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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby hansioux » 22 Apr 2013, 09:55

ehophi wrote:I graduated from high school in New Mexico, and I went to massage school there immediately thereafter. I worked in two Asian restaurants to pay for the massage school tuition.

That's also how I learned a bulk of my Spanish.


There was a Chinese restaurant on Mesa street in El Paso, which was owned by some Chinese dude. When I went the first couple of time, the food was the standard affair, every dish was dark with soy sauce and tasted not much like actual Chinese food. More like a better Panda Express. The people in the kitchen were mostly Hispanics.

But then the owner eventually came out to greet us, and after he has gotten acquainted with my parents, every time we go, he would go into the kitchen and I suppose cook for us, or specially instructed how to cook for us. From then on the food was pretty decent Canton style cooking.
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby mukashi » 26 Apr 2013, 13:32

美佳(Meka) wrote:
aceman wrote:Hello, I'm curious to see what the dating mentality of white girls in Taiwan is. Here's a few simple questions for the white ladies on this forum:

1) Have you dated Asian guys while living in Asia, and if so how was your experience?
2) If you have dated Asians, did you genuinely wanted to pursue serious relationships with them, or was it more like just flings due to a "lack of options" or "boredom/loneliness" in Asia?
3) Have you dated Asian guys in the West, before you moved to Asia? Would you date Asian guys if you move back to the West now?
4) Have living in Asia changed your perception of Asian guys, positively or negatively?
5) Any difference between different types of Asians, ie Taiwanese, Mainlanders, Koreans, Japanese, Asian-Americans, etc?
6) Do your white female friends in Asia date Asian guys? What about your female friends back home in the West?


Share your thoughts!


:thumbsup: 1. I haven't dated Asia guys while living in Asia because I haven't lived in Asia yet. I am moving there in the fall for a study abroad program. :D
2. I would want a relationship.
3. I have dated mostly Asian guys here in the U.S. I would date them anywhere...in a house, with a mouse...lol :roll: jk...but really I would. I have always had positive experiences.
4. I hope living in Asia only improves my perception of Asian guys :wink:
5. There are some differences...haven't dated Taiwanese guys but have dated Japanese/Korean, Asian-Americans, Maylasian/Mainlander mixes.
6. I actually don't have a single female friend who dates Asian guys :cry: I think that is sad but mostly they want white, spanish, or black guys...but most of my friends aren't white either. (I'm half Mediterranean and French born in America) but I look really white.

Hope that helps!


Ok, sorry for skipping all the Mexico/Mexican food talk... I had to check the name of this thread a few times to be sure my eyes are not playing tricks.

But,
a) I am dating a Taiwanese in here. But he was in US before, and he is pretty western minded. I took me very long to find a local guy here, and after a while I understood, if there would be any it would be one that has lived abroad before and has this more experienced and open-minded personality
b) So yeah, if you wanna talk Asian man once you're here, feel free to PM me :D
c) There are big differences in typical Japanese/Koreans/ABCs/Taiwanese etc. I mean there will always be exceptions, but in general. For me, Taiwanese guys are more what I'm looking for.

And as for Taiwan Luthiers... I think the missionaries and those girls in the churches, they usually are very kind and helpful to people, you could say, they go the extra mile and so on... because they want to save your soul. Most of them will be really faithful to God, and will probably not go far with you in the relationship without wedding. So unless you have same set of believes, don't get your hopes high. I think religious differences may be much more difficult to overcome than the racial/nationality ones. It's not the Western/Asian problem. I know very faithful Taiwanese Christians, who got married to someone after just meeting them officially through church (the meeting was for the marriage intention). I mean, for me it's crazy, but I can tolerate it, though this would not be a community at which I would look for a boyfriend (fiance).

Otherwise, good luck~
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby louisfriend » 26 Apr 2013, 22:20

hansioux wrote:
ehophi wrote:I graduated from high school in New Mexico, and I went to massage school there immediately thereafter. I worked in two Asian restaurants to pay for the massage school tuition.

That's also how I learned a bulk of my Spanish.


There was a Chinese restaurant on Mesa street in El Paso, which was owned by some Chinese dude. When I went the first couple of time, the food was the standard affair, every dish was dark with soy sauce and tasted not much like actual Chinese food. More like a better Panda Express. The people in the kitchen were mostly Hispanics.

But then the owner eventually came out to greet us, and after he has gotten acquainted with my parents, every time we go, he would go into the kitchen and I suppose cook for us, or specially instructed how to cook for us. From then on the food was pretty decent Canton style cooking.


