So "Fuck you" is now okay in certain forums?

[Confuzius]

I've been insulted, given insults and told people to fuck off here...all without any warnings being issued to anyone.

I have also received one warning, for telling someone they were "acting toolish".

Different forums with different mods. Depends on the mod and probably depends on what the mod had for breakfast, if s/he got any nookie recently, or more likely how busy the mod was that day.

F.com is free. Getting too mad over it is like getting all irate over facebook changing its layout every few months.

[Mucha Man]

...F.com is free.

That's a classic newbie assumption but it's not true. It's not free. There are rules and regulations regarding behavior and these apply across all forums. All mods are expected to enforce the rules. Inconsistency in the enforcement of rules has been a sire spot with the community for a decade but has gotten near out of control in recent months.

In any case, people are frequently suspended and even banned for life for being disruptive. But this is usually not made public so your other point is also inaccurate.

[Confuzius]

...F.com is free.

That's a classic newbie assumption but it's not true. It's not free. There are rules and regulations regarding behavior and these apply across all forums and. All mods are expected to enforce the rules.

People are frequently suspended and even banned for life for being disruptive. But this is usually not made public.

I didn't mean free like in "home of the free" I meant free of charge (i.e. you don't gotto pay no money for nuttin).

Which it is, unless this is just a newbie assumption and soon I am going to receive a large bill in the mail?

[tommy525]

Maoman was stricter . A "fuck you" would likely have resulted in a suspension. I was warned once for saying someone was being foolish.

Maybe instead of saying Fuck You, say **** you. The point will have been taken, or use (blank) you ! Again , point taken.

[bismarck]

Seems that way. Heimoshu recently launched into this assault on me:

Sure MM apologized but his apology is as full of shit as him and FM.. Do you think that MM's apology should stand. I think it is typical bigoted BS like that that gets to me....Now some pompous prick on a forum wants to score some points pointing that out and then offer a halfhearted apology. Fuck off.

"Fuck you and you dumbass opinions about South Africans and people who claim to be Taiwanese".

And Bizmark, the mod, leaves it sit and apparently even tags it with a like (he eventually cut the original post but still has left the content on his quote and has even defended the post).

I should have done something about that, and it was my mistake to let it sit. Perhaps I also took your post that initiated that personally, and as a mod, I guess I shouldn't have. I have to work on weekends, and that thread was driving me up the bloody wall, not to mention consuming time I would rather have spent doing other things.
I've asked and been granted leave from LiT, mostly because of time constraints, but also because I often take insults against SA and Taiwan very personally and find that forum very difficult to mod.

/explanation

Apologies that I didn't nip it in the bud. The fault is mine, although a pm or reporting the post would definitely have prompted a sterner reaction from me.

I must say, it reminds me of when my ex-gf would complain about what an asshole her father was (and he was). But when I dared to mention to her that I thought he was an asshole, I got an earful from her.

People often criticize things that are their own, but don't take kindly to outsiders leveling the same criticisms. Odd human phenomenon, but there you have it.

Chris, on this you are very correct. Saffas are an odd lot that way. We joke and complain about a lot of things, including race that would probably offend most, if not all, North Americans, Europeans and maybe even Aussies. But we don't take kindly to outsiders doing the same, much the same as your example above.

Anyway, apologies all round for not handling this better.

[Mucha Man]

Very gracious of you, Biz. Just to let you know, I would have sent a pm in most cases, but seeing that you had "approved" of the comment, and also on the next page mentioned that you never suspended anyone, I thought there was no point.

Again, I do apologize for any misconceptions about my comment regarding South Africans leaving their homeland. It was not meant in any way to insult, but was simply a statement of why it seems a number of your countrymen have taken up citizenship here. In retrospect yes I can see why you and others got annoyed at the statement (for reasons Chris mentioned), even if it is a point you often make yourselves.

[bismarck]

Very gracious of you, Biz. Just to let you know, I would have sent a pm in most cases, but seeing that you had "approved" of the comment, and also on the next page mentioned that you never suspended anyone, I thought there was no point.

Again, I do apologize for any misconceptions about my comment regarding South Africans leaving their homeland. It was not meant in any way to insult, but was simply a statement of why it seems a number of your countrymen have taken up citizenship here. In retrospect yes I can see why you and others got annoyed at the statement (for reasons Chris mentioned), even if it is a point you often make yourselves.

No worries, mate. I was having a kak day.