50 Years Old--Is it too late for me?

[KeLun]

Russ, meet Mei, Mei, meet Russ.

You're welcome, have fun.

Seriously now, I wouldn't know about late forties or early fifties, but indeed amongst the singles in the late thirties and early forties, the hunt for a husband seems wildly popular -- that was the meaning of my "for both our sakes". Plenty of friends in Taiwan wanting to help a single woman to "settle"... Take that as you will.

[usrabbit]

he will meet females in the following settings:

1. Work related.
2. Church related, if he goes.
3. Taiwanese friends or co-workers introducing him to some.
4. Perhaps if he is a little outgoing , he will chat up or be chatted up by females in the weirdest places, IE street, coffee shop or whatever.

amongst the singles in the late thirties and early forties, the hunt for a husband seems wildly popular

What if the man in question is not looking for a wife? I can't speak for the OP, but that was my situation in China, and may soon be my situation in Taipei. In China, I had friends who could have provided introductions, but in most cases they would first ask if I'm looking for a wife. After saying I wasn't, they didn't introduce me to anyone. What I'm wondering is whether the fact of being uninterested in marriage would close off that avenue (i.e., personal introductions) of finding dates in Taiwan, as it did for me in China (while understanding that other avenues may still be open).

[mei0319]

Yeah, if you are not interested in serious relationship, I wouldn't know who I could introduce you, either. Even if I really don't like some of them...

[headhonchoII]

It's not worth introducing people for it all to blow back into your face when it goes wrong. Especially people who just want to have a bit of fun. BTW is the OP married or not?

[steelersman]

I don't think your problem is going to be how to get a woman in Taiwan. Its going to be how to survive one ! And propel yourself out of Taiwan's orbit . But then again , you may choose not to ....propel yourself out of the orbit. Taiwan is easy to get to, could be hard to get out of if you spend a long stretch there.

I have the feeling that the OP prefers his well paying job over any unstable job he would get in Taiwan.

[Russ62]

Whoa! Not married but would be open to the idea if I met the right person. I don't think it's a good idea though to go into any relationship with that as your primary goal. If you do, you might make a terrible mistake. I think of dating as a way to enjoy time with someone else. If someone turns out to be the right person for you then the thought of marriage will appear of its own accord. Am I being naive especially considering the culture in Taiwan? Please set me on the right path to bliss!!!

[tommy525]

Whoa! Not married but would be open to the idea if I met the right person. I don't think it's a good idea though to go into any relationship with that as your primary goal. If you do, you might make a terrible mistake. I think of dating as a way to enjoy time with someone else. If someone turns out to be the right person for you then the thought of marriage will appear of its own accord. Am I being naive especially considering the culture in Taiwan? Please set me on the right path to bliss!!!

A lot of Taiwanese are not good time girls, they want to marry you and feel that coming out with you means that is your possible intention. A lot of them feel jilted and are very hard to get rid of when they realize you do not have marriage in mind.

So you have to be very very very upfront from the very very beginning. And even then, you could hit a hag (snag, I mean snag ) :P

[Russ62]

Whoa! Not married but would be open to the idea if I met the right person. I don't think it's a good idea though to go into any relationship with that as your primary goal. If you do, you might make a terrible mistake. I think of dating as a way to enjoy time with someone else. If someone turns out to be the right person for you then the thought of marriage will appear of its own accord. Am I being naive especially considering the culture in Taiwan? Please set me on the right path to bliss!!!

A lot of Taiwanese are not good time girls, they want to marry you and feel that coming out with you means that is your possible intention. A lot of them feel jilted and are very hard to get rid of when they realize you do not have marriage in mind.

So you have to be very very very upfront from the very very beginning. And even then, you could hit a hag (snag, I mean snag ) :P

So, if I understood you correctly, dating is seen primarily as a means to an end at least by the typical Taiwanese female? That's good information to know.

[mei0319]

I think it may be different if you and your dates are younger, like in your 20's, but in your age group, I think your dates may really prefer the relationship is progressing to a marriage. Those who is okay with casual dating, may not be nice ones. It's jus my thought, I don't know anyone local here who's older than myself and single.

[tommy525]

Yes one of them literally opened the door to my car in downtown Taipei and attempted to throw herself out while we were travelling at bout 60kph ! I ended up marrying her and then I felt like I shouldve thrown myself out the car instead But alls well that ends well. (we are with different people, the both of us).

You just have to be aware. A lot of (younger) ladies feel you want a relationship if you ask them to go out. MOst of them dont want to be F*ck buddies.

However, thats not to say its not possible to find ladies who are perhaps 40 plus who are aware of a guys "needs" and willing to put out without expecting marriage. These ladies may possibly be divorced and with children so they may only want you for fun but not want you to be their kids daddy !