Can blue collar workers get an APRC?

[sandman]

How fortunate for your friend that you went the extra mile to help him see when he was lacking the cultural background/knowledge to make an informed opinion. And how fortunate that your friend wasn't here visiting Sandman, who'd have left him to make his own mistakes and been content to simply observe.

Still, everyone does enjoy watching a train wreck in progress, eh?

Can you read? Evidently not.

[tommy525]

When I was a young whipper snapper in the chungle i ran into a girl (she worked as a receptionist at the tiny hotel I was staying at for a coupla weeks). Thought she was a virgin until we finally got horizontal and she whispered if it was ok that shes married? Talk bout coitus interuptus ! Married and has two kids (something like 8 and 10).

I kicked her out (in the morning of course) and gave her the cold turkey from then on. I dint want an instant family or to get involved where i perhaps shouldnt be.

But now that im older (and hopefully wiser) and see the world in shades of grey , rather then black and white. I realize I was very mean to her and she didnt deserve it.

LIfe is a bitch and one doesnt know how her husband is. He may have left town with her holding on and paying for two kids. She may be available for the right man to give her love and affection and help bring up her children. She was NOT the one that was immature. It was I.

IF a person is in a loveless marriage by bad choice , bad decisions or bad oversight or simply bad luck, should they be doomed to forever suffer or is there a hope for a restart and to love again?

She is 25, her husband may be 60. She has a child. Shes stuck on Taiwan and possibly in less then ideal circumstances. Her husband maybe shows her little affection or love and attention. Her children may be neglected.

Is she doomed to never have another chance?

We only live once !

If he loves HER, let him investigate further and take action as appropriate. IF her love is genuine and her situation is dire. Let him save her and maybe save himself in the process. For you know not what demons torment him? Do you?

[bumclouds]

IF a person is in a loveless marriage by bad choice , bad decisions or bad oversight or simply bad luck, should they be doomed to forever suffer or is there a hope for a restart and to love again?

Thanks for your perspective tommy, but, I don't think this is a case of "oh no, i accidentally married the wrong guy". This is obviously a marriage for economic reasons. I'd give a girl a chance if I thought her marriage was, or used to be genuine.

[tommy525]

Suffice to say your friend is in an unenviable position. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, especially in Taiwan.

I agree this one has "bad" written all over it.

But I must contend one point. If she married for monetary reasons. That is to say she was one of those young ladies who left her country to be married to a (usually older) man who can provide for her due to say, abject poverty. And now is older and (presumably ) wiser and is discovering that there is a thing called "love", should she not have a chance?

If circumstances were so dire that it forces a young girl to leave her home and be married to any old joe (and I mean OLD ) is that not a situation to be pitied, rather then ridiculed? Commiserated rather then belittled?

However, I am not pleased with her position on her own child . That she intends to abandon him/her. That shows a distinct lack of character.

At least the kind of character I'd want to be associated with.

In Taiwan surely there ARE better choices?

[tomthorne]

IMO you should talk to him immediately because she's almost certainly married to some guy with a kid.

I'm rarely wrong in these matters

[kiwi5]

for having worked with a few of those maid agencies, many of them treat those young girls abjectly and are often in the grey zone as legal is concerned.

I can only agree with Tommy, no matter why she married that old guy (hey she is probably only from an un educated part of the world and "convinced" to do so), there aren't any reasons to make her "pay" for it... I just don't follw the logic there.
Even with the best friend, yeah the breach of honesty isn't the way to go but we ought not burn her on the market place. People get married for various reasons (haha especially women take a look at the ladder thoery) and can appreciate each other in different ways and for various reasons. the nuance is even accentuated from one culture to another. It doesn't all have to be walt disney

well in any case thanks for the gossip like story ~ even if you were right after all at the begining I was laughing at the sight of "taiwanese girlfriend" and the words meddling popping up ..