Got To Be Kidding wrote:The point of my story is this: If you both can talk and respect (and love) each other, and if you share the same basic life-goals, formal education doesn't matter much.
I guess I can understand this need some have for some intellectual compatibility with the person you love. I guess.
I dunno. My wife and I are not much alike. She's female and I'm male, for starters. She's Taiwanese/Chinese and I'm a white American. My native language is English (of the Pittsburgh variety) and she speaks Mandarin and Taiwanese. I'm an attorney and have an MA in International Affairs, she has some sort of an associate degree in graphic arts from the old Ming Chuan College (back when it was a girls' school). We have different ideas and perspectives and approaches to just about everything. I'm smart in some ways and she's smart in others. We don't spend a whole lot of time discussing classic philosophy or realpolitik. I read the western classics and she reads Dream of the Red Chamber.
But, we love each other and have now for 27 years. Married for 23 years this year. Yinz have to love each other. That's what makes it work. You can get your intellectual fix, or your sports fix, or your art fix, or your music fix, or whatever fix it is that feeds your jones, from someone other than your spouse/SO. Just be sure to get your love fix exclusively from your spouse/SO and everything else takes care of itself. As the Grateful Dead used to sing, she's my yoyo and I'm her string
Happy Valentines Day!