Reassessing the Psycho Xiaojie

[tommy525]

Another thing I have noticed about Taiwnese gfs is that when THEY want to break up with you, they do it quietly and expect you to notice. They to things like say they are sick one weekend and can't go out with you, but that they will do it for sure the next weekend. Then the next weekend comes up and they have something they have to do at work. The week after that, something with the family comes up, etc.
However, if you do some research into what they were actually doing on a weekend, the story might be different than what they told you. You will call them to see how they are doing and you will notice some background noise that indicates they are out when they said they are sick, or are not at work, or move away from wherever they were when they answered the phone, because they do not want others hear whom they are speaking to.
Taiwanese make break ups difficult either way. They throw fits when you break up with them. When they break up with you, they leave all of the difficult work of figuring out it is over up to you.

Eggactly !! So if you want to break up with a TW girl dont appear to be the one to want the break up. Make her HATE you or at least start to intensely hate being with you ! She will run and you will live to love another day.

Iv never had to break up with a TW girl . I simply love them to pieces and they run like the wind. They just flat out tell me they want out. NO beating around the bush (no , not THAT bush either).

[tommy525]

:ponder: That's how Taiwanese men break up with you too.

It's cowardly and pretty horrible for the one being dumped, IMO.

I guess its all a matter of not wanting confrontation. If you get rejected numerous times, the "why" becomes clear.

I, generally (with a new potential GF) ask them out a total of three times over a course of a few weeks and if rejected all three times they are history (even if they never made any).

[Whole Lotta Lotta]

:ponder: That's how Taiwanese men break up with you too.

It's cowardly and pretty horrible for the one being dumped, IMO.

I guess its all a matter of not wanting confrontation. If you get rejected numerous times, the "why" becomes clear.

I, generally (with a new potential GF) ask them out a total of three times over a course of a few weeks and if rejected all three times they are history (even if they never made any).

In a previously established relationship I think the dumper should be the person to inform the dumpee about it. For the dumpee it is like they have the double burden of being dumped and do the work of dumping the person that actually wanted to dump them.

[GuyInTaiwan]

They can be really inconsistent about it though. When I first came to Taiwan, I went out with a girl a few times, but she became steadily unavailable, so I figured that was her subtle way of getting rid of me. So, I moved on. A couple of months later, after I'd started dating someone else, she rang me telling me she missed me, asking why I hadn't called, etc.

[tsukinodeynatsu]

They can be really inconsistent about it though. When I first came to Taiwan, I went out with a girl a few times, but she became steadily unavailable, so I figured that was her subtle way of getting rid of me. So, I moved on. A couple of months later, after I'd started dating someone else, she rang me telling me she missed me, asking why I hadn't called, etc.

That usually means that the other guy didn't work out and they want to go back to plan A, doesn't it?

tommy, I was talking more about when they call you 50 times a day and then all of a sudden stop are 'busy' whenever you call them. Like, after you've actually been together for a while, not when you first start dating.

[sandman]

Another thing I have noticed about Taiwnese gfs huge numbers of people all over the world is that when THEY want to break up with you, they do it quietly and expect you to notice. They to things like say they are sick one weekend and can't go out with you, but that they will do it for sure the next weekend. Then the next weekend comes up and they have something they have to do at work. The week after that, something with the family comes up, etc.
However, if you do some research into what they were actually doing on a weekend, the story might be different than what they told you. You will call them to see how they are doing and you will notice some background noise that indicates they are out when they said they are sick, or are not at work, or move away from wherever they were when they answered the phone, because they do not want others hear whom they are speaking to.
Taiwanese Some people make break ups difficult either way. They throw fits when you break up with them. When they break up with you, they leave all of the difficult work of figuring out it is over up to you.

Fixed. Once again. Little kids.

[tsukinodeynatsu]

I dunno. I think it's more common here than in the west. Part of the avoiding conflict stuff and whatnot, maybe.

There's even a song about it.

[sandman]

I dunno. I think it's more common here than in the west. Part of the avoiding conflict stuff and whatnot, maybe.

I haven't noticed. In my admittedly small circle of family, friends and acquaintances spread pretty much all over the globe, over the last 40-whatever years, it has seemed fairly universal.
I have, though, seen ample evidence of wide-eyed children coming here and hooking up with the most unsuitable women, time and time again. And time and time again, they appear totally nonplussed when the shine wears off. Just kids playing around. Except in the west, these kids are in their teens. Here, they're still from the west, but they're university graduates in their early 30s. Its a strange phenomenon, indeed.
I mean, my nephew in Scotland has just turned 22 and has never lived abroad. And yet he seems SOOOO much more worldy than a lot of the people posting in this thread.

[GuyInTaiwan]

They can be really inconsistent about it though. When I first came to Taiwan, I went out with a girl a few times, but she became steadily unavailable, so I figured that was her subtle way of getting rid of me. So, I moved on. A couple of months later, after I'd started dating someone else, she rang me telling me she missed me, asking why I hadn't called, etc.

That usually means that the other guy didn't work out and they want to go back to plan A, doesn't it?

Of course, but it was too bad for her. I'd already moved on.

[Whole Lotta Lotta]

They can be really inconsistent about it though. When I first came to Taiwan, I went out with a girl a few times, but she became steadily unavailable, so I figured that was her subtle way of getting rid of me. So, I moved on. A couple of months later, after I'd started dating someone else, she rang me telling me she missed me, asking why I hadn't called, etc.

Yes ! Here is a lesson for girls out there. It is OK if you do not want to be to confrontational about breaking it off. There is one thing I would like to say; KEEP YOUR VERBAL AND NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION CONSISTANT!