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Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby Hank79 » 19 Jan 2013, 13:05

Hi guys

I'm new to the forum and was wondering if I could get some advice. I'm from Australia.....half thai in origin and have started to date a lovely Taiwanese girl. She is 31 and is studying English here. I'm very attracted to her and we click really well. This May she is going back to Taiwan and I hope she can either come back to Australia or I could pursue my dream of teaching English abroad.....hopefully in Taiwan.

I was wanting some advice on do's and don't s so I don't make any cultural mistakes. I was also wondering if a Taiwanese girl will expect marriage if she is going steady with you.

Thanks heaps
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby tommy525 » 19 Jan 2013, 13:25

Yes on marriage (in most cases).

dos and donts ? Well treat her like a human being. Shes not really that different ! TAiwan is quite modern you know? Shes been exposed to a lot of western things that you are exposed to.

Some small things. Dont give her an umbrella as a gift, its means you will split apart. AS the chinese word for umbrella is close to the chinese word for splitting apart.

Dont give her hankerchiefs as a present as "it will bring tears to your relationship " (either that or you will blow your nose a lot? ) :)

Dont give her shoes as a present because that will make her run away from you (its not true but if u do ask her for a small token payment).

Dont give her white flowers, as those are used in funerals. White signifies purity AND DEATH.

But really shes not some alien ya know?

Chances are she will respond "just like a real girl" similar to ozzie girls given the same situation.

But yes, shes 31, shes going to be at least interested that a relationship heads somewhere.

Shes getting close to her "sell by" date :lol:
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby Hank79 » 20 Jan 2013, 14:15

Thanks for the advice man. It's a shame no one else chipped in, could of been a good thread for others in the same situation.
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby tommy525 » 20 Jan 2013, 14:27

have patience, the thread may yet get discovered.

each thread is like a young starlet. Some make it big, others whimper out.
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby Indiana » 20 Jan 2013, 15:11

Browse the Dating and Relationships forum...there is a heck of a lot on there and many people have asked the same type of question that you have posted.

There are a lot of cultural differences and her mindset will be very, very different from yours most likely, so it's good to educate and prepare yourself (especially if you're considering a future move to Taiwan).

Good luck!
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby Mucha Man » 20 Jan 2013, 15:12

Well, there are dozens of similar threads.

For do's and don'ts try the actual book:

http://www.amazon.com/Dos-Donts-Taiwan- ... B005H5GHQ4
“Everywhere else in the world is also really old” said Prof. Liu, a renowned historian at Beijing University. “We always learn that China has 5000 years of cultural heritage, and that therefore we are very special. It appears that other places also have some of this heritage stuff. And are also old. Like, really old.”

https://www.facebook.com/taiwantemples
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby ranlee » 04 Feb 2013, 15:05

I'm a American Born Taiwanese from Jersey and I have been with my Taiwanese girlfriend for over a year now. To get some quick facts out of the way, I'm younger than her by 5 years and she's also nearing her "sell by" date and did and still doing long distance with her. Before it was Jersey, now I'm in China, she's been in Taiwan this whole time.

Getting into the relationship we actually talked about our age and how at her age, family members would always be nagging her about getting married. Luckily, no pressure was given to me on her side. However, I know in the not too distant future, the topic is going to come up again.

Anyways, here's some things I learned doing long distance with her as well as the time I've physically been with her.

-<b>Let her decide when she wants you to meet her parents.</b>
In the states, I was always pretty chill about gf's meeting my parents and me meeting my gf's parents. However, in Taiwan (and I think Asian culture) it's quite different. My parents met my girlfriend, but I have yet to meet her parents. I feel like when the guy meets the girl's parents, they judge you like crazy and will think this is the guy she's going to marry, he better be perfect and make lots of $$ to support my girl. If he's not, parents may disapprove.

-<b>Let her make the decision</b>
Whether it's, where you're going to go for dinner, or if you can't decide what shirt to wear, let her decide. I think this may be for all women across the world, but I have come to realize that if I make a decision, even though she says yes to your decision, you're going to pay for it later. This has happened to me countless times where I decide on something and she just plays along like nothing is wrong, but later when we get home she brings it up and makes me feel horrible for making her suffer through my decision.

That's all I can think of at the moment, but good luck! Hope this helps and everything works out for you! Taiwanese girls are the best!
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby Indiana » 04 Feb 2013, 19:31

ranlee wrote:
-<b>Let her make the decision</b>
Whether it's, where you're going to go for dinner, or if you can't decide what shirt to wear, let her decide. I think this may be for all women across the world, but I have come to realize that if I make a decision, even though she says yes to your decision, you're going to pay for it later. This has happened to me countless times where I decide on something and she just plays along like nothing is wrong, but later when we get home she brings it up and makes me feel horrible for making her suffer through my decision.


You let her make all of the decisions from where you're going to what you wear and if you make the decision yourself, she makes you pay for it later? This sounds really miserable, as if you are letting her take away all of your independence. :2cents:
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby robert the bruce » 04 Feb 2013, 20:05

Indiana wrote:
ranlee wrote:
-<b>Let her make the decision</b>
Whether it's, where you're going to go for dinner, or if you can't decide what shirt to wear, let her decide. I think this may be for all women across the world, but I have come to realize that if I make a decision, even though she says yes to your decision, you're going to pay for it later. This has happened to me countless times where I decide on something and she just plays along like nothing is wrong, but later when we get home she brings it up and makes me feel horrible for making her suffer through my decision.


You let her make all of the decisions from where you're going to what you wear and if you make the decision yourself, she makes you pay for it later? This sounds really miserable, as if you are letting her take away all of your independence. :2cents:



She is 5 years older so she can decide what he should wear.
My ex-GF used to dictate what I should wear but I just said NO, I kept my crocs instead of her, I am actually happy with my decision. It saved lots of $$$ for me. She wanted to give me a total makeover (that I was going to pay, not her) because I wasn't fashionable like the local guys, I didn't even own a purple/pink, magenta shirt. I'm the typical foreigner lad who wears T-shirt, jeans, crocs or sneakers and feel good to go.
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby Indiana » 04 Feb 2013, 20:12

robert the bruce wrote:
Indiana wrote:
ranlee wrote:
-<b>Let her make the decision</b>
Whether it's, where you're going to go for dinner, or if you can't decide what shirt to wear, let her decide. I think this may be for all women across the world, but I have come to realize that if I make a decision, even though she says yes to your decision, you're going to pay for it later. This has happened to me countless times where I decide on something and she just plays along like nothing is wrong, but later when we get home she brings it up and makes me feel horrible for making her suffer through my decision.


You let her make all of the decisions from where you're going to what you wear and if you make the decision yourself, she makes you pay for it later? This sounds really miserable, as if you are letting her take away all of your independence. :2cents:



She is 5 years older so she can decide what he should wear.
My ex-GF used to dictate what I should wear but I just said NO, I kept my crocs instead of her, I am actually happy with my decision. It saved lots of $$$ for me. She wanted to give me a total makeover (that I was going to pay, not her) because I wasn't fashionable like the local guys, I didn't even own a purple/pink, magenta shirt. I'm the typical foreigner lad who wears T-shirt, jeans, crocs or sneakers and feel good to go.


Good for you!!!!

Although I have to admit that if my husband ever wanted to buy Crocs, I would have to put my foot down on that one! :)
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