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Re: Taipei Dating Sites

Postby liskeard » 24 Nov 2012, 22:11

But first, some background. There is a huge, I mean HUGE pool of single available women in Taipei. Especially educated, professional women. The average Chinese/Taiwanese guy, is at best, an unintentional misogynist by western standards. Because of this, many, many Chinese/Taiwanese women refuse to destroy their quality of life by marrying one (Taiwan and Singapore depend on importing massive amounts of foreign brides to satisfy the demand for women who will marry a "traditional" Chinese/Taiwanese guy).


ha, this is just what I always tried to explain to my english ex ages ago who'd never ever been abroad. you nailed it well at the point that chinese/taiwanese guy is "an unintentional misogynist by western standards". you say it for me though he would never know what i really mean to say...
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Re: Taipei Dating Sites

Postby ChewDawg » 25 Nov 2012, 01:30

liskeard wrote:
But first, some background. There is a huge, I mean HUGE pool of single available women in Taipei. Especially educated, professional women. The average Chinese/Taiwanese guy, is at best, an unintentional misogynist by western standards. Because of this, many, many Chinese/Taiwanese women refuse to destroy their quality of life by marrying one (Taiwan and Singapore depend on importing massive amounts of foreign brides to satisfy the demand for women who will marry a "traditional" Chinese/Taiwanese guy).


ha, this is just what I always tried to explain to my english ex ages ago who'd never ever been abroad. you nailed it well at the point that chinese/taiwanese guy is "an unintentional misogynist by western standards". you say it for me though he would never know what i really mean to say...


I am going to call horseshit on parts of the message above. I don't deny that there are lots of available women, but to insult Chinese males and say they are too traditional and unable to attract professional women? That is BS and borderline racist.

If anything, economics and 5000 years of glorious history make the Chinese male more of a catch than the English teacher that is deep in debt. First of all, they understand the culture and language and can interact better with the girl's parents. Second of all, they usually have more educational diversity and have been educated in professions outside of the buxiban, and last of all they often have substantial family money if they live in Taipei and are professional, meaning they aren't foreign teachers attracted by jobs that have little benefit packages and that often aren't increased to match inflation. Furthermore, many of these education migrant workers send money back to pay student debt or to support parents in council estates or old age homes.

Hell, many of these people will spend 10 percent of their just over 20 K annual salaries to fly back to Canuckistan, Saffieland or to engage their addictions in Thailand.

Now there are open minded women that decide to have relationships with foreigners and that is cool. But don't slag the locals because they could easily slag most (not all) foreigners.
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Re: Taipei Dating Sites

Postby bismarck » 27 Nov 2012, 14:25

ChewDawg wrote:
liskeard wrote:
But first, some background. There is a huge, I mean HUGE pool of single available women in Taipei. Especially educated, professional women. The average Chinese/Taiwanese guy, is at best, an unintentional misogynist by western standards. Because of this, many, many Chinese/Taiwanese women refuse to destroy their quality of life by marrying one (Taiwan and Singapore depend on importing massive amounts of foreign brides to satisfy the demand for women who will marry a "traditional" Chinese/Taiwanese guy).


ha, this is just what I always tried to explain to my english ex ages ago who'd never ever been abroad. you nailed it well at the point that chinese/taiwanese guy is "an unintentional misogynist by western standards". you say it for me though he would never know what i really mean to say...


I am going to call horseshit on parts of the message above. I don't deny that there are lots of available women, but to insult Chinese males and say they are too traditional and unable to attract professional women? That is BS and borderline racist.

I got up to here and I was thinking, "Bravo!" Then you lost me with the all English teachers are scum tirade.

ChewDawg wrote:If anything, economics and 5000 years of glorious history make the Chinese male more of a catch than the English teacher that is deep in debt. First of all, they understand the culture and language and can interact better with the girl's parents. Second of all, they usually have more educational diversity and have been educated in professions outside of the buxiban, and last of all they often have substantial family money if they live in Taipei and are professional, meaning they aren't foreign teachers attracted by jobs that have little benefit packages and that often aren't increased to match inflation. Furthermore, many of these education migrant workers send money back to pay student debt or to support parents in council estates or old age homes.

Hell, many of these people will spend 10 percent of their just over 20 K annual salaries to fly back to Canuckistan, Saffieland or to engage their addictions in Thailand.

Now there are open minded women that decide to have relationships with foreigners and that is cool. But don't slag the locals because they could easily slag most (not all) foreigners.

That said, I still agree with many parts of what you said. Many local guys are decent solid guys that would be considered a good catch. The ones I know generally treat their ladies like princesses, and they definitely have a huge advantage in the cultural and linguistic stakes.
But there are also some real heels. For the same measure, it's also true of ESL teachers. Some are in solid stable careers and do very well for themselves. Others are more like what you describe. Bit of truth on both sides.

I'd rather say there are plenty of eligible women about, and if you're a decent solid type that can offer some form of security you can't but do well.
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Re: Taipei Dating Sites

Postby Ducked » 17 Dec 2012, 12:51

bismarck wrote:
ChewDawg wrote:
liskeard wrote:
The average Chinese/Taiwanese guy, is at best, an unintentional misogynist by western standards. Because of this, many, many Chinese/Taiwanese women refuse to destroy their quality of life by marrying one).

I am going to call horseshit on parts of the message above. I don't deny that there are lots of available women, but to insult Chinese males and say they are too traditional and unable to attract professional women? That is BS and borderline racist.


