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Stalker

Postby loudshirts04 » 16 Jun 2012, 14:54

A former student has stalked me off and on for years. I taught a class at a Confucian temple for the community. One student was so shy she couldn't even say her own name at first. Gradually she became used to me and would talk. When I finished the term, she followed me to the cram school where I taught. But that was expensive and she quit. Somehow she got my phone number and texted me several times asking me out. I never went anywhere with her. I just now have returned to Taiwan from two years in the states. Just before I returned, she called my old cell phone number (kept by my wife) and asked when I would return. What can I do about this stalker.
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Re: Stalker

Postby zender » 16 Jun 2012, 15:58

Be direct.

Tell her that your wife doesn't allow you to have any stalkers . . . erm, I mean, female friends. :neutral:
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Re: Stalker

Postby pgdaddy1 » 16 Jun 2012, 19:52

loudshirts04 wrote:A former student has stalked me off and on for years. I taught a class at a Confucian temple for the community. One student was so shy she couldn't even say her own name at first. Gradually she became used to me and would talk. When I finished the term, she followed me to the cram school where I taught. But that was expensive and she quit. Somehow she got my phone number and texted me several times asking me out. I never went anywhere with her. I just now have returned to Taiwan from two years in the states. Just before I returned, she called my old cell phone number (kept by my wife) and asked when I would return. What can I do about this stalker.


This stalking doesn't sound really bad. Just ignore her calls, she'll give up after a while. Would she have any way of finding out where you are living (like mutual friends ?). If not then you really haven't got any worries.
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Re: Stalker

Postby Isha » 17 Jun 2012, 10:58

How about getting a new phone number?
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Re: Stalker

Postby LYT12 » 17 Jun 2012, 18:27

loudshirts04 wrote:A former student has stalked me off and on for years. I taught a class at a Confucian temple for the community. One student was so shy she couldn't even say her own name at first. Gradually she became used to me and would talk. When I finished the term, she followed me to the cram school where I taught. But that was expensive and she quit. Somehow she got my phone number and texted me several times asking me out. I never went anywhere with her. I just now have returned to Taiwan from two years in the states. Just before I returned, she called my old cell phone number (kept by my wife) and asked when I would return. What can I do about this stalker.


I know it may sounds obvious... but have you said no to her? Sometimes they (stalkers) think a no means maybe.. You did not write details so it's hard to say anything on the topic.

Second thought: running away is not an option. Cutting her off is.

Have a nice day.
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Re: Stalker

Postby bumclouds » 18 Jun 2012, 11:37

Isha wrote:How about getting a new phone number?


That's what I thought lol. Seems like the pretty obvious solution?
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