dating advice for white girls?

[GuyInTaiwan]

Teddoman: It's always hard to sort out the truth in these matters, but I think my ex-colleague was doing okay for himself. I can't say for sure, but I think he always had several women on the go at once. He was definitely a "bad boy", but that was also part of his appeal. He was quite a macho guy (sometimes over the top actually), in great shape and very aware of it/loved to engage in displays of physical prowess, tattooed, etc. Everything about him screamed "handle with caution", yet I'm also sure that made him quite exciting. I had a female friend who met him at a party I had. I warned her about him, but she didn't listen. The whole situation ended extremely badly for her.

As for the guys trying to get upgraded, maybe sometimes it works, but I suspect they're what's known as intellectual whores. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=intellectual%20whore

HH2: One only need look at the proliferation of the so-called love motels in Taiwan. It's a hilarious topic to discuss with Taiwanese because they so frequently deny the existence of a lot of sleeping around, yet none ever really offers a plausible explanation for the sheer number of love motels in Taiwan. I used to live in Taoyuan, and that place literally has one on every corner. I don't know what it is about Taoyuan that makes it possibly the sly shag capital of Taiwan. Actually, yes I do. It's that it's so incredibly boring and there's nothing else to do there.

[steelersman]

As for the guys trying to get upgraded, maybe sometimes it works, but I suspect they're what's known as intellectual whores. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... al%20whore

As I have always felt, if a girl is not into you the first time you meet, you are largely wasting your precious time.

[Teddoman]

About Taoyuan, where in Taoyuan County? The city? I spent some time in Zhongli and never noticed anything unusual.

They are so conservative on the outside but the average Taiwanese have or had so many secret love affairs it's not funny!

Maybe it has something to do with the fast changes in dating sex and marriage practices on the island in just a couple of generations. I'm still amazed there are older Taiwanese alive today whose marriages were arranged and hadn't even met their spouses but a handful of times prior to the wedding day, much less any kissing or anything else. Huge difference with today.

As I have always felt, if a girl is not into you the first time you meet, you are largely wasting your precious time.

This is not how young Taiwanese people think, and that's probably not a good thing.

Having to work too hard to pursue a woman is also good evidence that she believes she's in a better league for whatever reason. Which leads to an unequal relationship and lack of respect for you. No woman is happy being in a relationship where she is "above" you somehow. She will extract her price on you in some other fashion by treating you like dirt or something else. Same is true in the reverse situation of a woman who likes a guy too much.

I think people are happiest in equal relationships. Relatively little pursuit required from either side during the dating phase is a decent proxy for measuring that equality.

[mukashi]

I believe I did wrote something in this thread like a year ago.

As a white woman living in Taiwan for 5 years... I succeeded
I was losing my hope, even adopted a cat, even though I was swearing I will wait with that to "30 and lonely", and I guess the cat worked as a charm

My bf is a Taiwanese, but he spent 2 years in US. And in a way I think this kind of "lived abroad" Taiwanese guys are still our hope here. I always was into Asian guys, I had few crushes on local guys, but they kind of always "friendzoned" me! (yeah it worked the other way around too!).

When a girl flirt, the guy just probably think it's the western people being "open", because after all in Europe we kiss and hug with friends to say "Hi". So it's not easy to flirt with them, seriously. But I made a pretty bitter post about the difficulties year ago, so now, how the success happened.

I met my bf online. There's a website I think connected to tealit somehow - http://www.heypersonals.com/welcome/
It is paid service, but I only use free option, and so did my bf. He was smart enough to look for my nickname in Facebook, though I put there a link to my other website where my e-mail could be found too. So there are ways around if you want them.
That websites is perfect in a way, and any dates I got in Taiwan, with Taiwanese or foreigners was through it. So I guess I can recommend it. People who are there, are looking for foreigners.

Well, surely we have some up and down with my bf, but I think they're more due to the male vs female differences, and generally after 9 months it's going well, and I am going to meet his family this weekend, which in Taiwan apparently is a big step, I was unpleasantly surprised how long it took my bf to do so... this might be a culture difference here.

wish me luck then, I love the guy a lot and he's all geeky, but that's what I like

[bismarck]

Great to hear your good news! Hope it keeps going well for you guys.

Well, surely we have some up and down with my bf, but I think they're more due to the male vs female differences, and generally after 9 months it's going well, and I am going to meet his family this weekend, which in Taiwan apparently is a big step, I was unpleasantly surprised how long it took my bf to do so... this might be a culture difference here.

Pretty normal. I've been with my girl for 10 months now and she only showed her mum a picture of me and told her I am her boyfriend about 3 weeks ago. She says we should still wait awhile until we decide whether or not we want o get more serious or not before I actually meet them. Good luck with the meet and greet!

[mukashi]

Pretty normal. I've been with my girl for 10 months now and she only showed her mum a picture of me and told her I am her boyfriend about 3 weeks ago. She says we should still wait awhile until we decide whether or not we want o get more serious or not before I actually meet them. Good luck with the meet and greet!

Thanks According to my bf I should be fine. I am told by my Taiwanese friend how to address them and I plan to bake a cake to win them over Not many Taiwanese girls my age can do that

Agnes

[Teddoman]

wish me luck then, I love the guy a lot and he's all geeky, but that's what I like

Nice...for the geeks shall inherit the earth.

I plan to bake a cake to win them over Not many Taiwanese girls my age can do that

The best defense is a good offense! Plus, first impressions and all

[mukashi]

Thanks

Well, I am just worried because I heard so many stories of fully Taiwanese and mixed couples having troubles thanks to the parents who thinks one side is not good enough for their beloved sons/daughters that I am a little worried. But my bf seems like a perfectly normal person so I guess his parents can't be to crazy.

Any stories of your own about the "meet my parents" in Taiwan?

[tommy525]

Every kettle has a lid. Goes to show theres hope for everyone

[bismarck]

Thanks

Well, I am just worried because I heard so many stories of fully Taiwanese and mixed couples having troubles thanks to the parents who thinks one side is not good enough for their beloved sons/daughters that I am a little worried. But my bf seems like a perfectly normal person so I guess his parents can't be to crazy.

Any stories of your own about the "meet my parents" in Taiwan?

It doesn't matter whether you're Taiwanese or a foreigner. Parents here have a very good idea of what kind of partner they want their kids to match up with, and even if someone is Taiwanese, they may still not fit the bill. That happens a lot here too, and percentage wise may be just as much or more than Foreigner+Taiwanese hook ups.
That's why most couples here wait so long before they introduce their partner to their parents.