I got up to here and I was thinking, "Bravo!" Then you lost me with the all English teachers are scum tirade.

I'd rather say there are plenty of eligible women about, and if you're a decent solid type that can offer some form of security you can't but do well.


Dunno, I thought his post was pretty balanced. He makes it quite clear that its a generalisation, but as such, its pretty unassailable.

The majority of foreigners here are in transient, and/or relatively insecure/low paid jobs. This doesn't make them "scum" (as I understand the term) but it does make them financially-challenged. Re "scum", a lot of them are relatively young and may tend to be subject to yellow fever, making them fidelity-challenged.

I've got the first problem. I'm probably too old for the second one to be a big deal, but that makes me longevity-challenged. I understand my girlfriends parents hostility.
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Re: Online Dating - Taiwan

Postby tommy525 » 18 Dec 2012, 00:58

the truth is local dudes are much like foreign dudes under the skin. And local women are the same. Just peeps afterall.

IM hapa/hapa and I know the real story. There aint much different. Its all up to the individual.

And while there may be a huge pool of women/ladies in taiwan who MAY be single, it doesnt mean that they are EASY necessarily to meet or for a relationship.

Many of them are single because they live in a closed world where they are inaccessible. And many because they have been single most or all of their lives are pieces of work that need a lot of rehab to become good mates. A lot of them are not easy to work with.

There must be many hidden gems though, but they are hidden.

And some, by the way, have ZERO sex drive. And thats why they are single.
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Re: Online Dating - Taiwan

Postby Mah Cherie » 03 Jan 2013, 15:53

Hi there!
I may gues you arrived in Taiwan already...How is Taiwan? I am Female and interesting to have more friends....Cheers!

gsm wrote:MODERATOR NOTE: This thread is about ONLINE DATING. It's NOT about "You're such a loser if you cant pick up guys/gals in a bar". Please keep it on-topic. Xie Xie.

Are there any good sites for Taipei where one can meet girls. I am moving to Taiwan later on this year so I will be on my own and I wanted to try and make friends with people who will be around where I will be at. This way I won't be completly on my own. The other question is how hard is it for a single white male who has had no kind of dating experience ever to find a date. I will be doing IT work and I will have my own 1 bedroom apartment. But I have no experience with girls. What can I do to prepare my self before I arrive. I should point out that I moving after the second week in september
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Re: Online Dating - Taiwan

Postby noamchomsky » 28 Jan 2013, 13:00

what is the largest local (in Chinese) Taiwanese dating site?
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Re: Online Dating - Taiwan

Postby Brendon » 30 Jan 2013, 00:39

noamchomsky wrote:what is the largest local (in Chinese) Taiwanese dating site?


I have a feeling I'm drunkenly forgetting some obvious huge site, but certainly i-Part is very big (Yahoo bought a significant stake in them not long back, IIRC). ECFriend, a HK company, have been advertising heavily here for the last year or so and presumably have some users.

And of course mobile dating apps are very popular -- in particular Skout and iAround for straight people and Grindr and Jack'd for gay men. I'm sure there are lots of others I don't know about.
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Re: Online Dating - Taiwan - FINDarling

Postby alisier » 31 Jan 2013, 03:58

If it's any help here is a completely free site if you want to meet Europeans:
http://findarling.com
I am the founder.
If you have any questions you can ask me.
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Re: Online Dating - Taiwan

Postby JamesMovieFanatic » 24 Jul 2013, 00:51

I've lived in Taipei and US for most of my life, and 4 other countries (Japan, Korea, Canada and Germany). I don't know about the statements of local Taiwanese guys have any truths to them, but here's what I've seen in my circle of the world:

1. Asian guys in general, to us foreigners (I'm an American with Chinese/French/Vietnamese background), have really bad reps in the western world (i.e. not good lovers, not passionate people, etc, etc)
2. Tiny percent Asian girls adore only non-Asian guys in their countries (just look at the ones after US military-foreign based guys) and would date them exclusively
3. Majority of Asian girls would only date Asian guys. It's just cultural and/or family culture
4. Asian guys have really hard time in Europe dating non-Asian girls, but those couples exist!
5. Asian guys have really really hard time casually dating good looking non-Asian girls in US (talking exclusively west and east coasts where I grew up), but in terms of marriage material, high end. I mean professional good looking non-Asian ladies LOVE to marry one/have serious relationships with one. I know personally because I've been approached by some in my life and I'm talking girls considered by my peer 'out of my league'.
6. Asian guys are highly treasured by the gay community worldwide, and that might have some negative effects on straight Asian guys dating world in western world. BTW, stop eating/drinking soy stuff, they have estrogen in them (soy sauce ok)
7. Asian-American guys are better lovers as most of my non-Asian female friends have stated to me and also most of them do unfortunately tell me their penis-size are average, but still better lovers than most of their non-Asian lovers. They just don't broadcast that.
8. Straight Asian guys worried too much about dating hot non-Asian girls in the western world. Not because non-Asian girls reject them (it is a myth, lots of them desire Asian guys), but non-Asian guys cock-blocking them, which I don't understand because why care about guys when your goal is dating girls? Hell, I've even converted a hot redhead friend to date Asian guys exclusively after I was her first Asian boyfriend (she dated all black guys and 2 white guys in her life).

Well, that's all I know.
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