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Psycho Xiaojies

Postby Big Dork » 12 Oct 2002, 07:17

Original Title: Revenge of the Psycho Xiaojie

Ever notice how many Taiwanese women seek revenge on ex-lovers? You dump a chick and she stalks you, calls you, makes your life a living hell, gets you fired, destroys your furniture, pretends to committ suicide, goes apeshit.
Why do they do this here? In a western country this is considered insanity and restraining orders can ward off mad women. We're talking fatal attraction Taiwan style.
It's not only Taiwanese with foreigners, it's Taiwanese women doing this to Taiwanese men too, according to some. Even if you're coupled with a chick, they can't stand you to be away from them for five minutes. They follow you everywhere and suck the life blood from you.
I had never heard of so many incidents like these happening in my home country. Why is it so common here?????? Don't Taiwanese women know they only make themselves look sad and desperate when they act this way? Don't they know that the worst way to trap a man is to be devious and manipulating? Why can't they let go? Why are they always, always, always like this? Why?
When will they grow up and become real women, with real lives, and not be so dependent on a man's affections to value their self worth?
Yes, some of them may be cute, but they're evil. Is it worth it? You hear stories, and then it happens to you.
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Postby Mr He » 12 Oct 2002, 09:34

A lot of young girls here are immature, deeply insecure, have never been refused anything and don't know anything about how to keep a boyfriend when they finally get their hands on one.

Getting dumped by a boyfriend is often seen by local girls as more of a defeat that it would in the west. They therefore try to keep him under control as much as they can - even though they drive their boyfriend crazy in the process.

They will therefore go to great lengths to keep the miserable specimen they have, even if the opposite number has stated that he wants OUT!

Your options are:
1. Move (or leave the island). :cry:
2. Try to talk some sense into her.
3. Ignore her. She might give up in the end :lol:
3. Try to get in bed with her best friend/sister :wink: .
4. Call her parents 3-4 times a day and tell then that you have HIV and have had unprotected sex with their daughter :twisted: . (Just joking.)

That said, not all Taiwanese females are like that. The older more mature ones can be excellent as girlfriends or wives.
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Postby The Big Babou » 12 Oct 2002, 11:37

Oh man, I never thought I'd be one of those poor bastards who is would experience the wrath of the "psycho xiaojie"... Is the psychosis just intimidation or out-and-out revenge?

I recently went separate ways from the xiaojie (sorry to be non-pc & objectify, but it makes the whole ordeal much easier), but every week for the past month has brought a new form of retribution, including her screaming profanities in Chinese, Taiwanese and English at the top of her lungs in and out of my apartment. I had to profusely apologise to my housemates and neighbours. Actually, I'd never realised her vocabulary was so broad... Then there's the hundreds of phone calls, one after the other, at any time of day or night.
I've come home to find photo-albums destroyed, doors broken, my poor motorbike had the pulp beaten out of it... my friends have become her sworn enemies... What a headache.

Generally it's safer for me to get outa the house than to take the risk of being at home and having her grace our presence. I'm just hoping it's a passing phase....


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Postby Mark0938 » 12 Oct 2002, 11:54

Wow, Big Babou, that's a nasty situation, hope it works out. It could be worse, mind you, I have heard some horror stories. One bloke a few years ago had posters of his face, "This Foreigner is Evil" (or something akin) posted up all over the Shi-Da area, passports set on fire, etc.


Postby Flicka » 12 Oct 2002, 12:36

When Marie Clare magazine started a Chinese version here, the local publishers wanted to market it to the 20-25 crowd, instead of under 18 girls as in other countries. Why? Because of their lower maturity level.
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Postby Alien » 12 Oct 2002, 12:57

The Big Babou wrote:Generally it's safer for me to get outa the house than to take the risk of being at home and having her grace our presence.

Which is why you've been trying to harange me to go drink with you? Poor Babou. Gimme a jab at her! I scare the bejeezus out of Taiwanese women. Ask my friend Peter B.
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Postby Poagao » 12 Oct 2002, 13:08

Alien wrote:I scare the bejeezus out of Taiwanese women.

That would explain all of the bejeezuz I see lying around on the street these days. And I thought it meant that we were going to have another big earthquake.
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Postby Mr. Science » 12 Oct 2002, 14:03

Whoever said women here are less mature hit the nail on the head. Western girls typically start dating in their middle teens. Here, half of them wait until they're through college. Lots of 30-year-old virgins, or even never been kissed.

There's a lingering social expectation that a women doesn't lose her virginity until she's married. Often honored in the breach, obviously, but they like to keep up the appearance. Dating a foreigner is considered prima facia evidence of lost virginity--a ruined reputation. So, shotgun time!
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Postby Flipper » 12 Oct 2002, 14:44

on the flip side, a lot of foreign men use the insecurity of the females to their advantage. what with their more developed dating skills and smooth lines, they find it easier to pick up on taiwanese girls than on girls back home. just gotta be really careful with choosing a local girl. I mean, one of the first things I think when i meet a girl is whether they're likely to go psycho.

though I do feel for the guys who were in caring monogomous relationships and got stalked when it didn't work out, I don't have as much pity for the guys who just pick up random girls at clubs and whatnot for a little action before dumping them and then get stalked.
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Postby Alien » 12 Oct 2002, 15:40

As a female voice on this subject, I'd like to add a few things.

Taiwanese men stalk, too.
Straight, gay, whatever.

I never heard of a single woman in the US to behave like this towards a man who broke it off. Not a one. Not even teenage girls. I'm sure there are some (on Jerry Springer, right?), but certainly, they would be considered mad and be forced to receive counselling if it got as out of hand as you see around here.

I suspect that it's not just about maturity. I suspect it goes somewhere in the realm of 'face' and defending face (revenge) is a big thing in this culture, it seems. Self-pity, face, revenge.
Perhaps insanity. Insanity due to the fact that there are so few outlets for people with psychological issues.
Such things aren't discussed at home, are they? School? No fuckin way...Where can people turn when they feel like they're losing control? Nowhere.
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