tommy525 wrote:We dont meet girls by chance...We have to desire them to even want to talk to them in the first place.
Yeah, this is correct. As a resource for intellectual stimulation I will seek a good book, do some websurfing for information worth ingesting and thinking upon, or else just go deep into my own mind. There is no conceivable role that a woman can play in that arena except for being a distraction, and that's where her specifically female qualifications will be scrutinized for their quality, since time is precious. Sometimes they offer the best of both worlds, but that's extremely rare. No point in pretending to be looking for an intellectual match in the opposite sex, it isn't happening (not for me anyway). And it just gets worse because, if it IS happening, and she's desirable (bearable to look at even, to quote the disgruntled Taiwanese female), then she's damn well taken already, or she's just as picky as I am and we probably won't be a match. What the hell, you've gotta go with the flow and catch what you can, but try to live up to your standards, assuming you have any. Besides, please try to have a life OUTSIDE of relationships for goodness sake, as it's just healthier and happier than constantly hunting sex or love. Yeah, if it's good don't turn your back on it (whatever it is), but if you have a real life, it won't revolve around that.