sandman wrote:tsukinodeynatsu wrote:I dunno. I think it's more common here than in the west. Part of the avoiding conflict stuff and whatnot, maybe.
I haven't noticed. In my admittedly small circle of family, friends and acquaintances spread pretty much all over the globe, over the last 40-whatever years, it has seemed fairly universal.
I have, though, seen ample evidence of wide-eyed children coming here and hooking up with the most unsuitable women, time and time again. And time and time again, they appear totally nonplussed when the shine wears off. Just kids playing around. Except in the west, these kids are in their teens. Here, they're still from the west, but they're university graduates in their early 30s. Its a strange phenomenon, indeed.
I mean, my nephew in Scotland has just turned 22 and has never lived abroad. And yet he seems SOOOO much more worldy than a lot of the people posting in this thread.
Maybe it's a generational thing? Back in Aus or the UK most of my friends would think you're scumbag for trying to end a relationship by slowly backing off (unless it's a two-date 'relationship' or the like), whereas here most of my friends think it's pretty mean but kind of normal, and one of my very good friends did it herself. @.@;