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Threesomes / Polyamory ?

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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby hkbforum » 21 Nov 2015, 09:45

You pretty much answered both questions I think, but here's a better explanation of what I was trying to say:

I'm in a polyamorous relationship and have no problem being open and honest about it. However, given the responses above, I have the impression that if I were to pursue someone local, being honest about my relationship would scare them off, and I would have better results if the situation was perceived as cheating. My question is something like this: if I were to frame the situation as cheating, in the local Taiwanese cultural perspective, would the local generally prefer to be the person I am cheating on my current partner to be with? Would they generally prefer to be the person I am cheating on? Or does it not matter either way?
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby NonTocareLeTete » 21 Nov 2015, 14:30

hkbforum wrote:You pretty much answered both questions I think, but here's a better explanation of what I was trying to say:

I'm in a polyamorous relationship and have no problem being open and honest about it. However, given the responses above, I have the impression that if I were to pursue someone local, being honest about my relationship would scare them off, and I would have better results if the situation was perceived as cheating. My question is something like this: if I were to frame the situation as cheating, in the local Taiwanese cultural perspective, would the local generally prefer to be the person I am cheating on my current partner to be with? Would they generally prefer to be the person I am cheating on? Or does it not matter either way?


Oh jesus I have no idea. My mind is shorting out just thinking that some people would prefer to help someone cheat than to be part of an honest situation :eek:
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby jesus80 » 21 Nov 2015, 20:05

Yeah, people would rather get laid with someone who doesn't want to get emotionally involved with than to be involved with that person and to know that she (or he) is having sex with another. At least most of the people.
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby hkbforum » 21 Nov 2015, 22:38

So in a situation where people are having sex without getting emotionally involved, are there expectations of monogamy? Or is it a don't ask don't tell sort of thing?
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby headhonchoII » 21 Nov 2015, 23:20

Emm..I think you won't get an answer from anyone..just keep shagging until it doesn't feel right anymore. Works for much of the population.
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby jesus80 » 22 Nov 2015, 02:21

hkbforum wrote:So in a situation where people are having sex without getting emotionally involved, are there expectations of monogamy? Or is it a don't ask don't tell sort of thing?

Not sure why you ask, but not necessarily. But again depending on the situation it could happen. But perhaps then there would be some sort of feelings, right?
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby finley » 23 Nov 2015, 20:08

hkbforum wrote:So in a situation where people are having sex without getting emotionally involved, are there expectations of monogamy? Or is it a don't ask don't tell sort of thing?

Does this even happen? The sex must be pretty mediocre if you don't develop some sort of feelings for whoever-it-is.

You need to be asking the person(s) concerned. There are no rules to follow, especially if you're flirting with the grey edges of conventional relationships.

However, given the responses above, I have the impression that if I were to pursue someone local, being honest about my relationship would scare them off, and I would have better results if the situation was perceived as cheating.

No. At least, not necessarily.
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