channamasala wrote:Have you ever had family members care more about your wedding than your graduate degree? Have you ever been told, by a doctor no less, "When you have children..." and having that doctor balk when you say "I don't plan to"? Have you ever had an insult openly lobbed at your weight, attitude, looks, life goals or personality and had it followed up with "no wonder she's still single" or "with that attitude she'll never get / keep a man" or "I feel sorry for any man she pins down"? Have you turned down someone's advances and been called a "bitch" because you weren't interested in giving him something he was not entitled to? Have you had your mother - your own mother - tell you "maybe your standards are too high" when you finally dump that loser guy? Have you ever watched single guys in their 30s get high-fives while you, at 28, get tongue-clucks and pity and "he'll come along, sweetie"? Ever been on the receiving end of BS like "well it's just natural that women want to pin down men/earn less in female-dominated industries/don't communicate well/are needy/are better off staying home with kids, that's NATURE"? Ever watched a fat, pompous cheating bastard win a presidential primary while a female candidate got eviscerated for her fashion choices and steely personality a few years earlier (I'm talking Hillary, not Sarah)?
Ever been a female expat who hears things like "Well those Western women just need to do [x] if they want to compete [with Asian women]?" while you sit there and think "Compete? For what prize?"
See, you see the modern world as treating women like shit. In many ways, I'd agree with you. However, I'd also argue that has occurred precisely as a reaction to many so-called "societal advances". Much of the advancement of women has come at the expense of the emasculation of men, be it in the media, the education system, the criminal justice system or the family law system. What is the modern positive role of the male? The traditional roles are out now because they're too sexist. So, what does that really leave a man but to be a deadbeat father, player or man child?
I have often wonderd if it is some kind of political ploy, if the ruling class wants the party to be the substitute daddy for all the kids, or maybe some plot to keep people poor.
GuyInTaiwan wrote:Non: I watched that Charlie Brooker video and part of another. Very funny.
Forumosans browsing this forum: No Forumosans and 4 visitors