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A Taiwanese girl

Postby Uncreativeusername » 20 Nov 2015, 15:14

Question for those of you with experience or inside knowledge
I've fallen pretty hard for a local girl. We've been friends for a while but seldom see each other since we live in different cities. Well I've always kinda liked her but now I've decided I really do want to take this further.
Anyway, I'm by no means a casanova. I'm capable of talking to and making friends with girls but that's the furthest I've ever gotten. In terms of appearance I'm average at best.
In the end I know there's only so much I can do to influence fate, but I want to give myself the best chance possible.
So I've been wondering what the best way to a girls heart is, here in Taiwan. What it looks like to be romantic, or even just the best way to ask her out. I know there are universal rules that would apply anywhere, and that this is rather broad, and can differ from person to person. Naturally there's also concerns about not wanting to ruin the friendship. I'm all ears for what you guys have to say.
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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby RickRooney » 21 Nov 2015, 13:21

have you been on any dates yet or are you strictly friends at this point?
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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby Uncreativeusername » 22 Nov 2015, 00:52

RickRooney wrote:have you been on any dates yet or are you strictly friends at this point?

We've spent time together but as friends so no, no dates yet.
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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby RickRooney » 22 Nov 2015, 01:15

then ask her to dinner, good place to start!
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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby tango42 » 22 Nov 2015, 07:58

Where is she from in Taiwan? Is her family a typical Taiwan family whose parents both work and the kids run around from school to buxiban? Or is she a typical Taiwan family whose parents are separated and the kids are left finding things to do or whatever they want? Is she from a small town somewhere in Taiwan?

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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby Uncreativeusername » 22 Nov 2015, 19:29

Fair enough. OK, well she's closer to the former. She's from one of the larger cities. Both of her parents work, and I figure they must be relatively well off, since she went overseas for her undergrad. She has a good relationship with her family.
She seems fairly typical for a Taiwanese girl in her early 20s. She likes sports, movies, TV shows, music, traveling, taking photos and seems to work hard. She's not shy but I wouldn't describe her as outgoing either. She is quite cheery and friendly.
Is there anything else I should mention?

then ask her to dinner, good place to start!

Certainly! The problem is though we're separated by distance. I'd much rather ask her out in person, which I guess means waiting until the next time I see her.
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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby RickRooney » 23 Nov 2015, 01:27

travel there for the weekend? just go for it, why not..
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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby rocky raccoon » 23 Nov 2015, 16:53

If you live in different cities then you need to come up with a reason to visit her. Find some cultural attraction, exhibit, park, cafe, etc that you want to check out and ask if she's free to join you. This is more casual than a sit-down dinner date for two which might be a little too forward if you've only hung out in a group setting before.

Choose a place that's not too far from where she lives because everyone likes a convenient meetup. Something fun like riding bikes, or walking by the a wharf, or anything active will promote more "interesting" conversations. Fun and light is a lot less pressure than sitting down for a meal together.

Casually suggest two different times to meet up in case she's busy:

You: "I was planning on checking out _______ next Saturday and wanted to know if you had time to join?"

Her: "Sounds fun, what time?"

You: "I was thinking in the afternoon after lunch around around 2pm or after dinner around 8." (Depends on the activity of course, but you get the idea. This shows that you're flexible/accommodating but also not just waiting around to try to meet with her.)

Uncreativeusername wrote:In the end I know there's only so much I can do to influence fate, but I want to give myself the best chance possible.


Yeah, that's a good way to look at it. It's a cliche but your best bet is indeed taking it easy and just being yourself. Hanging out in a casual environment where the two of you get to know each other a little better is also the easiest way for you to sense if there might be any interest from her side.

Uncreativeusername wrote:So I've been wondering what the best way to a girls heart is, here in Taiwan. What it looks like to be romantic, or even just the best way to ask her out. I know there are universal rules that would apply anywhere, and that this is rather broad, and can differ from person to person. Naturally there's also concerns about not wanting to ruin the friendship. I'm all ears for what you guys have to say.


Can't go wrong with the universal rules of being respectful, polite, and funny. Since Taiwan is still fairly traditional then I'd stay away from any overly-forward behavior. No touching on the first date, even if she touches you in a friend sorta way.
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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby Uncreativeusername » 24 Nov 2015, 23:25

Ok thanks for the tips. I've got what I think is a good idea of what to do now in terms of a date, I just need an excuse to see her; I visited her recently so I can't really head up there again so soon since it's not really the kind of place you'd go without a reason. Well that's if I ask her in person; I mean I could do it via a message but I'd much rather do it face to face.

Can't go wrong with the universal rules of being respectful, polite, and funny. Since Taiwan is still fairly traditional then I'd stay away from any overly-forward behavior. No touching on the first date, even if she touches you in a friend sorta way.
No doubt. I'm fairly traditional myself so that's not a problem. Confidence is what I need more of :eek:
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Re: A Taiwanese girl

Postby Andrew0409 » 26 Nov 2015, 08:47

Give her anything hello kitty.
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