Wynsen wrote:channamasala wrote:superguavaguy wrote:channamasala wrote:I wrote an entire blog post about this: http://laorencha.blogspot.com/2011/04/dating-advice-for-expat-women-from.html
A lot of people liked it. It got tweeted and such. Some people didn't like it. They can go screw themselves
(Although I admit I am not the optimal person to give advice, because within six months of moving to Taipei, I was in a relationship with a guy I met in college and had stayed friends with, and we're now married. So my experience is limited).
All seems like good advice, especially the part about not acting cynical and jaded. I think in a few more months I'll have attempted to contact nearly every western woman with an online presence in Taiwan. Have to admit that 1/2 or more of the women I've contacted didn't even write back. I've said before that western women need to be more open to the western guys that are trying. For those who want to be cheeky or assy, the women who didn't write back never even saw a picture of me, so it isn't about attraction.
Of course, that advice needs to apply to both genders: women don't want a man who acts all cynical and jaded, either. In men in Asia that tends to come across as "ugh those horrible Western women!" and it's just as unattractive. Both genders just need to try to be nice, normal decent people. I think most people do that, and a few idiots kind of ruin it and give everyone a bad impression. I married a Western guy who was living in Asia - of course I'd known him from way back - so clearly they're not all bad. I would have dated a Taiwanese guy if I'd met one I wanted to date in the brief period when I was single. There are some fine ones out there.
1st, your blog was an interesting read and thank you for writing that. And also, thank you for not knocking local guys and suggesting to others to keep the option open as there are quite a bit of good ones out there. I am sort of an ABC, both Western and local as I lived in Taiwan for 8 yrs before I skadaddled to the States. I'm just curious to find out what the dating scene will be like for me haha
How could I knock the local guys? Some of 'em are pretty cute! Some are even hot! They tend to be taller and bulkier than the guys in China and Japan so more attractive in my opinion (as I am Eastern European genetically and I look it, and I feel huge next to slight men). Besides, I have some Taiwanese male friends, some of whom are guys I'd recommend to Western girls as good men to date (not too traditional, respect women, have a body that would not be considered too slender/slight for Western women, outgoing, intelligent, nice guys with Western enough outlooks on life). Knocking the local guys would be knocking them, and I won't do that.