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When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby TIX2007 » 07 May 2016, 10:52

Hi, I am a long-timer yet haven't signed in for yeas so I lost my account.
A Trap or An invitation http://www.forumosa.com/taiwan/viewtopi ... 48951ff895

I am the OP of that thread. So the story happened long time ago and I completely let it go. I thought it was over and dead gone! I always thought I was the wrong one for creeping back to see him every now and then whenever I missed him (it was years ago!) I didn't think it's that much about him but it's mostly about my delusion of being in love with him. I found out that I overrated him since the day1. He is no angle either!

He hired a PI who associated with illegal organization to hack, stalk and harass me for years . I didn't even notice that it was his doing untill a couple months ago. I thought all those strange things have occurred to me was just my bad luck and my self-righteous personality played a big part of it. It turned out to be organization criminal harassment!

I am a Taiwanese. I believe that most of expats know that most Taiwanese don't handle unrequited love well. I always thought that I was the shy and cool one regarding unrequited love in comparing to my counterpart people. I only contacted him in person once, called a couple of times and e-mail him once ONLY in past 10 years. After I found out that he called the police on me, I never contacted him again!

My question for you is:
Is my occasionally sneaking back to see my old crush a stalking behavior? Don't you westerners EVER do it ? REALLY? To western guys, does it scare you that much to the level that you would fear for your life ? Is it really necessary to not only call the police on her but also hire PI/organized crime to revenge a woman for years ?
Sorry for my poor English writing and ranting. I am just extremely frustrated and confused. Need your opinion!

P.S. Until now, I am still not sure if it's the guy or his wife (then, his girlfriend) did all the crazy things to me!
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby RickRooney » 08 May 2016, 01:44

it makes far more sense that it is the wife checking up on you than the husband.

seems like you should really let this guy go, its game over, let it go!
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby TIX2007 » 08 May 2016, 04:04

Thank you for the comment!

Yeah, I thought so! It's the wife who got all the recreation time to get me into this mess. Yet, without the bread maker's approval, I don't think she can afford it herself!

I did let it go for many years until I discovered something unpleasant recently! And this person (or his wife) is obviously involved as a an instigator who let me getting me into this "organized crime" thing. I't's been almost 8 years since 2007 (I met him in 2005) I tried my best to hide and run still couldn't get them off me.

I have watched many gangster movies and thought it was just way too drama. Who would spent all the money, manpower and time just to capture a person who tried to get away from their organization? Now I told you" it's for real!"

I am no longer hurting by his rejection. I am no longer hating him/her for calling the police on me. But I do furious about they hired PI/organized crime to hack, stalk, and harass me endless. Getting those lawless thugs hooked on me and themselves forever is their ultimate sin! They signed a contract with Devil in order to destroy me! Ooops! I am ranting again! Sorry!
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby TIX2007 » 08 May 2016, 04:33

The Notebook Ali's Mom took her driving by to see an old flame

From this scene, I don't believe that my behavior is particularly a Taiwanese psycho xiaojie thing! Westerners doing it, too! Just check out all the comments below the film and you will see! None of those comments considered the old lady is a creepy stalker and should be punished by law or hired PI/thugs follow her tail forever!

Men, you have no idea how frustrated I am! I didn't even make phone calls or send messages like some crazy ex always do ...Sigh!
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby tommy525 » 08 May 2016, 10:58

Some people can't let go. And that is bad. Always let go. When you have found someone new you will finally understand the quagmire you were in.

Its not a TAiwanese thing. Its all over the world. We have ex husbands shooting their ex wives dead in front of their kids and other worse things all the time.

Learn to let go.

Its not easy, but you must do it.

Your life is a book (your LIfe book so to speak) . Each day is a page. When something significant happens you may find yourself at the end of a chapter. You must have the courage to turn the page to start the new chapter. Whatever is good, bad or ugly yesterday is GONE. Tomorrow is a new day .

Many times we can't let go because we feel that letting go is letting go of oneself and of course you can't let go of yourself. But this is a delusion. He/she is not YOU, never has been and never will be.

You are still YOU, and letting that person go does not in any way mean letting yourself go. You still have YOU.

In most cases we think they (the ones who left us behind) still love us. The sad truth , the harsh reality is that they DON'T . When you realize this you will be set FREE.
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby RickRooney » 08 May 2016, 11:52

while its not right to have hired a PI to invade your privacy and I'm sure you feel bad about that. you did stoke the fires and meet and communicate with him(a married guy with a kid) so you cannot claim total innocence on that one. whats done is done, put it behind you and focus your attention to something more positive.
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby TIX2007 » 10 May 2016, 01:17

tommy525 wrote:Learn to let go.

Its not easy, but you must do it.

RickRooney wrote: whats done is done, put it behind you and focus your attention to something more positive.


Sigh! There must be something wrong with my English writing, I obviously didn't express myself clear enough!

