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local guys talking smack about you?

Postby Lros » 12 Jun 2013, 19:48

today my gf told me that some guy said 匚匚尺 fang fang che? to her when we walked past them. she said it means shes a girl that only likes foreigners or something like that? i didnt really probe on it, i thought it would be best to ask on here as to what it means, or is there other stuff they say.

as when i first heard laowai i thought it was offensive, but later learned it isnt. is this a similar kind of thing or is it actually offensive? and if it is, what is the best way to deal with it? ive been told i can get sued for flipping people off so..
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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby the bear » 12 Jun 2013, 20:29

Lros wrote:today my gf told me that some guy said 匚匚尺 fang fang che? to her when we walked past them. she said it means shes a girl that only likes foreigners or something like that? i didnt really probe on it, i thought it would be best to ask on here as to what it means, or is there other stuff they say.

as when i first heard laowai i thought it was offensive, but later learned it isnt. is this a similar kind of thing or is it actually offensive? and if it is, what is the best way to deal with it? ive been told i can get sued for flipping people off so..


I think it more likely he called her a public bus (gong gong qiche) i.e. everyone rides her. Honestly though, if you don't understand what's being said then its best you let it go. Its really not a good state of mind to be in if you're walking around worrying what people are saying about you in a language you don't speak.
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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby Lros » 12 Jun 2013, 22:14

well she didnt say it was that. she explained what was said. i just dont know if it was intended as offensive or not.

im not really paranoid about that sort of thing, my gf heard it and told me. I have heard enough to know the local guys have a bit of a hang up with foreign guys, I am not really bothered about that either way but i didn't expect them to be taking it so far to be talking offensive things publicly about laowais or their gfs. i just want know if its offensive, is this a common occurrence and whats the best way to react. even if its just a good old stare down... im guessing that will do the job in these parts.

and damn dude, if someone called your gf a public bus you would just say nothing? would she be happy with that?
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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby nonredneck » 12 Jun 2013, 22:24

Consider that being confrontational is against the culture here. I think you might make her lose face by arguing with the guys. I'm not the expert so it's possible I'm wrong.
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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby tango42 » 12 Jun 2013, 22:27

Just imagine your way above stupid people making stupid comments...

What was the situation and what kind of guys?
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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby Tempo Gain » 12 Jun 2013, 22:40

nonredneck wrote:Consider that being confrontational is against the culture here. I think you might make her lose face by arguing with the guys. I'm not the expert so it's possible I'm wrong.


For some perspective on this, try going up to a local couple and calling the woman a "public bus." It's going to be a bit of a crap shoot :)
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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby tommy525 » 12 Jun 2013, 23:13

Some TW guys are very jealous of foreigners stealing their women. As if they could have the same women in the first place. Let it go, its just jealousy. Think of it as a compliment of your choice of a woman. They think shes hot, so they are jealous.

If I went around beating up everyone calling me a Tok pee ah, when I was growing up in Taiwan....
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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby Novaspes » 13 Jun 2013, 01:36

This reminds me of my first girlfriend in Taiwan and how she would purposefully walk close to gangs of tai-kes, hoping to goad them into shouting something offensive so that she could probe my reaction and get angry if it was anything short of ripping my shirt off and challenging 10+ guys to a fisticuffs.

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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby tommy525 » 13 Jun 2013, 01:39

Novaspes wrote:This reminds me of my first girlfriend in Taiwan and how she would purposefully walk close to gangs of tai-kes, hoping to goad them into shouting something offensive so that she could probe my reaction and get angry if it was anything short of ripping my shirt off and challenging 10+ guys to a fisticuffs.

That crazy bitch.


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Re: local guys talking smack about you?

Postby Tempo Gain » 13 Jun 2013, 01:48

Novaspes wrote:This reminds me of my first girlfriend in Taiwan and how she would purposefully walk close to gangs of tai-kes, hoping to goad them into shouting something offensive so that she could probe my reaction and get angry if it was anything short of ripping my shirt off and challenging 10+ guys to a fisticuffs.

That crazy bitch.


A related thought occurred to me when reading the OP. I agree with Icon, but a lot depends on the level of understanding and trust in the relationship. I'm not sure what "fang fang che" means, but in my 20-plus years any related commentary has been extremely rare. The most extreme case that comes to mind was a couple of students outside the bakery on Shi-Da Road one evening "一個夠嗎?" who were so clearly abashed by our morally surprised (and in my case understanding) miens that the conversation went no further. Now there are looks and staring here and there, but not many words at all. I'll say though that I'm not tall, and dark-haired, and I have a theory that I'm therefore less susceptible to such things than taller, lighter-haired people.
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