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How do I ask my girlfriends parents if we could get married?

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Re: How do I ask my girlfriends parents if we could get married?

Postby Blaquesmith » 22 Jun 2016, 13:04

My wife and I notified her parents about our intention of getting married about a year earlier than we actually did.

We actually didn't go begging for their approval, it was more of a "I'm telling you first out of respect, but we're going forward with it anyways". There was few things they could do, my mother-in-law asked for us to be married here first, then do the ceremony in Spain, and we agreed (we had to do both, eventually, so the order didn't matter much for us). Plus, we had been living together for a while and they knew it, so in fact they were expecting us to get married.

Of course, we had met and been living abroad, and we have to came to Taiwan to live together, which was the opposite situation, but we also told them that at some point, our intention would be to go back to Spain, because both my wife and I think that living in Barcelona beats anywhere in Taiwan (although she had to work for a Taiwanese company to realize that).
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Re: How do I ask my girlfriends parents if we could get married?

Postby downtownandrew » 23 Jun 2016, 02:42

tango42 wrote:It's not really part of the culture to ask the parents. Many Taiwanese these days do the marriage paperwork first and then notify others (including parents) months, sometimes years later and then start planning the wedding dinner to make notice to the public.


You are right, to me a Taiwanese wedding really isnt nothing special when a majority simply move in with their parents right after they get married... which blows my mind. So why bother seeking any approval, when you are going to be roommates anyway.

I guess if you are going across the world away from here with their daughter you should get their approval. Since you technically wont be around to support their costly bills? As I see this as the only reason to move back in with mom & dad - to save money for all.
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Re: How do I ask my girlfriends parents if we could get married?

Postby taiwanfriend » 06 Jul 2016, 13:12

good luck in getting the visa from the parent
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