieving that !So how does that make me look less of a man?What could I do to make me look more of a man then?Just walk away and let him have her?Thats what you would do, right?

[tango42]

Can't you sue the guy in Taiwan? Happens all the time where one partner cheats, and then the person who the partner cheated with gets sued by the person that was cheated on.

[divea]

OP, you're hurting, but the time, effort and money you'll put in hurting another man is not worth it. Spend that effort and focus in healing yourself, the outcome will be much better!

[Battery9]

Maybe he is a good employer and they won't care. You can get into an awful lot of trouble with name slandering. It sucks to know that your wife cheated on you, and I think you should end the marriage because how could you ever feel save with her again?

there was a foreign guy whose wife was having an affair with a local. He wrote to a newspaper about it, and we got a distraught message that he had to leave the island on short notice. I don't know if the guy is a local, but I'd be more afraid of what may happen if I write on paper that this person is doing it. Rather tell everyone you know. Gossip gets around fast.

[TheGingerMan]

I advise the OP to get photo or video evidence of the crime. Holding such is the trump card here, and one could arrange some nice vengeance.
That is all.
May the force be with you!

[Teddoman]

Video or photos speak louder than slander. Even if your goal is to embarass the dude into stopping the affair, let the video or photos do the talking.

I notice you didn't mention exposing him to his family. I wonder if you should consider this too. Family politics is always complicated, and you might find his parents or siblings become your allies, if they know what he is up to. That is, if they don't chase you off the property first.

[divea]

Video or photos speak louder than slander. Even if your goal is to embarass the dude into stopping the affair, let the video or photos do the talking.

I notice you didn't mention exposing him to his family. I wonder if you should consider this too. Family politics is always complicated, and you might find his parents or siblings become your allies, if they know what he is up to. That is, if they don't chase you off the property first.

Guys you watch a lot of T.V. Like a lot. This man here is flesh and blood, he is angry, humiliated and wants the other guy to be humiliated but that's not going to make him feel better. You want him to take photos and vids of his wife with the other guy.......and ruin every chance of the marriage he is so badly hurting for. Big deal. People cheat. Women cheat. Sometimes men forgive and the marriage works sometimes men do not forgive. But really? Taking pics How do you propose he do that?? Hide under their bed or pay someone else.