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Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby splitsec002 » 27 Oct 2015, 17:42

First a little background. I'm 38. Living in the states. I'm Asian but I don't speak Chinese. This girl I met is from Taiwan, 32.

So a few months ago I met this Taiwanese girl. She was here for 2 weeks and we met through friends randomly. At first she ignored me, probably because I was drunk but a few days later we went out to have dinner in a group setting. Everyone was having a great time. We went out twice before she had to go back to Taiwan.

Since she got back we've been chatting it up a lot of wechat. Even with the language difference we still communicate a lot. We have a group chat of about 8 people, 4 guys, 4 girls. The Taiwanese girls talk to us all day. And mine, private chats with me ALOT. We guys, decide to go to Taiwan and book our tickets. Tickets are about 4 months out. Then 3 of these girls decides to come back to the US again. Because they "miss us" etc. This is only 2 months after they have left, and in another two months we will be in Taiwan to visit them.

Well throughout this time, we add each other on facebook etc. I find out that the girl I'm talking to is married. I asked if she was single before and she said she was. I was sad and she actually knew this but I wouldn't tell her the reason. About a month down the road, she says she doesn't want to lie to me anymore and tells me she has a boyfriend. We've already admitted that we're interested in each other. She texts me day and night and updates me on everything she does. It's obvious she does not live with her boyfriend/husband. Anyway recently I see on facebook that she really is married. Her story was that she is a model and what I saw was not her marriage but modeling pics. But I see other friends of her, so I'm convinced she is married. I learned that her husband is really busy, gives her a lot of space. I don't know how she can travel so much. I'm not sure if he makes a lot of money or not. She's also told me she will break up with her bf but I highly doubt this.

She's obviously somewhat interested. But she tells me she cannot come to the US and that I shouldn't like her because she's a bad girl. Because she lied to me. Well I'm just trying to figure what her intentions are. Can someone in Taiwan tell me what this girl is thinking? I've sent small gifts to her, really small in monetary value. And she tells me not to send anything at all. That she just want to come and visit and have fun with all of us. And don't spend a lot of money while we are there. She's coming in 3 days so I guess we'll see more then. But I'm still confused as to her intentions.

I'm a business man, I make a lot of money here. Probably over a million a year. I don't dress extravagantly but I'm sure these girls can tell I make a decent amount. They probably think I make 100-200k a year. I'm mentioning money because I've heard of Taiwanese girls trading up, or are materialistic etc.

If anyone has some insight pls share!
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby Ermintrude » 27 Oct 2015, 17:56

splitsec002 wrote:
She's obviously somewhat interested. But she tells me she cannot come to the US and that I shouldn't like her because she's a bad girl.


When someone says something like this, just believe them.

I don't doubt she wouldn't mind fucking you or having your flatter her because her husband's busy or boring or whatever, but that doesn't mean it's 'going anywhere'.
'And we'll hide from the cunts, on our night reconnaissance'.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby nonredneck » 27 Oct 2015, 22:29

Maybe she's bored and looking for an affair?
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby finley » 27 Oct 2015, 23:01

What nonredneck and Ermintrude said. Isn't it obvious?

FWIW I'd be a bit careful. She's not interesting in "trading up", but I suspect she might play head games.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby tommy525 » 28 Oct 2015, 00:40

It's a mess. Mess with her, she's a gonna mess with you and you is gonna get all messed up .

She's what T.Swift sings about ... nightmare dressed like a day dream.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby splitsec002 » 28 Oct 2015, 02:01

I Guess you guys are probably right. I even said to her once that she must be bored to spend so much time talking to me. So maybe I'll treat it as just that. Someone I can play around with. Thought that might be playing with fire lol. I already have a lot of feelings for this one. It's hard for me to get interested in people.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby tommy525 » 28 Oct 2015, 02:56

splitsec002 wrote:I Guess you guys are probably right. I even said to her once that she must be bored to spend so much time talking to me. So maybe I'll treat it as just that. Someone I can play around with. Thought that might be playing with fire lol. I already have a lot of feelings for this one. It's hard for me to get interested in people.


And therein lies the danger. Were she a car, she would be an Alfa Romeo, a thing desired by the HEART but the MIND should know better.

You are hooked on her, and its hard to not continue to fall further on the slippery slope. If you ain't equipped for this war, you may win a battle or two but ultimately you will be left picking up the pieces. This one you have to throw everything into the pot and hope you come up a winner. And you probably got less then half a chance as the house is going to win.

She's playing you like a cat with a mouse. Why do we call em pussycats eh? Women can often be diabolical. You can ask her (like Enigma) es-tu diabolique ou divin? But i suspect I know the answer and so do you.

Let's recap, she's got a husband and a boyfriend and shes out playing the field, sniffin around at who takes a fancy to her. Shes bored as heck and looking for adventure. She's the kind to make memorable memories with but ultimately will leave you with a broken heart. Trapped in distress like a rat down a sewer pipe.

If you ain't a playboy yourself , you are gonna get played big time. You will have to be a PLAYA to mess with this chick. Or at least BIG enough a rat that you can get out of that sewer on your OWN, cuz that is where you are gonna end up. On your OWN.

Lawd knows I BEEN THERE, done that, got several t-shirts !

But hey, at the end of the day, these women are likely to be the ones that you are gonna REMEMBER.

Gonna hate yourself maybe but you are going to REMEMBER em.

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So hey, its life. If you are brave enough, why not take the tumble. Just fall right in, forget the parachute, its not the fall that will kill you, its the landing !

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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby Andrew0409 » 28 Oct 2015, 03:40

Are you going to really be able to have a healthy relationship with her even if she leaves her husband for you? and thats a big if. I wouldn't ever want to have the thought of if someone is cheating on me all the time. I'd say just leave it.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby splitsec002 » 28 Oct 2015, 04:31

Lol at least you're making this funny Tommy! The husband/boyfriend is the same person. So basically first she said shes single when we all thought she's married. Then she tells me she has a bf. Says she doesnt want to lie blah blah. Probably to let me think there is chance. But I think really its a husband. I wonder if she actually believes what she says or is it all just BS.

Yeah you're right I'm already hooked. God dammit. Lol but I think now that I'm more clear about what's going on I can treat it for what it is. Just an affair on her side and just messing around on my side. I'm going to keep it cool when she's here in two days! But one day I'll put her on blast. Maybe in Taiwan when we go in January.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby splitsec002 » 28 Oct 2015, 04:35

@Andrew0409 What I'm really looking for is someone to get married and have kids. I've been feeling this for 3 years or so but can't find the right one. I'm really picky so it's hard to get interested in people. In dream world she would move to the US. I would probably give her a work visa. Then I'd pop a kid or two in her and then afterwards marry her lol. That would be the safest route.

She's not a bad person though. I can tell she's very sweet. Caring. works hard. Cares about her parents/family.

She's probably unhappy in someway with her man. Otherwise why would she do this right? And I'm also a little confused. She came to LA in AUG. Went to korea for 10 days in OCT. then 2 weeks later she's coming to LA for another 2 weeks. I'm surprised her man doesn't get angry or something...
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