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Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby Texmex12 » 04 Oct 2015, 14:46

As a white American married to a Taiwanese born American husband, I am seeking some advice from those who are better versed in Taiwanese culture.

I do not think my mother-in-law likes me and I feel she tries to control my husband and I. He is an only child so I guess it is difficult for her, however I still find it hard to deal with her.

She consults a fortune-teller for important dates, such as the date that we got married on etc… and I don’t have a problem with this at all.

However, my husband and I were about to put an offer in on a piece of land and she expressed that she did not feel it was the right time and we should wait a year or so. My husband explained our reasoning and that we still planned to go ahead, despite her reservations. She said this was our choice.

However, subsequently, later that same day she visited the fortune teller (whom she pays) and he said that if was not a good time for us to buy land and we should wait a year….. and that if we ignore this advice, something bad will happen. My husband is therefore saying we must wait a year, as he is fearful if we do not then something bad will happen to our son.

This seems like a big coincidence to me - that the fortune teller just so happened to say exactly the same thing as my m-in-law. In the past when family members have brought properties, they have consulted him re feng shui etc but never about when a good time to buy is.

Am I being too cynical????? Any opinions gratefully received.
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby headhonchoII » 04 Oct 2015, 16:16

No you've figured out how it works. I get the 'ji gong shuo' stuff all the time, fortunately 'ji gong' is pretty nice in our local temple and seems to say the right things. :)

Only you know how much compromising you want to take. You could wait a year if it's not a big difference, but if you've got a reason to speed things up, you can also push it. You can also play this game back and visit another fortune-teller/medium/pray to the spirits...who tell now is the right time as things have changed since um...last Tuesday.

By the way, is this your cash, your husbands or the parents cash?
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby Belgian Pie » 04 Oct 2015, 16:22

If you live-in with her she still has you to cook, do dishes and clean-up for a year! Keep up the good spirit, after all, this is Taiwan.
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby Texmex12 » 04 Oct 2015, 20:09

Thanks for the replies.

It is her cash and she seems to know him very well - I think he is a kind of family friend. We don't live with her - she is based in Taiwan and we are overseas.
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby zender » 05 Oct 2015, 07:19

Is your husband really superstitious?

I say you sit your husband down when you have time and explain to him what the JREF Million Dollar Challenge is. Maybe even show him some Youtube videos of fakes being exposed by Randi.

Anyone who can prove that they have supernatural powers (to predict the future, find water with a stick - no digging allowed . . . ) can demonstrate their powers and win a million bucks. The One Million Dollar Paranormal Challenge has been around for decades. People keep claiming to be able to tell your future for under $100, yet no one will/can do it for a million. :ponder: :ponder: :ponder:

Since no one has ever claimed this fortune, I think this is the most powerful way to plant a seed of doubt that might eventually convert people to reason. Hey! Maybe that fortune teller friend can claim it and help you buy your property. Suggest this to your husband and mother-in-law. :lol:
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*There are plenty of very logical people who think now is the wrong time to buy real estate in Taiwan. I'm one of them.
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1. Your MIL doesn't (seem to) like you.
2. She is controlling.
3. Your husband is an only child who does what Mommy says.
4. You're moving to Taiwan.
5. DON"T MOVE IN WITH HER!
6. Good luck!
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby robert the bruce » 05 Oct 2015, 09:42

Texmex12 wrote:Thanks for the replies.

It is her cash and she seems to know him very well - I think he is a kind of family friend. We don't live with her - she is based in Taiwan and we are overseas.


Since the cash is hers and your husband is the only child she has, she will probably tell him to buy a home in Taiwan (near her of course), not in the States. So since the money belong to your MIL, sorry you dont have much to say in this matter. And to not complicate her life she will tell you and the hubbie that the idea is from the fortune teller so your relationship with MIL will not get sour.
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby headhonchoII » 05 Oct 2015, 10:10

Power play from the MIL. Her cash, her rules. You move to Taiwan with the husband you better not live in or too close to the MILs. You should think about what job you will do and can you be financially independent. Your husband is exhibiting classic Taiwan eldest son syndrome.
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby Yang Gui Zi » 05 Oct 2015, 10:47

Texmex12 wrote:Thanks for the replies.

It is her cash and she seems to know him very well - I think he is a kind of family friend. We don't live with her - she is based in Taiwan and we are overseas.


I think I'm seeing a confusion in "It is her cash". I believe (might be wrong, but this is how I've read this thread) that the OP is referring to the cash paying for the fortune teller, not for purchasing the land. :2cents:
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby RickRooney » 05 Oct 2015, 12:44

Im not sure about the other stuff but from my experience the fortune tellers tell the moms exactly what they want to hear. My ex gfs mum didn't like me all that much and everything the fortune teller said was in line with that.
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Re: Taiwanese mother-in-law and fortune telling

Postby zender » 05 Oct 2015, 14:18

Yeah, fortune tellers tell ALL people exactly what they want to hear.

It's apparently good for repeat business. :ponder:
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I also think she meant that her MIL is paying for the faker teller.
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