Cultural differences - foreign woman/Taiwanese man dating

[SuperLaoshi]

Hi....I moved to Taiwan about six months ago and have been dating a local Taiwanese guy for a little over two months now. I have read a few other posts on this forum about foreign woman/Taiwanese man dating relationships, but I haven't quite seen any advice or experiences about basic cultural differences. It seems that in my boyfriend and my dating relationship lately we have been having quite a few "discussions" about our differences in thinking, and they seem to be cultural things and not personality differences. For example, in a Taiwanese dating relationship, my boyfriend tells me, the couple spends every possible minute of their free time together. Also in Taiwanese relationships, the girl doesn't show her emotions or show anger when she's upset, and she never yells. I'm also told that in groups, the girl is expected to give her boyfriend full attention and not talk to other people unless her boyfriend is at her side. Also she is not to share her food with anybody besides her boyfriend. I'm wondering if there are any other foreign women here in Taiwan who can share some advice or experiences with dating a Taiwanese man and any cultural differences you had to work out. Thanks....

[tomthorne]

Heh heh.

I must try that one with my Taiwanese wife. 'You must do everything I tell you to - it's my culture.'

[Chris]

For example, in a Taiwanese dating relationship, my boyfriend tells me, the couple spends every possible minute of their free time together. Also in Taiwanese relationships, the girl doesn't show her emotions or show anger when she's upset, and she never yells. I'm also told that in groups, the girl is expected to give her boyfriend full attention and not talk to other people unless her boyfriend is at her side. Also she is not to share her food with anybody besides her boyfriend.

Sounds to me like he's something of a control freak. Just my humble opinion.

[Northcoast Surfer]

Heh heh.

I must try that one with my Taiwanese wife. 'You must do everything I tell you to - it's my culture.'

I would like to try it, too. However, I would expect a chunk of firewood to smack me up against the side of my melon before the final syllable exited my lips!

[Tempo Gain]

Heh heh.

I must try that one with my Taiwanese wife. 'You must do everything I tell you to - it's my culture.'

I would like to try it, too. However, I would expect a chunk of firewood to smack me up against the side of my melon before the final syllable exited my lips!

My wife, I don't think she could manage it she'd be laughing so hard.

[Satellite TV]

Hi For example, in a Taiwanese dating relationship, my boyfriend tells me, the couple spends every possible minute of their free time together. Also in Taiwanese relationships, the girl doesn't show her emotions or show anger when she's upset, and she never yells. I'm also told that in groups, the girl is expected to give her boyfriend full attention and not talk to other people unless her boyfriend is at her side. Also she is not to share her food with anybody besides her boyfriend. I'm wondering if there are any other foreign women here in Taiwan who can share some advice or experiences with dating a Taiwanese man and any cultural differences you had to work out. Thanks....

Complete shite from a man with huge insecurity problems. I know some foreign lasses with local partners and they go out alone, spend a lot of free time without their SO hanging around like a lost puppy, share food with others, and talk to who they please.

You BF is just one of those do everything I tell you type just before he turns into one of those who stalk you if you break up, raid your emails, crack your facebook accounts, and talk shit behind your back, and treats you as if he owns you. Ask any taiense girl what their BF's are like, they all know A....holes like this one you describe.

RUN SuperLaoshi RUN

[Jaboney]

... in a Taiwanese dating relationship, my boyfriend tells me, the couple spends every possible minute of their free time together. Also in Taiwanese relationships, the girl doesn't show her emotions or show anger when she's upset, and she never yells. I'm also told that in groups, the girl is expected to give her boyfriend full attention and not talk to other people unless her boyfriend is at her side.

Hi SuperLaoshi,

welcome to forumosa.
Now that we're friends, WTF are you doing with such a control freak??? Good god, girl. Get out of it. Change your phone number, and don't look back.


Seriously, who would put up with such abusive shit?

[Buttercup]

Guys who spy on you and act like control freaks are almost always cheating on you, btw. Ask any woman over 30.

[Tomas]

He is describing a highly idealized version of reality. There are very, very few Taiwanese women who behave as he describes, and those who do will often only do it for a short time, for whatever reason.

He honestly sounds like a very old-fashioned lad or someone who has watched way too many Mandopop music videos.

I'm not sure you need to run from him. Just tell him you think his culture is great but that he's full of shit if he thinks that is how modern Taiwanese guys and girls behave, and see how he reacts. If he's honest, he'll say "Yeah, you're right" and then you can dispense with the control freak stuff. A lot of guys think they want a docile littel cupie doll, but they don't really respect that. If he wants one of those, you probably have some decisions to make.

[nachoman35]

The guy needs to be fixed by a Taiwanese girl. They usually know how to handle them.