Super Hans wrote:Shawn,
Shouldn't you be doing something useful with your time? Maybe studying Mandarin or finding yourself a girlfriend!
Ooooh...well, that, as I understand it, would be a big waste of time for him.
Haha... yes... it would be, as I came to Taiwan specifically to learn Mandarin and have accomplished that goal. And well, my wife wouldn't approve of me finding a girlfriend...
sandman wrote:Ooh! A new, never-before-broached topic! WOW!
Use the search function. This hoary old chestnut has been done to death MANY times on the flob over the years. And it ALWAYS ends the same way -- sniping, back-biting, MANY temped posts, finally locked.
In answer to your question, I know all KINDS of foreigners here. None of them match your description.
I did use the search function... found nothing. Perhaps, I used the wrong keywords?
shawn_c wrote:You've all met that "foreigner" who came to Taiwan long ago and has been here ever since. No family connections, no real future besides English teaching (doesn't mean that English is his first language), no plans for anything, really... not even a real girlfriend (i.e. possible wife).
He (yes, "he", not "she") could be white, black, yellow, etc... doesn't matter. What matters is that back in his home country, he had nothing going for him; not much of a social life, not many plans for the future, no real economic future, no feeling of accomplishment or being looked up to. But, he comes to Taiwan, and all-of-a-sudden he has value... he's a superstar! People look up to him, people want to chat with him, girls want him... because he is now special, has a special skill, and is exotic. (He's also a teacher in a culture where teachers are given great respect.)
That feeling is so great! He can't get enough. He's hooked and he's never leaving.
This theory, of course, is posited on the fact that all men need to feel; important, valuable, powerful, great, etc. Men want to be looked up to... and some men get it from working hard and busting their asses, and some men get it from... moving to where they can be exotic.
In Taiwan, the "exotic foreigner" gets all these feelings and more. No way they're returning home! Taiwan is home, now.
Do you agree?
(That said, this is actually the case for men all over the world, including Taiwanese men. Why do you think Taiwanese men can't bear it if their wife makes more than them (breakups and divorce are not out of the question)? Why do you think there's 大男人主義/Big Man Syndrome, where many men must be the one to turn to for their family and friends, must make more money, must know everything, etc.?)
Anyway, I seem to have struck a chord in the collective defensive mechanism of the foreigner community that has found itself on Forumosa. Oops... I apologize for any hurt feelings in advance
Umm... okay, let's just forget about everything I wrote in the first post. My theory really is this: men have the need to feel important.
Pursuant to that, I was merely saying that some, not all, foreign men in Taiwan/Japan/Korea/China/Asia, have ended up away from their home countries for one reason or other... but are getting that feeling of importance that they lacked in their home countries. This feeling of importance is like a drug; a drug which keeps them here, never to return... and even if they did try to return, find themselves coming back for more of this drug.
The part where I write about his social life, to clarify, I meant that back home, he had no social life, but in Taiwan, he's living it up.