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Re: Teaching english

Postby Icon » 27 May 2016, 14:23

wpballer wrote:Hi, I am an American white male at a major turning point in my life. currently, I am in a situation where I am set up for success and an impressive career, however, I find myself miserable and longing to get out. I have always been interested in the idea of teaching english in taiwan, but I am wondering if I would be looked down on by women for having a low job. I have dated a taiwanese girl growing up in california and am really attracted to the type, so finding a quality partner is important to me. I also enjoy the food and many other aspects of Asian culture. I was wondering if i should pursue a successful career then try to find a girl in taiwan/live in taiwan or just do what interests me right now. Will i be looked down on by taiwanese women? also if it matters I am tall and attractive.


One word: NO.
I find myself miserable and longing to get out.

If you are not happy, you will carry your unhapoiness with you. And facing culture clash is the best way to make your unhappiness turn into bottomless depression and agony.

if I would be looked down on by women for having a low job. I have dated a taiwanese girl growing up in california and am really attracted to the type, so finding a quality partner is important to me.

I am sorry to be blunt, but it looks like you are the type of man that would become silly putty in the hands of a Taiwanese woman. And they can be very cruel. Yes, very beutiful/nice/sex is great... and absolutely controlling. If you let her measure you by teh size of your bank account, she will sponge you dry. You will end with the type that will tap dance over your ego and destroy your life. We have seen it time and time again.

There are enough conflicys generated from the crash of two cultures and it is entirely different when you are the foreigner in a strange land with no support. You have no legal stand here. Worse if you do not speak Chinese. You will depend on her for psychologfialk and economic support. You will be her puppet if you let her. As much as you foreigners hate it, I have to say it" you become the woman in the relationship. You will have no voice in the decisoons about youir career or children,as the family decides. Again, it is entirely different being in a relationship in the States than in the actual Taiwan.

Read more about dating in Taiwan. And most importantly, do not frame your ideal partner, or you will transpose that image into a woman that won't be your partner but your manager. It is OK to have a list of qualities as requirements. But another to make that list a mask that won't allow you to see the person before you. Do not stereotype all Taiwanese women based on the woman you met, especially abroad.

I was wondering if i should pursue a successful career then try to find a girl in taiwan/live in taiwan or just do what interests me right now. Will i be looked down on by taiwanese women?

In general, most women would be distrustful of a foreigner, especially a foreign teacher -they have a reputation as party animals, just flying by backpackers, etc. You will not be taken seriously. They don't trust is with a cellphone, takes an act of God to get a credit card. Of course, you also have the other side, the women who crave foreigners. That's when alarms should go off.

In summary: come and visit and get yourself acquainted with the land, but before you do, get yourself in a better place emotionally and psychologically. Plan this as a beach landing into enemy land. You will not be welcomed with pina coladas by the natives. get your gear ready. gather relevant intel. be very wary of local contacts. ask yourself: would I accept this from her if we were abroad? if the answer is no... reevaluate your mission goals.

This said as a friend of way too many friends who had their hearts and lives handed back to them in doggy bags by Taiwanese women who they followed back to the Island... and allowed to tell them their worth.
Lo urgente no deja tiempo para lo importante. Mafalda.

None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an after thought. Eat the delicious food. Walk in the sunshine. Jump in the ocean. Say the truth that you’re carrying in your heart like hidden treasure. Be silly. Be kind. Be weird. There’s no time for anything else.
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Re: Teaching english

Postby nonredneck » 30 May 2016, 13:18

Icon wrote:In summary: come and visit and get yourself acquainted with the land, but before you do, get yourself in a better place emotionally and psychologically. Plan this as a beach landing into enemy land. You will not be welcomed with pina coladas by the natives. get your gear ready. gather relevant intel. be very wary of local contacts. ask yourself: would I accept this from her if we were abroad? if the answer is no... reevaluate your mission goals.

This said as a friend of way too many friends who had their hearts and lives handed back to them in doggy bags by Taiwanese women who they followed back to the Island... and allowed to tell them their worth.


You make it sound like Taiwanese women are cold, heartless golddiggers who will destroy a guy when opportunity arises.
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Re: Teaching english

Postby Icon » 30 May 2016, 14:57

nonredneck wrote:
Icon wrote:In summary: come and visit and get yourself acquainted with the land, but before you do, get yourself in a better place emotionally and psychologically. Plan this as a beach landing into enemy land. You will not be welcomed with pina coladas by the natives. get your gear ready. gather relevant intel. be very wary of local contacts. ask yourself: would I accept this from her if we were abroad? if the answer is no... reevaluate your mission goals.

This said as a friend of way too many friends who had their hearts and lives handed back to them in doggy bags by Taiwanese women who they followed back to the Island... and allowed to tell them their worth.


You make it sound like Taiwanese women are cold, heartless golddiggers who will destroy a guy when opportunity arises.


Not all Taiwanese women, but I know way too many foreign guys who put themselves in a position as a doormat, hence, the stepping on. Cultural expectations here for guys are tough enough, a foreigner already has two strikes in -language and social/cultural/racial status- ... add a too naive/kind/dependent heart and anyone too easily become prey of love for the right and wrong reasons. Auntie Peng has seen too much needless pain. :grandpa:
Lo urgente no deja tiempo para lo importante. Mafalda.

None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an after thought. Eat the delicious food. Walk in the sunshine. Jump in the ocean. Say the truth that you’re carrying in your heart like hidden treasure. Be silly. Be kind. Be weird. There’s no time for anything else.
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Re: Teaching english

Postby HenHaoChi » 30 May 2016, 19:13

I saw a lot of the opposite in London. Asian/foreign girls screwed around by a European. It's more the 'not being on home turf' factor instead of anything unique to TW. My gf has tried a few routines on me (most of my exes did, such is life), but because of the huge archive of manipulation tactics in Forumosa, I had advanced warning. So I am sincerely grateful to many Forumosans for being so candid about their emotional problems.

Anyway, I wonder if this OP is a troll. There was a subtle troll a while back, who kept socking up and making just-under-the-radar provocative posts.
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Re: Teaching english

Postby RickRooney » 31 May 2016, 00:13

I think culture difference plays into it too. westerners might be thinking casual and not aware that their gf is thinking about marriage from the get go. and there is also the family factor and family pressure they might not be aware of if they are not familiar with the culture. I'm sure a lot of guys get more than they were bargaining for and I've also read about plenty of them on forumosa lol.
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Re: Teaching english

Postby math1064 » 17 Jun 2016, 16:24

How can a women look down you because of being a teacher? Its not a low job at all!!!
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