vanityvice wrote:No, before you judge the subject please hear me out. I'm 28, born to Taiwanese parents but we're living in the Philippines. I have no plans of getting married and that is quite a disappointment to my parents and my relatives (who keep on playing the match maker role each time we visit and it's really annoying to me), and the thing is I really hate how my dad thinks it's a contest (maybe it is, to some), but to me it's not exactly the top most priority in life and I used to enjoy going home but now it's just dreadful every time because of this one aunt who keeps introducing me to guys and expects me to get engaged based on my first impression, because I guess the guys who seek a life partner in that way are also desperate or in a hurry. My dad thinks I'm not getting any younger (wait, I think so too) and he thinks it's my obligation to get married and have kids and what, live happily ever after? I really hate to be known to them as single as they won't stop doing this. If you're living in Taiwan you probably understand how most Taiwanese parents are. I really wish someone would be kind enough to help me out and just be a buddy and my pretend boyfriend so they would back off. I have been honest to them, and I have told them I'm not ready but maybe they don't know the word respect because we are children, we should listen to them.
I'm frustrated, as you can tell.
I am strangely turned on by this post. Now let me readjust my seating position to hide my expanding mid-section and offer some advice.
The fake boyfriend tactic is doomed to failure, and it will only complicate things, turning this simple A->B issue between you and your parents into a Three's Company episode. Yeah the fake boyfriend will quell the usual marriage chat for the immediate meeting, but then you will have to deal with the follow up: He seemed nice...How are you two getting along? Be nice to him...Are you treating him right? Awkward sex advice...Awkward keeping your man advice...constant update inquiries etc...
You are opening a whole new can of worms which may have a ranker odor than what you were dealing with before.
Come clean with your folks, it is 2012 for fucksakes, no one gets married at 28 anymore.