Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby GuyInTaiwan » 11 Apr 2012, 12:04

bismarck: I know. If you had an especially funny female friend who really wanted to stir the pot, maybe it would run like this:

PXJ: "Have you fucked John Smith?"
Other girl: "No, but I'd like to. I'm assuming he's single now. Thanks for letting me know. I'll give him a call after this so we can make an appointment."
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby bismarck » 11 Apr 2012, 13:35

GuyInTaiwan wrote:bismarck: I know. If you had an especially funny female friend who really wanted to stir the pot, maybe it would run like this:

PXJ: "Have you fucked John Smith?"
Other girl: "No, but I'd like to. I'm assuming he's single now. Thanks for letting me know. I'll give him a call after this so we can make an appointment."

I'd love to see how that plays out!
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby sandman » 11 Apr 2012, 13:43

Reading these, all I can say is: "Damn! You little children REALLY don't have much in the way of the social niceties, do you? PLEASE tell me its more than just "she's got a vagina and she didn't say NO!" Please. :roll: People get what they deserve, usually, I've always found. At least you got some. Judging from these posts, you should think yourselves BLOODY lucky to have even got that.
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby bismarck » 11 Apr 2012, 14:06

sandman wrote:Reading these, all I can say is: "Damn! You little children REALLY don't have much in the way of the social niceties, do you? PLEASE tell me its more than just "she's got a vagina and she didn't say NO!" Please. :roll: People get what they deserve, usually, I've always found. At least you got some. Judging from these posts, you should think yourselves BLOODY lucky to have even got that.

Sandy, I don't think most people in this specific thread have been unkind, especially the OP. I think he shed some new ideas on why some girls possibly take a break-up "harder" than others. And here, as elsewhere, it is true that some people (men and women) do take a break-up very badly and in some cases do some really off the wall stuff.
In some cases, people also act oddly even in the midst of a relationship. Most people have no background in psychology and have no idea how to handle such a situation.

But as you say, if the girl (or guy) was promised long term love, used as a semen depository and discarded like a soiled diaper, then I totally agree with you. In such circumstances a person would deserve what they got.
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby sandman » 11 Apr 2012, 14:13

bismarck wrote:
sandman wrote:Reading these, all I can say is: "Damn! You little children REALLY don't have much in the way of the social niceties, do you? PLEASE tell me its more than just "she's got a vagina and she didn't say NO!" Please. :roll: People get what they deserve, usually, I've always found. At least you got some. Judging from these posts, you should think yourselves BLOODY lucky to have even got that.

Sandy, I don't think most people in this specific thread have been unkind, especially the OP. I think he shed some new ideas on why some girls possibly take a break-up "harder" than others. And here, as elsewhere, it is true that some people (men and women) do take a break-up very badly and in some cases do some really off the wall stuff.
In some cases, people also act oddly even in the midst of a relationship. Most people have no background in psychology and have no idea how to handle such a situation.

But as you say, if the girl (or guy) was promised long term love, used as a semen depository and discarded like a soiled diaper, then I totally agree with you. In such circumstances a person would deserve what they got.

True. Its only an impression I got from the reading of the thing. Wouldn't be the first time I was wrong, god knows.
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby Whole Lotta Lotta » 11 Apr 2012, 23:03

Here is one of the big lessons from my experience; Unless you are married have everything in your name and do not tell your gf things she does not need to know.
I would like to know if there are other experiences with gfs turning their not-quite-legal bfs over to the authorities? One sign that a school may be abou to get raided is a pissed off ex.
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby tommy525 » 12 Apr 2012, 00:41

Yup ,with Girlfriends its best to be on the "need to know , and you don't need to know basis" .
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby divea » 12 Apr 2012, 02:55

citizen k wrote:
divea wrote:This is the worst possible tactic.....I know a married couple, where the woman did this to the husband and all of us family and friends for nearly 4 months......they are still married but I refuse to talk to the woman, it is the filthiest tactic and joke or revenge or whatever she may justify it as.


Only to be superceeded by the "I'm gonna sit on this rooftop ledge at 2 o'clock in the morning and scream my lungs out for all your neighbors to know what a horrible person you are and then force you to call the police because you do actually believe that I could jump, even though I don't intend to at all" move.

Fortunately, this was not one of mine.

:bravo: :bravo: I like this move. You could kill two birds with this stone, the boy frienda nd the creepy neighbours. Nothing would have given me more pleasure than disturbing an old amah in the wee hours :lol:


I am kidding okay...I like old amahs.
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby Whole Lotta Lotta » 12 Apr 2012, 23:52

Another thing I have noticed about Taiwnese gfs is that when THEY want to break up with you, they do it quietly and expect you to notice. They to things like say they are sick one weekend and can't go out with you, but that they will do it for sure the next weekend. Then the next weekend comes up and they have something they have to do at work. The week after that, something with the family comes up, etc.
However, if you do some research into what they were actually doing on a weekend, the story might be different than what they told you. You will call them to see how they are doing and you will notice some background noise that indicates they are out when they said they are sick, or are not at work, or move away from wherever they were when they answered the phone, because they do not want others hear whom they are speaking to.
Taiwanese make break ups difficult either way. They throw fits when you break up with them. When they break up with you, they leave all of the difficult work of figuring out it is over up to you.
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Re: Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

Postby tsukinodeynatsu » 13 Apr 2012, 00:35

:ponder: That's how Taiwanese men break up with you too.

It's cowardly and pretty horrible for the one being dumped, IMO.
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