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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:04

abovik wrote:Proactive is right but it's about in life. Got anything that they may find interest or want to join you? But in TW I thought it is easy if you have a car :roflmao: No offence but your entire message do appear kind of disciplined hence giving me the image that you are a stern person.

I've never really had problem talking to girls here. It's all casual. They'll usually ask all things about your country and small talk follows from there. But with pyscho xiaojies :fume: that's another story and you'll find that on another message board on the forum.


I could easily borrow my parents' car if i wanted to. The thing is, I feel like a complete loser if i ever had to do that and I am a two-wheeler person which means I like cycles and motorcross that sort of thing but never liked to be in a four wheel cage.
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:11

headhonchoII wrote:OP I thinks Andrew is your best bet to sort out what's going on. Id take up that offer if I was you and he's probably cheaper than joining those dating sites.


Hell yeah, I am fed up with these dating sites showing me unrelated profiles telling me we are 80 percent match. Some can be very racists on certain site, name calling and attack on your appearance are way too common. I took down my pictures and erased closed all my account.
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:22

RickRooney wrote:
Andrew0409 wrote:
RickRooney wrote:
Andrew0409 wrote:
RickRooney wrote:agree with andrew, think you need to learn game or how to be a pickup artist or something like that. although I think those guys are pretty lame and have a ton of issues, it seems good for people who are completely useless with women to at least learn some basics.

I don't think you are going to get much help from here. seems you need specific attention.


I'm not by any means a pick up artist, and I'm not going to teach you just so you can go out and pick up women and get laid. What I'm offering is how to be a better man that will attract not just women, but people around you. If you to make a change in your life, I'm willing to help. It's really hard to help you without seeing you and what you do in real life. And I don't have time to write a novel on it.


yea I would suggest for him not to follow your advice. no offence but from your other posts you seem to use flashy methods to pursue women. expensive restaurant, jazz, contacts with famous people. this guy is getting rejected left and right, asking a girl to go to a jazz club isn't going to help him. he needs to seek some expert advice for clueless guys, and that is why the whole 'game'/'pick up artist' thing was created to begin with.


How do you think I got there? I was just born with it? people just came up to me to be my friend lol. What I described is a date, if you also read my post, I was stuck in florida with no money working at a shitty restaurant with a bus pass. I still pulled hot girls. And that particular poster was having a different issue, he was getting numbers but not able to secure the date. I'm obviously not going to give him the same advice. And I'm not going to teach him pick up artist tricks, I'm going to teach him how to be a natural. I'm offering the OP how to make his life better not to just pick up women. Listen OP, this is not the board to seek advice on. I've gotten plenty of PMs agreeing with me plenty of guys here just don't get it and give horrible advice or is threatened when someone is successful. I'm not going to teach you how not to get rejected, you will get rejected. But don't listen to me. I'm sure guys on here know all about how to successful date beautiful women. :lol:


no I don't feel threatened, just wouldn't be flashy myself. I don't see the point in it and I've never needed anything like that. it seems that YOU are the one that is threatened because i criticized your outdated james bond dating style ? lighten up andrew, I don't even claim to be a player, i just think this guy sounds pretty hopeless and should seek expert council.



Heya, I am absolutely hopeless. I don't want to end up like some of these old oz farmers posting on local newspaper asking for wife, omg what a world im living in.
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:24

ranlee wrote:
Gryphon wrote:I agree with Purple Heart. Desperation is negative. It has the exact opposite effect of confidence. Desperation repels women. That is what is wrong with you. Furthermore, your desperation makes you sound obsessed with getting into a relationship. If you can't overcome your desperation, once in a relationship, you may become controlling and codependent because fear of losing the relationship will take over. And believe me, it doesn't feel good to be in that kind of relationship. Stop focusing so hard on "getting a girl". Focus on your hobbies. Join clubs related to your hobbies. You will meet new people. You may even find the love of your life. But for the love of all that is right and holy, don't try to pick up girls if you are currently desperate.


100%, 10/10, full marks, two thumbs up, high five? Agree with this.

I've played the desperate game and it has failed me countless numbers of times. It was when I stopped being desperate and going with the flow was when I saw things come together. Going out when friends asked me to go somewhere I had never been with people I've never met, doing an activity I had never done or picking up a new hobby. Go a little outside your comfort zone and maybe you'll meet someone that did the same at an event. Now there's nothing saying that once you let go that your life revolves around finding a gf, do you immediately find a girl though.

All I'm trying to say is, don't try too hard, try something new or pick up an old/new hobby. Hobbies are a great way to meet people!


Righty, i will take after your advice. Finding a club or something and thanks for ya feed back.
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:28

robert the bruce wrote:You can laugh all you want but I have met another guy like you years ago. His solution was to ask (or pay) for a female friend to act as a GF, to be his '' pretend'' girlfriend. She was hot. Soon other girls were trying to flirt with him and ''steal'' him from her (many women like the competition and to snatch another gal's BF or husband, women's nature, go figure). And here in Taiwan you can find plenty of 30 years-old virgin, living with her parents, also desperate to get a guy. Can't get wrong, you will eventually cross paths with some of these mature and desperate ones.


yeah right, I've never heard of this but seems like it's probably gonna work well. haha, 30 years old virgin :roflmao:
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:31

Andrew0409 wrote:
ranlee wrote:
Andrew0409 wrote:I know a lot of people are saying hobbies and interests, which is important. But I had plenty of hobbies and I'm a passionate athlete all my life. It's not the root of his problem. He seems to lack the ability to interact socially, gain rapport and attract people.


