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Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby RNRN16 » 23 Dec 2015, 20:10

I have to explain some situations around foreign guys and Taiwanese women ,
I will keep to fair to both.

In Taiwan, I know most of women are actively to meet foreigners; because I am, too.
I know there are many dating website that could be meet different guys, some of wired,
some of normal. agree ?

If you are interested in Taiwanese women, at first ,you can say that looking for long term relationship , short term relationship, or only for fun even only dating,
I think they can understand, also willing to communicate ; if you are unlucky, most of them are unreasonable.
I heard some stories about Taiwanese women, like to complain ex, easy to get jealous, even ask for boyfriend only see them, can not hang out with other women
( although simple friendship ); its so stressful to men. Via communication, why dont you invite your girlfriend to join your group sometimes ? Or why dont you introduce your girlfriend to your friends , right? You can try, how will you know ?
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby quest » 24 Dec 2015, 03:13

I've read both posts on the (two) threads you started. I'll try to answer both here.

To answer your question simply; no, I don't think anyone who hasn't been brought up in the Taiwanese culture will ever truly understand Taiwanese women. They may say they do. It may look like they do. But they don't.

Some time ago I met a Taiwanese girl in the UK. Long story short, we're married and have a child. As I'd lived for many years in SE Asia I thought I had a very clear understanding of all Asian cultures. I was wrong.

As a Westerner, I approach almost every aspect of life in a fundamentally different way to you. SE Asian cultures, having recent exposure to the West via our chums the French, have lost some of the cultural niceties that make Taiwanese so... well... impossible to understand.

I could easily write a 10,000 word thesis on the cultural differences between us and only scratch the surface, so there's no point in me going into detail. The bottom line is quite simple; I will never really understand where a Taiwanese person is coming from nor, I suspect, will a Taiwanese person ever understand me. The best you can hope for is mutual acceptance that differences exist. Trying to change either yourself or your (potential) partner is fraught with difficulty and likely to end in tears.

My wife and I are very different people. We acknowledge this and simply get on with our lives together, accepting that things between us will never flow easily. Fortunately, we both enjoy the challenge.

In your case, 'G' has indicated to you, fairly clearly, that you've overstepped his boundaries. You have suggested that his behaviour towards you doesn't meet your expectations. Why are you pursuing this relationship? Stop wasting your time. Walk away, learn the lesson and move on with your life.

In conclusion, you make a very valid point. If both parties clearly stated, from the beginning, their expectations for a relationship ranging from, 'You're hot and I just want to have wild sex with you' to, 'I really like you and I want to see where we can take this relationship' life would be a lot simpler. Perhaps you'd like to try being open - from the beginning - with your next partner?

Wishing you the very best of luck :)


PS. I do realise that - as you're a Taiwanese woman - non of the above will make any sense to you at all.
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby Andrew0409 » 24 Dec 2015, 03:39

I am half Taiwanese half Korean who grew up in Taiwan before moving to the US around 10. I moved back about a year ago. And I found that I can not date a Taiwanese women. I understand Taiwanese culture and I hate it. My parents were very open and did not raise me like most traditional families in Taiwan. My Taiwanese family members, as much as I love them, do things that just annoy me.
For example, they are extremely controlling of their children life, or at least very involved. Or the the Ancestor worship and superstition. I'm a Christian and I don't like having to go to their event's like burning paper money on certain days. Theres a long list of things I don't like. I don't like most Taiwanese girls mentality.

I want to have a relationship with just me and my partner controlling or future together.

So I've pretty much gone out with western women unless it's like a friends with benefit or one night kind of thing.
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby RickRooney » 30 Dec 2015, 07:47

sorry what was the question in that big rambling post?
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby ranlee » 30 Dec 2015, 12:13

Is it wrong that I read OP's post by translating it into Chinese?

OP, it's time to let him go. There are other fish in the sea.

If you need answers, this is what I can say...

RNRN16 wrote:If you are interested in Taiwanese women, at first ,you can say that looking for long term relationship , short term relationship, or only for fun even only dating,


I can assure you this is not only Taiwanese women. I've met and heard of....people (not just women), that also look for long term, short term, and one night stands.

RNRN16 wrote:why dont you invite your girlfriend to join your group sometimes ? Or why dont you introduce your girlfriend to your friends , right? You can try, how will you know ?


This will solely depend on whether your significant other is out going or not. My gf isn't the biggest fan of mingling with my friends (who are mostly foreigners) bc her English isn't top notch and is very shy. So, it took me almost half a year to convince her that my two friends (whom are a married couple), that they are also her friends as well and that she's not tagging along to me going to hang out with them.
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby robert the bruce » 30 Dec 2015, 13:05

Your rant is starting to smell like the "'Fatal Attraction'' movie. Guy met woman, had good time with her but he was married, had kids, didn't tell the mistress. He tried to cool down with her, the mistress went ballistic, turned into a psycho and started to stalk the guy and tried to kill his entire family. Just don't get yourself too involved with a guy before knowing him well. Keep your legs closed and try to understand him well before further actions. How hard is that ?
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby On The Brink » 30 Dec 2015, 13:31

Andrew0409 wrote: do things that just annoy me.For example, they are extremely controlling of their children life, or at least very involved. Or the the Ancestor worship and superstition. I'm a Christian and I don't like having to go to their event's like burning paper money on certain days. Theres a long list of things I don't like. I don't like most Taiwanese girls mentality.


To clarify, are you saying Christianity is superior or just that you don't like doing their superstition vs. yours?
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby Ermintrude » 30 Dec 2015, 15:02

Yes. Next question.

On the brink, what is unclear about not wanting to participate in others' religious practices? Do you think that's unusual?

Robert the bruce, actually, it's harder than you seem to think because most people lie if they want to have sex with you.
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby zender » 30 Dec 2015, 15:06

People also lie when they don't want to have sex with me.

You should hear the excuses. :aiyo:
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Re: Do you understand Taiwanese women ?

Postby Ermintrude » 30 Dec 2015, 15:07

I can imagine! 'Those aren't your REAL elbows, buddy!'
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