TainanCowboy wrote:Try it. Watch how she handles the money.
See if the bills get paid, if she understands investing/saving for the future, etc.
If you are genuinely, concerned work with her to educate her about money matters. Explain that its your concern for both of your futures and your family with her that you want to plan for.
Trust is hard to build and easy to lose.
TMK wrote:There are things that I am finding out now that were not made known to me before we got married. For example: her mom took out a huge loan to buy a house for her business...she now expects her daughter (my wife) to pay her 10,000 NT a month to help pay off the loan. Something we never were a part of. She is also expected to contribute to her sister's university expenses. How can we possibly save for our future if we are taking care of the rest of her family? She says this is normal and expected in Taiwanese culture.
I don't mind helping, but only when we are financialy stable ourselves. My head is spinning right now. When I asked her to open a joint bank account with me, she said that there is no such thing in Taiwan. You can't have 2 names on one account. Is this true??? I find it hard to believe.
Fox wrote:I believe it's true that when we get married we don't really know the person we are marrying,
I believe it's true that when we get married we don't really know the person we are marrying,
Are you serious?
Oddly enough, the woman who I think knows me best is not my wife. She and I worked together for quite a few years and are in frequent, not daily or weekly, email contact.Fox wrote:I knew my wife for a couple of years before we were married, I loved her but she wasn't the person I knew best in the world. She's probably one of them these days amongst a group of others. Is that weird? I don't think so. It is just realistic. Before we were married I'd lived with another woman for about 8 years. I'm certain I knew her better than my wife. So what?Fox wrote:
I believe it's true that when we get married we don't really know the person we are marrying, Are you serious?
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