OP may not have the issue of interacting socially if he and the girl had something in common to talk about with the girl. Right?

However, we can speculate all we want, but it seems like OP won't be back too soon because he's has been away from thread for almost a week now.


No, having a common interest can build friendships, but it seems like women don't see him sexually at all. If he can't build sexual tension and be seen as more than a friend, you can be interested in all the same things and watch her get fucked by the next guy who has nothing in common with her.



You nailed it!!
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:36

kaikai34 wrote:I don't think your background is putting you at a disadvantage. In fact, it should plus points. Traveled and seen other parts of the world? Those are pluses. Honestly, it could be your physical appearance. I don't want to sound harsh, but if you're not an attractive guy, short, balding, or have a bad complexion, you're at a disadvantage from the get go and strangers will probably not respond to date requests. You sound like a nice dude so if you're able to get to know someone first and they get to know you and your likeable (hopefully) personality, then physical appearance plays a smaller role. If you're funny, even better. Funny guys pull chicks.
Anyways what are your hobbies? Perhaps join a club and don't go looking too hard. In my experience, you never find love when you're looking for it. It always comes unexpectedly.


Cheers for your words mate. Bad things always hit me unexpectedly... like a kangaroo/deer on the road, so fast, that you don't don't even see them coming!!
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:39

tommy525 wrote:
kaikai34 wrote:
tommy525 wrote:Be someone you would like to have as a bud and go from there. Get yourself cleaned up best you can, look smart, be someone worth knowing ! And let the girl come to you. YOu wont want the ones you have to chase anyways. They will eventually be a heart ache for you.


While I agree with Tommy, I was thinking about how we also tend to treasure things we have to work for more.


That is true to a large extent. But after many years in the trenches of love I have come to the conclusion that it is better to be loved then to love :P

Less heartache and headache. In other words learn to love those that already at least LIKE you. Rather then love an illusion or a shadow of affection.

But more on point ask yourself "would you love you" , "what is good about you that someone else would love", "would you choose YOU to date, to hang out with"

Besides if you end up with too much "success" you may put out threads about getting STDs checked and wanting to up your libido.

Max your attributes and minimize your minuses.



that's fair dinkum
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:43

hansioux wrote:Honestly, I have no clue how to pick up girls at clubs, pubs or festivals either. Maybe some people just aren't comfortable in those types of situations, or girls who go to those types of places aren't exactly looking for people like us.

My solution is to find new things and new places outside of your usual routine and comfort zone to go and do that you would enjoy. Do group activities where you'd have a chance to interact with strangers your same age. Go on trips on your own, or with a few buddies. Go on a kayaking group tour on the east coast or something like that. I tend to find it easier to mingle with people I met for the first time in those settings. Compared to not know what to do in a bar or club, and generally not having fun, but forcing yourself to go only for the sake of meeting friends, it's like a 100% improvement.

That's just me though.



I am in complete agreement with you. I never function in a club nor a bar, it gives me the impression that chicks are there for a free one-nighter.
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Re: Here is my story and I need honest feedbacks

Postby Lepetitchinois » 28 Jul 2016, 12:54

sewersquid wrote:Image

Seriously...
Negative aura only attracts negative ones.
Do what you comfortable at, and by chance, you'll meet someone there.

If you are an active sportsman, don't try to get girls from library.
The girls will notice your awkwardness with books.

If you can't handle car traffic because of chronic car-sick, don't try to impress her by going around town with car.
You're gonna get car-sick and possibly puke which never gonna impress the girl.
Go ride a bike on bike path instead.

If you can't handle summer outdoor activity, don't go out on mid daylight in Taipei's summer.
You're gonna get heatstroke and surely won't impress her.
Try cafe instead.

I don't think local scene of bar/nightclubs are good to get girls for a typical man.
Unless of course, you look strikingly un-local.
Being a typical Asian without Chinese skills, I usually have difficulties even getting interaction with any person in the club (m/f/local/foreign).

Some of my successful ask-a-girl-to-go-out invitations in Taiwan.
1. Free tickets for a football game (better be a decent game in a real stadium, not some crappy highschoolers play kicks)
I think it works for musical concert or other more upscale event as well. But you need to spend (first) for this one, by buying the tickets.
2. Hiking (don't ever try this on summer!)
3. If the girl is a local, you could pretend have no clue about Chinese, and ask her for a help dealing with things that need to be done using Chinese... say making a visa photo for applying US-visa in one of the local photo shops.
4. Foreign girl more complicated, but bit flirty jokes comes handy when trying to get attention from social media.
5. I can't help you with feminists, though. They are the toughest nut to crack, usually ends with them making bad words at me.



Yo thanks for the comment mate. I m kinda sick hearing these white chicks joking about my small penis when they never bothered to find out themselves personally. Traumatized at school and later on singled out by ladies in workplace I've reached conclusions about those no brainers. That's fine, cuz they age more rapidly and grew larger and larger as they age hence the fact that they're larger than life!

Btw, why should i pretend I don't speak Chinese when seeking local girls??? :eek:
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