Seriously, guys, you cannot complain of any surprises after marriage. If you listen to what a woman says and what her actions say, instead of replaying sexual fantasies in your head or whatever it is that blocks the INPUT receptors, you'd have the information you need to make an adequate choice and then NOT be saying afterwards "I dunno what happened". LISTEN! Open your eyes and see what she does, good or bad, it is all there. No, she ain't lying. As we say in Spanish, ther eis no worse deaf person than the one who does not want to listen.
OP in particular has already made his mind up about this woman and nothing we say or nothing that anyone shows him will make him change. Has she lied? Yes. Does she respect him? No. Does he think he can have the upper hand in the relationship and "control" her? Oh yeah. Will that happen? Nope. The basic rule of dominating is that the power remains with the dominated: when they get tired of the game, they just turn the tables around. Many people feel guilty or inadequate or try to compensate by finding a partner that fulfills those desires of danger and fantasy... very little to do with reality. It is just a game, they tell themselves. I will give her all this and she in turn will love me. Nope, nope, nope.
The pros are good at what they do because they read their mark and respond accordingly, fulfill their desires and fears. A happy customer. And so is the next one, and the next. That is the key: secrecy, tailored service. Kiss don't tell. But only for a while. Next in line. Even a non pro can read a guy and give him what he wants but there will be cracks in the façade. If she marries him, there is a bigger chance of seeing through the cracks.. if he listens. We all know the cases of men made into silly putty in certain women's hands. The ones that get squeezed out of every single drop of self respect they had for themselves. Foreign or local, it is the same story. Everyone can see the train wreck miles ahead, except them guys who nail their eyes shut in spite of the horn blasting in their ears.