TIX2007 wrote:I am no longer hurting by his rejection. I am no longer hating him/her for calling the police on me. But I do furious about they hired PI/organized crime to hack, stalk, and harass me endless.


TIX2007 wrote: I only contacted him in person once, called a couple of times and e-mail him once ONLY in past 10 years. After I found out that he called the police on me, I never contacted him again!


I haven't done anything concerning him for years. I believe that I wouldn't even recognize him if we run into each other unexpected before I found out he hired PI/gangsters harassing me! Now I can tell you, as long as those thugs still on me, I will always hold him as the instigator of the conspiracy crime of harassment and assault, or even attempting to murder? I have been stalked, harassed, and physically assaulted by those gangsters! I don't even want to think what the next is going to come to me!

I hope my writing is right yet I also hope my theory was wrong! Nothing is worthy to cost my life, not to mention that it's an a**hole I am talking about! I wish I have never met him!
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby TIX2007 » 10 May 2016, 01:37

What law is broken when you hire thugs to harass someone?
Just found out this online. Perhaps, my theory of my old crush committing conspiracy crime isn't too far away from reality! At least, some people have thought of it!
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby tommy525 » 10 May 2016, 02:40

Ok the situation is ?? :

1. you are over him but he is not over you so you think/feel. Even though its been 10 years??
2. you are being tailed and attacked by people you feel are being sent by him.

If you have been attacked, you should go to the police. You should move (Taiwan is a small place so there is only so far you can go but you can considering moving, changing jobs if you have to).

Violence done against you should be reported to the police. Not always helpful but short of hiring your own gangsters you don't have a lot of things you can do. Reporting to the police is better then resorting to violence on your own.
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Re: When Psycho Xiao Jie Met Mr/Mrs. Paranoia

Postby TIX2007 » 11 May 2016, 07:03

tommy525 wrote:If you have been attacked, you should go to the police. You should move (Taiwan is a small place so there is only so far you can go but you can considering moving, changing jobs if you have to).

Violence done against you should be reported to the police. Not always helpful but short of hiring your own gangsters you don't have a lot of things you can do. Reporting to the police is better then resorting to violence on your own.


Sorry my reply will be off topic and way too long but I am trying to explain why I didn't contact with my local law enforcement.

First, why last 10 year? It's organized crime but not just PI /love/hate story involved! There's something more not really regarding him but the PI who had connection with organized crime are like blood sucker! The old crush is guilty for hooking them up with me! He/she is not going to get away from their conspiracy crime!

To majority Americans, your law enforcement/legal system might be fair and efficiency! But to many Asian/minority new immigrants? NO SO MUCH!

Arcadia, where many young, rich and educated Chinese new immigrate families preferred to build home because of the famous local public high school. You would suppose that Arcadia local police officers would be less discriminate toward Chinese/Asians. WRONG! My experience told me it ain't so!

Case#1: 2006, one evening after I just missed my bus and had to wait about an hour for next bus, a man approached me and forced me giving him my phone number after almost 30 minutes of talking nonsense. I ended up give in under the difficult situation.

I ignored all his calls later! He was ticked off and left countless threatening and insulting messages to the level that I had to go to my local police , Arcadia Police Department, in order to stop him. All the polices didn't even bother come to me when they saw an Asian woman came in. Finally, a young cudet came to me and asked what I need.

The young cadet shrugged his shoulder and said "just deleted the messages and ignored him! " I explained to him why I need to make a case just in case I meet the guy again because I lives in this area and will be around all the time. The young cadet got my cellphone and listen to the messages. After I left the police department, I found out the cadet deleted all the messages without confronting me nor telling me! Of course, he didn't do anything for me!

Case#2: 2010. Arcadia.I left my purse in a local store and they immediately contacted local police department because my driving license was in there and they didn't want me getting caught by driving without license. The police picked up my purse quickly before I even noticed that I left my purse in the store.

So I went to police department to pick up my purse which had all my IDs, bank card and cash in. They told me the police officer who handles the lost and found items was not available this time! I needed to call her first and made an appointment with her in order to pick up my purse next day. I sensed something unusual but I managed reacting calmly and cooperatively. I am a good citizen!

The lady officer told me she was in the meeting at some other location the next day when I arrived at the police department and called her again. Therefore, I sat and waited for her about 3 hours in the Arcadia Police Department in order to pick up my purse.

A couple of officers came out and saw me sitting in the meeting room. One talked to another "she is f*cking her up!" I just realized that woman officer was in all the time. So I told the front desk officer that I would make a complain regarding this incident if I won't get my purse immediately! 5 minutes later, that white girl came out asking me to sign some paper and returned my purse. Not a word of apology nor any sorry facial expression.

So there's American law enforcement for you! I believe it will cost me an arm or a leg to just get my local police attention. I doubt if it's enough to make a case, tho!
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