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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby bismarck » 11 Nov 2011, 03:31

tsukinodeynatsu wrote:You can either just say 'whatever' when people say things like that, actually try and plead your case, or fuck with them by telling them foreign penises are biologically different and NEED to ejaculate more than Taiwanese penises.

Interestingly, I've heard from quite a few ladies here over the years that Taiwanese guys apparently only have one round in the chamber. After that, they're done for the day. Sounds odd to me.

And to address the OP: It's always the guy's fault. Doesn't matter what. Basic rule, that. :D
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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby steelersman » 11 Nov 2011, 07:00

What are you talking about? It is always Bismark's fault!
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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby finley » 11 Nov 2011, 10:01

And to address the OP: It's always the guy's fault. Doesn't matter what. Basic rule, that.

I remember some American comedian doing a hilarious routine about how/why it's always the guy's fault (can't remember his name - pretty famous, big fat guy, although I guess that doesn't narrow it down much). His advice: in marriage, you have a choice. You can be right; or you can be happy. Take your pick.

Dunno. I hear those "rabbits in the headlights" go like bunnies.

Never had a chance to test that theory :(

If that's true, and if Bismarck's assertion is also true (I've heard similar stories) there must be a lot of frustrated bunnies out there. Maybe that has something to do with the hair-trigger temper ...
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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby ChewDawg » 11 Nov 2011, 10:17

GuyInTaiwan wrote:All humour aside (I assume Dazed was having a laugh), it strikes me that this kind of attitude, especially amongst Western females (oddly) is kind of racist or maybe even sexist. Doesn't it just reinforce some sort of belief that women, especially Taiwanese women, are perpetual victims, not sentient actors upon their own lives?


That's because so many of the frustrated foreign ladies have gender studies or post-colonialism liberal arts college degrees :lol: :D They are projecting their own insecurities and bitter attitudes and see the local women as being hopelessly exploited by these big bad foreign men who are going around giving all the local princesses a "dirty sanchez." :lol: (I am joking here but there is sort of a big bad wolf mentality about it)

In fact, I would say it is the exact opposite in terms of the power equation. A lot of these Asian women are in the position of power (e.g.,money control, family support, friends in government/Ministry of Interior etc.) and can make life really shitty for the foreigners if they want to.

For example, remember the Paraguayan diplomat that had to show he was STD free after a local complained? How Chocolate was treated by his rich wife? The arm of the state definitely favours locals, especially if they have "guanxi."

This sort of "let me see your boyfriend and I'll tell you if he's a loser or not" attitude sounds like sour grapes from a celibate nun. Not only that, but pompous imperialism. :D Like the foreign English teacher woman will show these poor peasant women the "light". :roflmao: Excuse me while I barf!!! :D
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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby GuyInTaiwan » 11 Nov 2011, 10:20

finley wrote:
And to address the OP: It's always the guy's fault. Doesn't matter what. Basic rule, that.

I remember some American comedian doing a hilarious routine about how/why it's always the guy's fault (can't remember his name - pretty famous, big fat guy, although I guess that doesn't narrow it down much). His advice: in marriage, you have a choice. You can be right; or you can be happy. Take your pick.


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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby ironlady » 11 Nov 2011, 10:36

ChewDawg wrote:That's because so many of the frustrated foreign ladies have gender studies or post-colonialism liberal arts college degrees :lol: :D


Thank goodness. I knew there was something wrong with my academic background. I'll get right on this.

I still say the main difference is the use of the Big Brain for attaining, oh, I dunno, a liberal arts college degree, and the exclusive use of the Male-Only Little Brain™ for processing deep thoughts like Me Want Some. :ponder:

Most of the very charming and happily-married men I know in Taiwan have switched to a more equitable usage of the two brains, which tends to keep women happy. (We certainly appreciate the appropriate use of the Little Brain as well, under the right circumstances.)
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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby Tomas » 11 Nov 2011, 11:34

bismarck wrote:
tsukinodeynatsu wrote:You can either just say 'whatever' when people say things like that, actually try and plead your case, or fuck with them by telling them foreign penises are biologically different and NEED to ejaculate more than Taiwanese penises.

Interestingly, I've heard from quite a few ladies here over the years that Taiwanese guys apparently only have one round in the chamber. After that, they're done for the day. Sounds odd to me.

And to address the OP: It's always the guy's fault. Doesn't matter what. Basic rule, that. :D


It is indeed always our fault. No sense in arguing the point with a wife or a long-term girlfriend. Dr. John Gray of Mars-Venus fame says something about a woman's need to vilify a man when she's upset. Reading that helped explain a lot of things I've seen women do when pissed off.

And bis, having an orgasm several times in a 24 hour period ain't nothing to brag about, unless we're talking about the women in our lives :wink: .
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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby Ducked » 11 Nov 2011, 12:23

NonTocareLeTete wrote: I tell all of my female students that if they have a perspective foreign boyfriend, let me meet him, and I'll tell them if he's a piece of shit or not ;)


Don't want to pre-empt your findings, but Mystic Ed predicts that he will be. Er...almost by definition.
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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby bismarck » 11 Nov 2011, 12:55

steelersman wrote:What are you talking about? It is always Bismark's fault!

That's why I'm constantly saying sorry. :lol:

Tomas wrote:
bismarck wrote:
tsukinodeynatsu wrote:You can either just say 'whatever' when people say things like that, actually try and plead your case, or fuck with them by telling them foreign penises are biologically different and NEED to ejaculate more than Taiwanese penises.

Interestingly, I've heard from quite a few ladies here over the years that Taiwanese guys apparently only have one round in the chamber. After that, they're done for the day. Sounds odd to me.

And to address the OP: It's always the guy's fault. Doesn't matter what. Basic rule, that. :D


It is indeed always our fault. No sense in arguing the point with a wife or a long-term girlfriend. Dr. John Gray of Mars-Venus fame says something about a woman's need to vilify a man when she's upset. Reading that helped explain a lot of things I've seen women do when pissed off.

Yeah, fortunately I seem to have learned this lesson. Hence, things are going much better with my current SO.

Tomas wrote:And bis, having an orgasm several times in a 24 hour period ain't nothing to brag about, unless we're talking about the women in our lives :wink: .

:lol:
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Re: why is the blame always on the (foreign) guy?

Postby Rinchan18 » 11 Nov 2011, 17:28

finley wrote:
And to address the OP: It's always the guy's fault. Doesn't matter what. Basic rule, that.

His advice: in marriage, you have a choice. You can be right; or you can be happy. Take your pick.

I have never been to Taiwan (yet) but these two I have heard about so much as a kid, you'll almost think it was some sort of ingrained rule or something, not quite sure who made the rule and if it was made or already there somehow. The second quote, even though I heard about it so much seemed to apply to both genders, though more so guys, it seemed to depend on the circumstance of the marriage
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