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Stupid useless feelings

Postby schwanification » 30 Oct 2015, 16:58

I met a guy more than one month ago, since then he's been a pretty horrible texter but the few times we met I had huge fun and felt very good. Last week we went to another great date, or at least it was for me. After that silence. I texted him once but he seemed pretty busy so I didn't insist. I know by myself they're not good signals. I might try messaging him once again, because when I care I have at least to try twice before giving up. The thing is this last week I'm feeling super depressed, something that never happened to me before. I'm not my usual self, I can't get out of this black hole and I don't understand where these emotions are coming from. I'm not new to dating, I know sometimes people lose interest on the way. It's not even a breakup, why am I feeling like it is? It's been a month, not a three years relationship!
I'm getting frustrated with my own emotions :lol:

Forumosa people, please shower me with your wisdom.
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby zender » 30 Oct 2015, 20:27

If a guy doesn't give good text, stop texting him.

Call him up and tell him that you like him and would like to spend some time with him.

Maybe suggest a hike that passes a love hotel. That's when you get tired. :lick: :scooby: :howyoudoin: :whistle: :liar:
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby Zla'od » 30 Oct 2015, 20:43

I think you already know what his feelings are. You can't force your feelings to listen to good sense, but you can force yourself to do something healthy to take your mind off him. Do that--hang out with friends, exercise, indulge in something delicious.
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby triceratopses » 31 Oct 2015, 04:15

Due to subtle wrong ways of thinking you became attached, attachment led to expectations, expectations lead to completely unrealistic thinking and emotions.

Its much better just to have fun lucidly, forming relationships that constructively benefit the world, instead of the typical reasons such as needing validation, fear of being alone, hedonism, a sense of safety and permanence, etc.


tl;dr
your infatuation will wear off with time (it will be very lessened in 2 weeks if you don't meet him or see pictures of him) . In the meantime you can reflect on his negativities to counteract your exaggeration of his good qualities eg. he looks bad naked compared to someone like me, he has a small dick if he's under 7 inches and you'll never experience a cervical orgasm for a long period of time (probably never) if you become chained to him, etcetc
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby Zla'od » 31 Oct 2015, 05:34

Tri:
he has a small dick if he's under 7 inches


Now I'm depressed!
“What part of a woman is the yet, anyway? I heard there was a fight here in Tulsa, and a woman was shot in the fracas. The doc said the bullet is in her yet. And how did the bullet get in her yet, when she was shot in the fracas?"
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby finley » 31 Oct 2015, 09:09

never experience a cervical orgasm

A what now?

Is that a new ride at Disneyland? Technology these days, eh.

OP, I believe it's the feeling of "the one that got away", which apparently gets more overblown in your imagination every time you tell the story. Maybe you just need to go fishing again?
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby jesus80 » 31 Oct 2015, 10:46

Zla'od wrote:Tri:
he has a small dick if he's under 7 inches


Now I'm depressed!

That's why we have the "Women´s Forum".
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby RickRooney » 31 Oct 2015, 11:37

isn't there a way to block users so you never need to see their (insane) posts?
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby lostinasia » 31 Oct 2015, 11:54

RickRooney wrote:isn't there a way to block users so you never need to see their (insane) posts?

Yeah - click on the name, and you'll see a bit more info about them; you can "Add foe". Afterwards you'll see that they made a post, but you won't be inflicted with the actual words, unless you click on it.
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Re: Stupid useless feelings

Postby RickRooney » 31 Oct 2015, 12:13

thanks a lot!
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