Feiren wrote:I think part of the problem here may be that many Taiwanese women are deeply invested in the idea of marriage as an institution in which the man takes care of the woman emotionally and financially or at least keeps up an semblance of that being the case. Talking about finances could challenge that ideal of marriage.
CraigTPE wrote:My impression of how married Taiwanese couples handle their money is like they are room mates. No joint bank accounts. No joint assets. All separate.
jdsmith wrote:That's not my impression at all. In the married couples I know where the husband works and mom is a housewife, the wives hold the plastic and pay the bills. The men seem fine with that. I'm not sure what you mean by a joint account, but if the wife has the husband's ATM card, it's the same to me.
bigduke6 wrote:My wife is also useless with money. I do not think she has NT$ 100 in the bank. Lucky for us her parents are relatively well off.
How I deal with it is simple. I have my credit card and she has hers.I pay mine and she pays hers. Not negotiable in my book. Every month I give her X amount for all the household expenses. I pay all the bills such as electricity, internet etc.
After this the balance is invested with a portion going to the bank for any emergencies.
If by the 20th of the month she is broke. Tough luck. Her salary is sufficient for her not to live like a pauper and save some. If she needs to borrow money from me it gets paid back on pay day not neg. Its the usual story "oh I got such a bargain for 500NT", not realizing all the bargains add up.
Bottom line is that it needs to be dealt with before you get married as money issues can quickly destroy a marriage. I look at my parents as a good example of how money arguments can fuck a marriage up.
CraigTPE wrote:jdsmith wrote:That's not my impression at all. In the married couples I know where the husband works and mom is a housewife, the wives hold the plastic and pay the bills. The men seem fine with that. I'm not sure what you mean by a joint account, but if the wife has the husband's ATM card, it's the same to me.
Most married couples I know both work. One gives the other X-amount of money for bills, kind of like how a room mate might.
You don't know what a joint account is? One where both names are on the paperwork? Even houses. Most people I ask say that their house is in one person's name or the other, but not both.
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