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Help me settle a dilemma

Postby sensAsian » 19 Mar 2012, 03:43

WARNING: LONG-ISH POST

I have 2 room mates and at least 1 of them and I always put our receipts in a pile.

Anyways, my taiwanese gf decides to match them up. I've already said in the past that I don't care about the receipts because I've never won (been here 5 years) so it's not worth my time. Anyways, she notices a bunch outdated and throws them away. Some are not and turns out there are 2 200nt winners. We both look at the 2 winning receipts and it's obv that neither one of them could be mine. Then she asks if she could keep them. I said no and she gets mad. I told her how am I supposed to give her something that isn't mine. Her response was that it's been sitting there so long and no one's matching them and a bunch is expired anyway. If she leaves it there, it'll probably go expired anyway. I then told her that my roommates and I already agreed to whoever wants to match it up can do it (and split it, but I didn't say the splitting part to her), but we're all just pretty lazy. I also said it didn't matter because it's not hers and taking it would be stealing. She says it isn't stealing because she's telling me. I said it's not mine, how can I give permission? Anyways, she feels she's entitled to it because it was just going to sit being wasted and she matched them up. She's all pissed now and says ok, she'll just put them all together and put it back where she found them and let it sit there. I'm not allowed to tell my room mates and since I don't care about them, I can't look at them either.

What am I supposed to do here? Tell her to split it? Does she even want to? She never suggested it. A few months back, she did the same thing and found 2 200nt winners and kept it all for herself after she said she'd redeem it for me, but then asked to keep it (again, it was obv neither of those 2 receipts were mine neither). I know I said I didn't care about it, but last time it was mixed with my roommate(s) too. I totally forgot about it this time or I woulda said don't match them up.
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby zyzzx » 19 Mar 2012, 05:29

I thought this was heading towards a million dollar receipt or something. All of this drama over 400NT? Seriously? Who the hell cares? I seriously doubt that your roommates do.
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby TainanCowboy » 19 Mar 2012, 06:24

"...she feels she's entitled to it ... She's all pissed now and says ok, she'll just put them all together and put it back where she found them and let it sit there. I'm not allowed to tell my room mates and since I don't care about them, I can't look at them either.

A few months back, she did the same thing and found 2 200nt winners and kept it all for herself after she said she'd redeem it for me,

"...she asks if she could keep them. I said no and she gets mad..."

I'm not allowed to tell my room mates and since I don't care about them, I can't look at them either.


What am I supposed to do here?

I would suggest a bit of testosterone therapy....and look for a new "girlfriend."
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby dan2006 » 19 Mar 2012, 06:44

You guys have a lot of time on your hands to be arguing about things like that.. :D

I wouldn't have got into an argument over something so petty.. but to each his own.
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby zaowangyeh » 19 Mar 2012, 08:34

Haha! Wait until you two get married. Ahhhh, Taiwanese women and money.
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby Battery9 » 19 Mar 2012, 08:44

put it back and let it go to waste. If your flatmates match it up, awesome, if not, it's not like it was money that was lost. That money doesn't exist until you turn it in. If you give it to your gf and your flatmates find out, it will be hell, if you tell your flatmates, your gf will hate you. From now on, just keep your own receipts in your room.

and really, if my gf was mad at me over this, she wouldn't be mine anymore.
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby the bear » 19 Mar 2012, 08:47

put a match to them........always up the drama ante, it makes life more interesting.
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby dasaint » 19 Mar 2012, 09:18

let your gf redeem and keep the money, then give your room mates their share. you'll have peace of mind that would cost you a total of NT$400!
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby Zla'od » 19 Mar 2012, 10:15

Donate it to charity. (Doesn't 7-Eleven have plastic boxes where you can donate your receipts to the Red Cross or something?) That way you can all share the good karma points, and your girlfriend can experience the torture she deserves! I mean, she'll steam as she watches the winning receipt go into the box, but she won't be able to say anything, because who could object to charity? Heeheehee...
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Re: Help me settle a dilemma

Postby finley » 19 Mar 2012, 10:51

I just wasted $400NT of my time reading that.
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