Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby baberenglish » 02 May 2012, 13:26

He is a class killer. If nothing is done he will drop out or the other classmates will. Plain and Simple.
You work in a buxiban, not a clinic, this isn't your problem.
He's on medication-parents/caregivers have been notified and are just trying to socialize him. They think that the more interaction he has the better he will get.
"Just put him in any class, as long as he is around other kids."
It starts at home, but in reality there are people that just don't give a flying f$ck.
It's like bringing your nutter dog to a dog park to socialize it; it either works or it doesn't. This takes time.
Drag him out kicking and screaming? Other kids know you mean business but he won't give a shit.
I have had students like that, if there are 'problems' then I kindly tell the parents there are issues and if improvement isn't shown then they will be asked to leave. In your situation that won't work.
Unfortunately you won't get much support in this situation from your coworkers.
The environment you are in doesn't allow you to act like Mother Teresa.
Experiment with the seating plan....every 'trouble' kid reacts a bit different.
This student probably won't leave before other students do first. SO....to save your class.
1) Keep him motivated.He can change his behavior with you, if you work at it. You have to be prepared. You have mentioned that extra material seems to keep him busy. If his English is strong compared to other classmates, then to me that means he is bored with the class material. He won't be changed to another class so keep on giving him advanced materials.
2) Assuming he doesn't get much support at home, parents aren't much help.
3) Students with concentration problems just need more stimulation. It keeps them busy. Put frankly, keep him doing something so that the boredom factor doesn't set in. What things can you give him so that the whole class doesn't turn to shit?
You have to figure out what 'turns his crank'
If he does his written work then he can read/complete:(these you change up-they get tired quickly)
1) Picture dictionary
2) Comic books
3) Sensory puzzles(finding series of objects, Where's Waldo? etc...
4) Drawing/Coloring
5) Writing/Stories
6) Brain Teasers/Puzzles
Change these activities as per the class schedule. Get him to do the written work when you are doing some oral activity and then give him the activities as a reward when the students are doing written work.
Currently I have 7 students with some kind of clinical 'issue'. ADD/ADHD/Turrets/Aspergers. Every one of them seem to react positively to stimulation. They all have social issues. They all are very strong linguistically. They just can't control themselves socially.
Sad but true.
Keep them busy. Positive stimulation. Change their activity. Low attention span. Poor social skills.
Takes practice. If you get it right you are laughing.
Won't affect the classmates. How much time does it take to take one thing and give them another?
This way he is not disturbing the class. He interacts with the class for a bit and then does something else. Then a little interaction and another activity.
This works.
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby Achtung Baby » 02 May 2012, 22:43

Had a moment of victory with this child today!

Today, he was acting up and fiddling with his
ruler. I demanded he hand the ruler over. He refused, holding it
under the desk. I said "You have ten seconds to give me that
ruler or you're out of the game [we were playing Apples to Apples and
the little shit loves trying to outshine others in games]". He
refused. I reached under the desk and plied the ruler from his hands.
Next I said "Give me your cards. You're out of the game." He
refused. So I reached under the desk and wrenched those from his
grasp, too. That's when he became visibly shaken and started sulking.
I told him he could play again in the second hour if he behaved
himself for 20 minutes. I'm pretty sure I heard some sniffling in
those 20 minutes! It worked, though. It's still a way to go with him
but it was a success.

My TA and supervisor were both pleased with this disciplinary measure. I think a big part of it is just standing my ground.
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby finley » 02 May 2012, 23:06

:thumbsup:

Nice! Sounds like a breakthrough. Keep it up: keep it consistent. Hope it works out.
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby Tempo Gain » 02 May 2012, 23:09

Achtung Baby wrote: I think a big part of it is just standing my ground.


It sounds like it. Stick with it! You will still have peaks and valleys but it will make a difference.
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby Confuzius » 03 May 2012, 00:21

This whole thread reminds me why I refuse to teach children and strengthens my resolve to continue refusing.

I must give it to all of you who put up with this crap, there's no way I could make it through a single day teaching children, I would probably go postal on all of them.
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby Achtung Baby » 09 May 2012, 13:38

So this child has been much better behaved in the week since I put my foot down as described above. He still requires correction but the incidences of non-cooperation and violent behavior have gone down- don't misunderstand me, he hasn't done a 180 in the past seven days but what I did definitely impacted him in some way. I found out- because he asked me to show him Singapore on the globe- that he's going to a summer camp there this summer. This combined with the fact that he's at anquinban well into the evening most days of the week, plus several other factors tells me that a big part of the problem is probably the fact that it seems as though his parents just want him out of their hair- it seems like they just want someone else to deal with the problem so they can spend as little time around him as possible. Is this a familiar scenario to anybody?
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby GuyInTaiwan » 09 May 2012, 13:51

Achtung Baby wrote:...it seems as though his parents just want him out of their hair- it seems like they just want someone else to deal with the problem so they can spend as little time around him as possible. Is this a familiar scenario to anybody?


It's a pretty common parenting technique in his country.
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby Enigma » 10 May 2012, 04:25

Sounds like hyperactivity. but it could be a more serious form of mental disorder. Get a student that can help you out. Then go to the disoriented student. Find out what he she likes and come prepared. Usually, you can easily figure it out.. Drawing, story telling, etc. Of course, if it's knives and guns, you might want to take a different approach.
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby Achtung Baby » 23 Sep 2012, 01:53

Update here. Just re-started classes after a summer break with this child. He is borderline angelic- needs some minor correcting (i.e please sit down) but otherwise is fine. Am suspecting it's a combination of behavioral modification and possibly meds/therapy. Any thoughts?
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Re: Child with severe behavioral issues- help!

Postby jerry spence » 23 Sep 2012, 23:38

Maybe he paid a visit to Nurse Rached :lol:

It must be a reflief for you to have a better time with this student.
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