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LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

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LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

Postby strider » 31 Oct 2015, 21:50

So I've never ever had a problem getting into that highly undesirable "friend" status with Western women I was interested in. However, I've found so far in Taiwan, that pretty much every girl I've approached, immediately starts pasting "friend" status onto me. Like, in three minutes fast. Is this at all similar to what it means in the West, where basically the girl is telling you in advance she is not interested in dating/hooking up with you? Or is it a cultural difference and girls here generally consider the men in their "friend" pool as potential partners?
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Re: LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

Postby Zla'od » 01 Nov 2015, 07:39

That's why it's important to send them a photo of your willie--so they'll start to think of you as Something More.

(Preferably within the first three minutes, like you said.)
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Re: LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

Postby urodacus » 01 Nov 2015, 08:19

And why can't you have sex with friends?
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Re: LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

Postby Gryphon » 01 Nov 2015, 09:29

Zla'od wrote:That's why it's important to send them a photo of your willie--so they'll start to think of you as Something More.

(Preferably within the first three minutes, like you said.)


Also known as sexual harassment...
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Re: LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

Postby RickRooney » 01 Nov 2015, 10:41

do you look really.....friendly?

its not normal at all, what are you doing to get such a reaction. coming on too strong?
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Re: LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

Postby Mr He » 01 Nov 2015, 11:51

I do not know, the woman I am with now and me, we were friends for several months, at least that's how I saw that relationship. She might have seen it as a slow and long courting process, I do not know.
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Re: LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

Postby triceratopses » 02 Nov 2015, 07:54

strider wrote:Is this at all similar to what it means in the West, where basically the girl is telling you in advance she is not interested in dating/hooking up with you? Or is it a cultural difference and girls here generally consider the men in their "friend" pool as potential partners?


As far as young people goes its very normal here for groups of friends to be a mixture of girls and boys and its kept genuinely on a friendship basis. So I don't think its a clear indication as it is in 'the west'. A much clearer indication of not being interested is if its been a while and they haven't pursued ways of spending time alone with you away from the group.

Btw it's weird to me to go any lengthy period of time with a girl you're interested in and not ask her directly how she feels about you. In the uncommon case where a girl I like is not giving clear enough signals either in interest or disinterest I don't think its ever taken longer than a couple of weeks to ask her directly and plainly if she wants to hang out later
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Re: LET'S (just?) BE FRIENDS!

Postby RickRooney » 02 Nov 2015, 10:44

Women here will pretty much figure out whether they want to marry you or not after the first meeting, imo. they generally wont be interested if a guy is too direct at the beginning so starting off like friends is the best thing, but make no mistake they have already thought about the relationship possibilitys from the get go.
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