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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby finley » 29 Oct 2015, 09:35

How can having sex with her put me in prison.

Adultery is a criminal offence in Taiwan. People are prosecuted for it quite regularly. It's a weird quirk of an otherwise quite open society (open in the 'don't ask, don't tell' sense).

With my girlfriends I was fine doing it just once every 2 weeks or so.

:eek: Not much point having one then.

Srsly, I'd say most women aren't going to be interested in a married life like that. I know sex isn't everything, but it's a pretty big part of a happy marriage, IMO. It's a bonding thing.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby tommy525 » 29 Oct 2015, 09:45

:D Don't, repeat Don't get married for sex. You end up with LESS sex then before marriage.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby Icon » 29 Oct 2015, 10:01

Seriously, guys, you cannot complain of any surprises after marriage. If you listen to what a woman says and what her actions say, instead of replaying sexual fantasies in your head or whatever it is that blocks the INPUT receptors, you'd have the information you need to make an adequate choice and then NOT be saying afterwards "I dunno what happened". LISTEN! Open your eyes and see what she does, good or bad, it is all there. No, she ain't lying. As we say in Spanish, ther eis no worse deaf person than the one who does not want to listen.

OP in particular has already made his mind up about this woman and nothing we say or nothing that anyone shows him will make him change. Has she lied? Yes. Does she respect him? No. Does he think he can have the upper hand in the relationship and "control" her? Oh yeah. Will that happen? Nope. The basic rule of dominating is that the power remains with the dominated: when they get tired of the game, they just turn the tables around. Many people feel guilty or inadequate or try to compensate by finding a partner that fulfills those desires of danger and fantasy... very little to do with reality. It is just a game, they tell themselves. I will give her all this and she in turn will love me. Nope, nope, nope.

The pros are good at what they do because they read their mark and respond accordingly, fulfill their desires and fears. A happy customer. And so is the next one, and the next. That is the key: secrecy, tailored service. Kiss don't tell. But only for a while. Next in line. Even a non pro can read a guy and give him what he wants but there will be cracks in the façade. If she marries him, there is a bigger chance of seeing through the cracks.. if he listens. We all know the cases of men made into silly putty in certain women's hands. The ones that get squeezed out of every single drop of self respect they had for themselves. Foreign or local, it is the same story. Everyone can see the train wreck miles ahead, except them guys who nail their eyes shut in spite of the horn blasting in their ears.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby RickRooney » 31 Oct 2015, 11:57

bruh.... I hope you sort this out, I'll be honest with you. your posts are quite hard to read without cringing.

she told you straight to your face that she is a bad girl. she wasn't lying. this type of girl is two a penny here, nothing special. move on. you are looking for a wife? great, this is the exact type you don't wanna wife. move on.

if you earn that type of money why don't you just come here for a holiday and find some other girls..
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby headhonchoII » 31 Oct 2015, 12:23

If you start rating yourself and others with this 6,7,8 shit well you get
Everything you deserve. Harsh words but you need to grow the fuck up no wonder you have problems finding somebody. You being lied to constantly and don't think that's really a problem. You have issues that you need to sort out dude. You are flying over some good time girls from Taiwan and expecting it to form into a marriage etc,?!?
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby aquaair0124 » 20 Nov 2015, 14:38

I think it is best not to get into a relationship with her because you are doubting her. Starting a relationship with someone you doubt will not be strong so i suggest you clear your doubts with her face to face while using some common sense instead of just blindly following what she says. She might have an intention to get close to you and it is no good to get involve with someone who is married. And it is not like she is the only woman in the world so not a really big issue. Just need to find the right person.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby Mr He » 20 Nov 2015, 15:16

Mr. He was in a slightly similar situation 4 years ago, however she was actually divorced and it happened in Taiwan.

My advice is to find someone normal, live with the fact that any woman you want to be with will know that you are doing very well, and then go for someone normal, without attachments.

What you say now was what I said in the heat of the moment, while a little voice inside my head kept warning me that this would end badly. Once I found my bearings, I dropped her real quick. Too much weirdness and things never matched completely up.

If she got her act well together, she will weave a new reality around you, so what was weird before becomes the new normal until you one day wake up. If you wake up after married and having fathered a kid or 2 - assuming that they are actually yours - with a crazy bitch is not exactly the best situation for you, as you will never get her completely out of your life.

Thank god I was vasectomized when I had the weird relationship 4 years ago, I think she would have wanted to be knocked up after a week, when she dicovered that I was doing rather well. And - bags sometimes have holes in them, beware.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby splitsec002 » 27 Nov 2015, 05:10

With all the negative responses I was not sure if I'd post in this forum again. I guess you were all trying to give me "tough love".

Like what most of you said, I was already hooked and I couldn't do anything but enjoy my time with her. Two weeks went by and its really the craziest relationship I've been in. So, she finally told me the truth. She's been married for 3 years already. And been with him for 6 years total. I guess their relationship has changed. 3 years ago they were close but she wanted a child, he didn't. And so forth and so on.... Now they are still married but live sort of separate lives.

We talk and facetime daily now. Not sure what is going to happen. She says she loves me and I do too. I know she's genuine about her feelings and her life right now. I guess we will just take it day by day and see what happens. I'm going to give her some time to think things through. But I know I'll have to end this if she doesn't leave him.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby Mr He » 27 Nov 2015, 14:26

Take it slow, enjoy her, however realize that she's in a complex situation.

If you want to have sex with her, I suggest a vacation in Thailand, where you do not risk having a hubby marching in with th police in tow.

Do not commit yourself to her to soon. We have al been there, I would say that one month is not long when it comes to discover if that person is someon for you.
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Re: Can't figure out this Taiwanese Girl

Postby Gryphon » 27 Nov 2015, 14:46

OP, I think you're infatuated with this woman. Best to keep your pants on and get a hobby. Messing with a married woman is a big mistake.
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