Zla'od wrote:Okay, I read the original post to my wife and sister-in-law (admittedly from a different generation) and filled in some of the details based on later posts. For what it's worth, they thought that maybe the problem was that asking women you don't know very well out on dates is a little weird and potentially dangerous for the girl. (I reminded them it was just for coffee, but still...) When I asked them what they thought you should do, they said you should get to know them better before asking them out. I pointed out that in most cases, you would never get the chance to get to know them better, if they're women you just met in passing. At that point they moved on to other things. Maybe I should put the original question on an exam, so you could have university-age women answer it!
I'm glad to see someone has exactly grasped the nature of the situation, in a judgement free manner! I had given up on this thread. You've certainly got my vote for putting it on an exam if you're in a position to do so! That would probably be rather socially interesting in its own right.
I'm on the brink of concluding that it is either A. I live in the wrong city (not enough English) or B. Taiwanese culture is too heavily "social circle" oriented.(again possibly that is this city? I doubt it's so much in Taipei) Anyway, as it happens, I'm extremely busy. I just barely even have the time to GO on dates in the first place, assuming I could find them. I certainly don't have the time to go get involved in various social gatherings, simply in the hopes of finding dates. Anyway, I am not that kind of disingenuous personality in the first place.
I do get around, about my day, and see girls here and there. And in the States, or in Europe, or in South America, that's all I ever needed. I see a pretty girl, I walk up to her, start a chat, and get a date a pretty fair percentage of the time. I'm not a player, I look for dates because I am an optimist, and believe any woman I see could be a potential life partner, you never know unless you say hello who you might pass by. I always dress well (many levels of magnitude above the _average_ Taiwanese male, (no judgement, it's just I don't shop at the bargain bin of the local street market). I keep myself groomed, in excellent physical condition, I'm tall, blonde (only mention because so many claim this makes getting dates around here "impossibly easy", I beg to differ!), I've even been approached for and even done a bit of modeling in the past, and occasionally get approached for sex (by unattractive women of course) so I have to assume I'm not terribly ugly....I can only conclude it (dating) is just obviously done a bit differently here, and I can't figure out what that bit is