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Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby ironlady » 28 Apr 2013, 20:39

lemerou wrote:Well the line bewteen an escort and a regular girl is pretty thin.
As most women has, have been and will trade sex for confort and money in her life in a way or another, be it explicit or non explicit.
(not PC to say this, I know).


Not only not PC (which I don't give a crap about). Just ignorantly overgeneralized.
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby KathrynEWyant » 21 Dec 2013, 18:04

just be yourself and dont worry about trying hard or anything, she will think its really sweet and cute. I don't think the fact that she's taiwanese changes anything. if you love her then it shouldn't matter. =)

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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby GiantDave » 22 Dec 2013, 22:07

I am no expert but don't sell yourself short.

If you give off the impression that you are desperate and will pay for everything then she will take advantage of that.

In my relationship we earn about the same money so we pay half and half. I told her that if she wants someone to pay for everything then there are plenty of other guys. She didn't leave and if she did then I wouldn't want to be with her anyway.

Of course I treat her now and again but that is what makes it special and not just something she expects and not from asking. If you want to invest with the relationship with me it's half and half (or fair according to your earnings or nothing)

That is just how I see it, girls these days have nearly the same opportunity and anyone I date who tells me it's their culture I tell them they are free to date a Taiwanese guy.

Set your standards high or you could regret it in the long run. (This is just how I think and if you want to be the guy who pays for everything good for you, I have nothing against it! Just saying if you don't like it stand up for yourself there are many many other girls if it doesn't work out!)
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby AussieWar » 29 Dec 2013, 00:35

Hank79 wrote:Hi guys

I'm new to the forum and was wondering if I could get some advice. I'm from Australia.....half thai in origin and have started to date a lovely Taiwanese girl. She is 31 and is studying English here. I'm very attracted to her and we click really well. This May she is going back to Taiwan and I hope she can either come back to Australia or I could pursue my dream of teaching English abroad.....hopefully in Taiwan.

I was wanting some advice on do's and don't s so I don't make any cultural mistakes. I was also wondering if a Taiwanese girl will expect marriage if she is going steady with you.

Thanks heaps



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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby Lros » 29 Dec 2013, 19:56

ranlee wrote:I'm a American Born Taiwanese from Jersey and I have been with my Taiwanese girlfriend for over a year now. To get some quick facts out of the way, I'm younger than her by 5 years and she's also nearing her "sell by" date and did and still doing long distance with her. Before it was Jersey, now I'm in China, she's been in Taiwan this whole time.

Getting into the relationship we actually talked about our age and how at her age, family members would always be nagging her about getting married. Luckily, no pressure was given to me on her side. However, I know in the not too distant future, the topic is going to come up again.

Anyways, here's some things I learned doing long distance with her as well as the time I've physically been with her.

-<b>Let her decide when she wants you to meet her parents.</b>
In the states, I was always pretty chill about gf's meeting my parents and me meeting my gf's parents. However, in Taiwan (and I think Asian culture) it's quite different. My parents met my girlfriend, but I have yet to meet her parents. I feel like when the guy meets the girl's parents, they judge you like crazy and will think this is the guy she's going to marry, he better be perfect and make lots of $$ to support my girl. If he's not, parents may disapprove.

-<b>Let her make the decision</b>
Whether it's, where you're going to go for dinner, or if you can't decide what shirt to wear, let her decide. I think this may be for all women across the world, but I have come to realize that if I make a decision, even though she says yes to your decision, you're going to pay for it later. This has happened to me countless times where I decide on something and she just plays along like nothing is wrong, but later when we get home she brings it up and makes me feel horrible for making her suffer through my decision.

That's all I can think of at the moment, but good luck! Hope this helps and everything works out for you! Taiwanese girls are the best!


this is terrible advice and a pathetic way to live.

chinese women do like to have a degree of control and if you give them and inch they will take a mile.. they learned it from their already mentioned nagging parents...things will only get worse as the relationship goes on. you can say goodbye to being a man if you start on this sort of path..
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby Belgian Pie » 30 Dec 2013, 10:20

Yes, agree with the above ... and many Taiwanese girls have no clue about fashion and combining colors ... djeez, bad advice.

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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby thejaguar » 11 Mar 2014, 06:30

just out of curiosity, everyone's been talking about how girls expect the guy to pay... but im curious on what you guys think of this situation....

I've talked to this Taiwanese girl for like on and off for like 3 or 4 years. And finally met up with her on my latest trip to Taiwan. Spent like two nights w/ her going to Night Markets, walking around, and going to different food places.

She practically paid or wanted to pay the entire time. I was able to pay for like a few things... but not able to reach fast enough for the check usually.

What do you guys think of this?

Of course, I don't know what the future will behold on us, we aren't "officially" dating... but just curious what this means.

I'm a ABT so not really good at Mandarin, we spoke Taiwanese, but her Taiwanese isn't that great, there might be lost in translations but 80% ish or more we were able to communicate about our feelings etc.
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby urodacus » 11 Mar 2014, 07:11

She could be really rich.

She could be seriously, seriously grooming you for marriage.

She could have a personality disorder that expresses itself as a compulsion to buy stuff.

She could be a ladyboy.




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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby finley » 11 Mar 2014, 07:17

Apart from the above possibilities, she may just be treating you as "the guest"; it's common for a host to cover everything for someone visiting for out-of-town. If she saw you as potential dating material, she'd be letting you pay. The fact that she doesn't suggests that, um, you're not.

OR she could be expecting you to make more effort arguing over the bill. Taiwanese people seem to delight in starting WW3 over who gets to pay.

Just my :2cents:

Incidentally, just want to add a +1 to Lros's comment above. You wouldn't put up with your mates throwing a wobbly (after the fact) about some trivial aspect of a night out, so why put up with it from a gf? As said, they tend to do this because they learned it from mum, who criticizes dad for absolutely everything he ever does. It's one thing to consult your mate over important decisions and take her opinion into account, but to allow her to make pisspoor decisions about every aspect of your life because there will be a tantrum if you don't ... that's dysfunctional, adolescent nonsense, and you have the choice to either call them out on it, or walk away and find a grownup to date.
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Re: Advice and tips on dating taiwanese girls

Postby thejaguar » 11 Mar 2014, 13:56

Okay, all these reasons seems interesting except the ladyboy one lol. Which I hope not.. and im sure she isn't.

Anyways, but I mean we did a lot what I would call dating stuff, from walking to dating spots, walking in the park. Many times I would put my arms around her, no flinching or uncomfortable. We even talked about future, family, likes/dislikes. I mean what are really the signs that I would be looking for if i go back to Taiwan more "permanent" basis? When we talked about how relationship wise, she felt it was far or long distance which I said you know if you think I'm the right guy just wait for me to come back. She was keen to the idea.

I mean look we both knew that these two nights could be only time if I don't come back anyways. She doesn't know a lick of English so coming to the states would be not ideal for her anyways, but she did say she will move w/ to US hypothetically if she married a guy who's from America.

I mean really I'm more interested in what I should have looked for, maybe i can better analyze my encounter. I mean I'm not keeping my hopes up but I think she's pretty chill to be with and worth pursuing.
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