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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby tommy525 » 22 May 2012, 23:42

tango42 wrote:No woman minds being told she is pretty. Just be careful on when and saying it, so she doesn't consciously or sub-consciously feel you are stalking.


yes handling a woman is like crossing a road, timing can be everything. Do it wrong and its like getting hit by a car (almost).
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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby chris1234 » 27 May 2012, 04:40

Okay, so you are making 2 mistakes. First, you are doing too much work in one area. Second, you are not doing enough work in another area.

If you want to be successful, go for the pretty conversation with a girl before you turn down/ spend a lot of money.

There are easy ways to do it. For example, you could say that she looks nice in a dress, her smile always picks you up, you like her sense of style, or that her haircut really accentuates the best features in her face, etc. Those are compliments that give her room to fish for compliments, flirt, appreciate what you said or try and shut you down.

If you wait to long to probe the issue, you could wind up in TW, and she could wind up with another BF. How would you feel then?
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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby tommy525 » 27 May 2012, 15:29

Well long story short, no it aint safe, it sure aint safe. IT could lead to all sorts of scenarios from dreadful to the truly dreadful (ok ok, it can also be heavenly bliss ..maybe) and it could lead to marriage and all that with.....someone else ! ??

Just kidding. Go with the flow. All of em are pain of one sort or another. Just pick your poison :)

All my married friends want to be single again (they tell me I have the whole of my life "off" because Im not married) and most of my single friends want to remain single.

But gluton for punishment and adventure we are, I am ready for "battle" in that respect again.

But women/girls/goils/birds sure can be CUTE and lovely cant they?
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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby finley » 27 May 2012, 15:43

Not sure what the problem is here. If you think she's hot say so, although, obviously, pick the right moment. And as chris1234 says, there are various simple ways to sound out the territory first.

If she also thinks you're hot, then all is well, and you can get down to whatever you (both) have in mind.

If not, all is still well, but you need to find another hot girl. Don't waste your youth away agonising over whether this particular girl is "the one". She's already made up her mind about you.

EDIT: just because she's studious and lives at home doesn't really mean anything. That description fits 94% of Taiwanese young people (I assume you're both quite young). However, it might be the case that she hasn't had much experience with relationships and doesn't know how to start one or behave within one. That could be a big problem.
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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby TheGingerMan » 27 May 2012, 17:01

What's wrong with telling a studious lass that she is smart?
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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby tommy525 » 28 May 2012, 00:17

TheGingerMan wrote:What's wrong with telling a studious lass that she is smart?


thats a good idea, start with some innocent praise and then you can say shes pretty cute as well, etc.
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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby Battery9 » 28 May 2012, 00:45

wow, you're moving here without her knowing that you like her yet? Good luck! Hope it works out...don't ever tell her that you moved here for her though, that would freak me the f out.
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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby erivera3 » 28 May 2012, 02:38

80% - 90% of what you say to her is conveyed through your body language not in the actual words themselves. But you moved to TW for her.... don't tell her that! I am not a girl but I would be freaked out about that if you were to tell me that. Whats your sense of mission besides having her?
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Re: Is it safe to tell a Taiwanese girl you think she's pretty?

Postby ehophi » 30 May 2012, 03:33

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