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Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby nomador » 11 Oct 2014, 11:41

How are attitudes in Taiwan towards threesomes and polyamory? Is it socially shunned upon or just not commonly known?

Say a couple is looking to share some experiences with another girl, where would be a good place to start?
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby Xeno » 11 Oct 2014, 12:45

Assuming you're asking about local people, it's complex. There is strong social pressure for women to appear chaste and virginal. People seem more comfortable and accepting of infidelity than polyamory/open relationships. Looking for connections openly probably won't work. If you find anything at all it'll likely be covert, in a way that nobody else can see or find out about... and going about it the usual ethical way of openly communicating and negotiating will probably just scare people off. But hey, YMMV. All anyone can do with a question like this is generalize from personal experience so it's not like this is accepted as fact or anything.

As for non-Asian foreigners... well, you never know!
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby NonTocareLeTete » 11 Oct 2014, 20:44

nomador wrote:How are attitudes in Taiwan towards threesomes and polyamory? Is it socially shunned upon or just not commonly known?

Say a couple is looking to share some experiences with another girl, where would be a good place to start?


I've been propositioned by couples more in Taiwan (3 times) then I ever was in America (1 time), but in Taiwan it was always a couple made up of a foreign guy and a Taiwanese girl. Not sure if that helps you.
I think online is probably the best place for anyone who wants to fulfill their less-than-mainstream fantasies- perhaps an honest dating website profile?
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby nomador » 14 Oct 2014, 09:06

Thank you both for your answers. It would be cool to read more from personal experience as well if anyone would like to share.

NonTocareLeTete wrote:perhaps an honest dating website profile?

Which are the popular websites/apps around Taiwan?
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby MoTi » 14 Nov 2014, 19:00

@ 007
and THIS is your first post here ???
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby finley » 14 Nov 2014, 19:57

@ 007
and THIS is your first post here ???


You'd think James Bond would be getting all the action he needs already.

To the OP: there is as much ... variation in behaviour here as there is anywhere else. They just talk about it less. At least until they get to know you. :whistle:

Adultfriendfinder.com is the only site that I know of that's openly about sex; however, it's changed a lot from its early days - the last time I checked, its main purpose appeared to be making money for the site operators rather than facilitating hookups.
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby nomador » 14 Nov 2014, 20:17

Thanks finley for your insights :)
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby CasualTaiwan » 10 Jan 2015, 07:20

nomador wrote:How are attitudes in Taiwan towards threesomes and polyamory? Is it socially shunned upon or just not commonly known?

Say a couple is looking to share some experiences with another girl, where would be a good place to start?


I can't comment on the first two questions, but maybe a bit on the last one. My experience was with 3 local couples looking for another man to join: contacts were through Adult Friend Finder (formerly aka Forumosa After Dark). Communication was quite hard, though, because back then my Chinese was almost non-existent.
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby hkbforum » 21 Nov 2015, 01:43

Xeno wrote:People seem more comfortable and accepting of infidelity than polyamory/open relationships. Looking for connections openly probably won't work. If you find anything at all it'll likely be covert, in a way that nobody else can see or find out about.


Let's say I'm in a polyamorous relationship and would like to pursue someone local. Does it matter whether I tell the local person I am in a relationship? In the local's perspective, is being the person I'm "cheating" with preferable to being the person I'm "cheating" on?
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Re: Threesomes / Polyamory ?

Postby NonTocareLeTete » 21 Nov 2015, 05:49

hkbforum wrote:
Let's say I'm in a polyamorous relationship and would like to pursue someone local. Does it matter whether I tell the local person I am in a relationship? In the local's perspective, is being the person I'm "cheating" with preferable to being the person I'm "cheating" on?


My understanding is that honesty is built into polyamory--- so if you don't tell the other person, maybe you should call it something different ;) I think any person would like to know the relationship status of someone they sleep with, unless they've made it absolutely clear that they're in it just for fun and don't want to know anything about your life.

I'm not sure what you meant by your second question.
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