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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby Northcoast Surfer » 30 Sep 2010, 17:02

Mother Theresa wrote:it's my understanding that datem, dickem and dumpem is more likely to result in trouble here than in the West.
I completely agree with this. However, I've always known it to be "belonging to the Four Fs Club". Perhaps that's just an exclusive Marine term. Anyway, there seems to be an expectation from Taiwanese women that one roll in the hay constitutes a steady relationship. In fact, based on some posts I've read even a kiss after a single date qualifies as a boyfriend girlfriend expectations in their minds. When it doesn't work out to their expectations and loss of face occurs.....watch out!
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby the chief » 30 Sep 2010, 17:37

jimipresley wrote:I'm kinda giggling at all the Righteous Indignation of some commentators. Like you NEVER went out at some time in your past, got drunk, took some girl home that you'd just met and shagged her? Woke up in the morning feeling like shite and realized that you weren't up for a life-time commitment with said ship in the night?

No, really. You guys are cracking me up! :roflmao:


You're forgiven on the grounds that you aren't a native speaker, and you ain't all that bright to start out with.

I don't see any Righteous Indignation, just people reacting to the OP's (apparent) wide-eyed ingenuous amazement that his actions might have actual consequence.
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby Chris » 30 Sep 2010, 18:04

jimipresley wrote:I'm kinda giggling at all the Righteous Indignation of some commentators. Like you NEVER went out at some time in your past, got drunk, took some girl home that you'd just met and shagged her? Woke up in the morning feeling like shite and realized that you weren't up for a life-time commitment with said ship in the night?

Usually (in the West at least) that "not up for a life-time commitment with said ship in the night" feeling is mutual!

Here in the wan, though, even holding hands can be interpreted as being in a steady relationship! Hence the PXJ stories.
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby freakkaerf » 30 Sep 2010, 18:19

Thanks again for all the help guys, it looks like the best answers so far were, record a conversation with her and me about the situation ( unless she sticks by her lie ), but at that point I can sue her for defamation of character or a false accusation as my friends have heard this rumor already.

I don't think I will bang her and get it on tap as I think I could end up in a world of trouble on that one.

Keep the ideas coming please.
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby Feiren » 30 Sep 2010, 18:29

It's a criminal offense to record people's conversation without their consent. Bad idea.
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby lupillus » 30 Sep 2010, 20:14

Feiren wrote:It's a criminal offense to record people's conversation without their consent. Bad idea.

Sure, you shouldn't secretly record a conversation other people are having without their knowledge, but that's not what we're talking about here.

AFAIK, Taiwanese law does not require consent from both parties in a conversation for recordings to be admissible as evidence, provided that the person who made the recording was an active participant of the conversation.
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby RobinTaiwan » 30 Sep 2010, 20:45

Feiren wrote:It's a criminal offense to record people's conversation without their consent. Bad idea.

Not if you are having the conversation. It's only illegal if you are listening on someone else's conversation.
Suing for defamation. Now THAT's a bad idea.
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby fenlander » 01 Oct 2010, 13:25

Find her boyfirend and communicate with him greek style
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby fenlander » 01 Oct 2010, 13:25

lupillus wrote:
Feiren wrote:It's a criminal offense to record people's conversation without their consent. Bad idea.

Sure, you shouldn't secretly record a conversation other people are having without their knowledge, but that's not what we're talking about here.

AFAIK, Taiwanese law does not require consent from both parties in a conversation for recordings to be admissible as evidence, provided that the person who made the recording was an active participant of the conversation.

There is a loophole to that law in Taiwan
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Re: After I stopped returning her calls, this is what happen

Postby Feiren » 01 Oct 2010, 13:56

Yes it is admissible if you are protecting a legal right and your actions are in proportion to the legal interest you are trying to protect. But even though it is admissible, it can still be a criminal invasion of privacy and the OP may have a tough time proving the she defamed him in the he said she did. He doesn't really have any evidence that she in fact spread this story and a recording is going to be open to interpretation. I still don't think this is a good idea. It's risky at best and unethical.
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