It's off topic from the thread, but since we're talking about Chinese food now I thought I would throw this in:

I don't know how things work in El Paso, but what I've observed in New Mexico is a predictable cycle of the Chinese restaurants in that state. They will start out with your average crap Americanized Cantonese type cheap Chinese food (i.e. akin to panda express). The hordes of clueless fat locals with a taste for fine Asian cuisine comparable to the bread and cheese connoisseurs in Taiwan come snorting in and filling up all the tables. Most of the places are buffets, but some are by order. The family has the daughters waiting tables while the Mexicans cook and clean dishes if the family doesn't have enough members already to fill all the positions. Everything goes great for a couple of years or so while the locals get fatter and the family gets richer. Then suddenly the already sub-par food becomes a little less fresh, a little less tasty...while the Chinese owners can be seen in the back room eating pizza around lunch time. The locals don't really notice the change much at first, but perhaps come in a little less often after the initial feeding frenzy. But the next year things take a turn for the worst and even some of the locals start to notice the dive in quality. The tables aren't all full anymore. There are still some hanging on for the unlimited calories at a decent price sort of appeal, that and the soft serve. Then suddenly they're out of business and moved away. But that's ok, down a few streets there will be another one to replace it and the cycle will start all over again.

There are some that never seem to go away despite month after month of having an empty parking lot. I suspect they're just laundering money or involved in something else primary that is shiesty. No way they're making enough selling 3-day-old egg rolls to a handful of patrons each week to pay the lease
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby Gao Bohan » 27 Apr 2013, 08:19

louisfriend wrote:It's off topic from the thread, but since we're talking about Chinese food now I thought I would throw this in:

I don't know how things work in El Paso, but what I've observed in New Mexico is a predictable cycle of the Chinese restaurants in that state. They will start out with your average crap Americanized Cantonese type cheap Chinese food (i.e. akin to panda express). The hordes of clueless fat locals with a taste for fine Asian cuisine comparable to the bread and cheese connoisseurs in Taiwan come snorting in and filling up all the tables. Most of the places are buffets, but some are by order. The family has the daughters waiting tables while the Mexicans cook and clean dishes if the family doesn't have enough members already to fill all the positions. Everything goes great for a couple of years or so while the locals get fatter and the family gets richer. Then suddenly the already sub-par food becomes a little less fresh, a little less tasty...while the Chinese owners can be seen in the back room eating pizza around lunch time. The locals don't really notice the change much at first, but perhaps come in a little less often after the initial feeding frenzy. But the next year things take a turn for the worst and even some of the locals start to notice the dive in quality. The tables aren't all full anymore. There are still some hanging on for the unlimited calories at a decent price sort of appeal, that and the soft serve. Then suddenly they're out of business and moved away. But that's ok, down a few streets there will be another one to replace it and the cycle will start all over again.

There are some that never seem to go away despite month after month of having an empty parking lot. I suspect they're just laundering money or involved in something else primary that is shiesty. No way they're making enough selling 3-day-old egg rolls to a handful of patrons each week to pay the lease


That sounds about right. It's kind of a distorted American Dream.
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby tommy525 » 27 Apr 2013, 09:19

OR in some cases Foreign (foreign to the USA) people have a business investment type visa . They have to hire five American citizens for a period of 2 years.

After that they get to keep their previously provisional green cards.

Then the restaurant can fold. IT was not there to be viable.
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby Taiwan Luthiers » 27 Apr 2013, 10:13

I don't like the whole business investment visa thing... it seems to favor large corporations than small businesses, besides anyone with a lot of money can simply start a non-viable business simply to get the visa.

As for my situation, I don't know where else I can go meet girls. I don't want to go to some sleazy place like Roxy 99 or Carnagie's to meet girls because it's expensive (I'm making 1/4 of an average English teacher's salary) and it's not likely for me to meet anyone worthy anyways. I wish the Christian girls could lighten up a little bit, and as long as sex isn't involved before wedding everything should be fine but some of them are almost Muslim-like with regards to how they handle relationships... I even wonder if marriage is arranged too. I am a Christian too so it's not like I don't share their religious belief, just that they seem to expect way too much.
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby tommy525 » 27 Apr 2013, 11:41

how bout a mail order bride ? :)Or do what im doing. met someone online and chat with her for five years, then go over and meet her for real and then make marriage plans?

lots of great girls not happy with their own dating environments either.
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby Taiwan Luthiers » 27 Apr 2013, 11:52

Either I look like shit or something because every online dating profile I've gotten has either no views or messages, or when I try to talk to someone the conversation doesn't last long... As for mail order bride it costs money, and you still end up with a crappy marriage because she's just here for the money. Might as well go to Amsterdam and rent a woman for a few hours...
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby mukashi » 27 Apr 2013, 12:32

Well, maybe the time is not right... sometimes having the profile is not enough... need to update it, and you know try to write more specifically about your interests. I did take me like 4-5 years before I met the love of my life there (hope's he's not reading this forum hehe).

As for church girls... I was going to church here for a few years now. I think... the missionary people are much more conservative Christians that those that stay back home in Western countries. I still think you can find someone. Get a cat, maybe, once I've got mine as a clear "I give up", 2 months later I was with my man :D worked like a charm :D
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Re: White girls dating Asian guys?

Postby Taiwan Luthiers » 27 Apr 2013, 12:36

I got a cat... didn't seem to work. I guess that's the only pussy I will ever have.
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